Hey, just to throw in my two cents....
Yes, there are games that are played at the store. The SAs want you to buy other things before offering you a B or K. But if you don't want to play, you can leave or just not play along! Luckily for me, I actually do like the other items they sell. Jewelry, SLGs, shoes, scarves, homeware, etc. And most of the time, I am not chasing a hard to find bag. I'm not even looking for a birkin or kelly at the moment, but just the other week, as I was paying for a pair of sandals on the 2nd floor of the BH store, I was told by my SA, "the fastest way to a B is to buy stuff here on the 2nd floor!". I just smiled and laughed...I didn't even ask for one.
In general, in all the stores I've been to, I was first eyed kind of cooly from afar. When I ask to see an item and can talk knowledgeably about leathers and colors as well as bag names, they start warming up to me. And by the time the whole visit is done, we are good chums. I have had both disinterested and friendly service in the same store by different SAs. If my regular SA is around, then I am taken care of. If they are not around, then it really depends on the SA that I approach. Sometimes they act disinterested, sometimes friendly. It's really just luck of the draw. I regularly shop in about 4 stores now and I am generally recognized by the staff. I wouldn't say I have ever been spoken rudely to so I feel rather fortunate. I sympathize with all those that have been mistreated and have shared their experience here. That isn't right and just isn't the decent way to treat anyone.