Secret Jewels- How many? How do you finally reveal?

Secret Stash

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#31
I don't buy jewelry and hide it from my DH, but I do from my family, lol!
I prefer my jewelry to be bought by DH, so naturally, he'll be knowing about those purchases :D
But he's generous and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable around his parents or the rest of our family who doesn't have the same 'luxuries' as we do :shame:

Clothing, shoes, bags. . . . THESE I 'smuggle' in and don't show DH all the time!
 
#32
I purchase many Costume Jewelry (Swarovski, Brighton) and Pandora Beads just like that anytime without planing...I don't hide it, but I don't even go ahead and keep showing everything to my hubby...
Whenever there is a BIG Purchase (jewelry/watch) we go together and he knows. Luckily for us, the priorities, Goals and the way things should function in house are pretty much same and we know each other's income. So even though I have a strong urge to buy Cartier and Rolex 10 different things on list pop up....
 
#33
VivianYY said:
DH told me it's ok to look but he doesn't want me to get it until our next anniversary or some other special holiday... He wants me to appreciate things and feel that if I keep buying jewelry one after another, I am not really appreciating it!? Does he have a point?
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no! :p ok... well.. maybe he has a small point. but not really! my boyfriend said the same thing, about getting me a piece I really wanted, and I pointed out that any day can be special--why wait for pre-determined dates to celebrate?! plus, holidays will make it harder/more expensive to buy sought-after things, anyway! and he quickly agreed, if money can buy some sort of happiness, then it's money well spent. money is worth nothing in itself, anyway!

if it makes me happy, he'll happily buy it for me. as for my personal purchases using my own money... geez, I'm so excited about those purchases I can't shut up! I can't wait to show him pictures of the item while I'm waiting for it to be shipped, or asking for his opinion on which color and such. he'd probably WISH I'd stop telling him about all my purchases! :laugh: no secret stash for me.
 
#34
VivianYY said:
DH told me it's ok to look but he doesn't want me to get it until our next anniversary or some other special holiday... He wants me to appreciate things and feel that if I keep buying jewelry one after another, I am not really appreciating it!? Does he have a point?
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Yes, he has a valid point. In the past I've bought pretty much whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. The more I bought, the less enjoyment I got out of the process of buying and from the item itself. For the past few years I've been really thinking through my purchases and purchasing much less. Now when I buy something new, be it jewelry, shoes, whatever, I get much more enjoyment out of the purchase.

I love cookies, but if I ate them every day at every meal, they'd no longer be special and I'd lose the enjoyment.
 
#35
Swanky Mama Of Three said:
I don't buy jewelry and hide it from my DH, but I do from my family, lol!
I prefer my jewelry to be bought by DH, so naturally, he'll be knowing about those purchases :D
But he's generous and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable around his parents or the rest of our family who doesn't have the same 'luxuries' as we do :shame:

Clothing, shoes, bags. . . . THESE I 'smuggle' in and don't show DH all the time!
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same here, my secret stash isn't from whomever i'm seeing at the time. but for me its a bit different. I am not married, not in a serious relationship. I do not expect the person i'm dating to buy things for me. i'm a grown women who has a career so I buy what makes me happy. for me my stash is from my family and friends, they know I love jewellery and whenever I have a new item they tend to point it out in a social setting which makes me uncomfortable when most of my friends my age are just getting into costume jewellery not fine jewellery. I love buying things for myself I find it empowering and I can afford to do so, so I do! sometimes I tell my friends and family what I pay, others I do not- especially my dad he would faint if he knew how much i've spent on jewellery LOL
 
#36
Mimster said:
My mom was like this as well. She had secret stashes of cash and jewels that my father didn't know about. I respect her strong independent mind for justifying that the purchases were from her hard earn money but I also know that my father knew about it but didn't say anything all those years. He wanted to keep the peace in the family.
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Do you have a secret stash or have you learned not to?
 
#38
You know, I used to 'not tell' DH about some purchases but later came to the conclusion, 'whats the point?' No offense to anyone who does but me personally, I feel like I'm being dishonest if I were to do it now.
 
#39
I have a secret cash stash that my family doesn't know about...I also buy things and don't tell them the full cost just because I know a fight will be inevitable if I disclose the actual cost of something. I don't hide things but I might hide the box for something if it is a brand name item or if it's pandora put it on my bracelet and wait until they notice.
 
#40
I have a small but sparkly secret stash!

I just ... he's very very financially responsible (bless him, I'm glad he is!) and is NOT into fancy anything ... and so there is no way I can see him buying me a VCA necklace or something until every financial obligation is paid off (mortgage, RRSP's etc). We've had a few good years, my company especially... and at some point during my 2nd pregnancy, having never bought myself jewelry before, I kind of snapped and started! Slippery slope!! I had a really rough delivery with my 2nd and I just felt like if I wanted to treat myself with something that reminded me of her birth I should. And the things I like... well, he would not consider them good investments!! ;)

I just tell him I bought something for him to give me for a holiday like Mother's Day or my birthday and he's sweet, he doesn't question it too much... he's great that way! SO glad he doesn't know what things like love bracelets COST or my goose would be cooked!!!

Funny about moms too... my mom has very little jewelry - a few good pieces... I don't think SHE lusts after jewels that much but I saw how hard it was for her to get my dad to agree to get her something like a gold watch or anniversary ring... and I guess part of me rebells against that and thinks I don't need the decision by committee on everything I want!

Plus... I can pass it all down to our girls one day! :) (how's that for an enabler!)
 
#42
I think I am rebelling now. In the next few months I will be married and I know our money will be joined; so, I know my jewelry wardrobe will not be growing any time soon. As a result of this, I feel that if I do not get it now, then I will never obtain anything. My DF does treat me well; however, I do have to ask for things and sometimes push for things. Even though it will be our money and both of us work, I know I will not be able to get the items I desire any time soon.
 
#44
i voted 'why would u ever have a secret stash' only because my husband and i made a promise to each other that makes sense for our budget. we can buy anything we want up to a certain amount, and then after that amount we need to let the other know we're thinking of purchasing ______ and that it's over the agreed-upon amount. it just keeps us in the loop of what's going on with our finances and keeps each other in check in terms of when we're getting out of control with buying too much....
 
#45
I guess my only secret would be WHERE I got the jewelry from, not whether I have it or not. I see no reason to hide anything I bought. But I have a nice necklace from an ex that once in a while wear b/c it's a pretty necklace and not for sentimental reasons. I would never date that guy again, but wouldn't want to make my SO uncomfortable to see it on me. It means nothing but I like the necklace.

One thing I'd be afraid to tell my SO is how much I have spent on makeup, clothes, skincare, bags. I don't care if he sees these things, but I buy pricey skincare and cosmetics. He just wouldn't understand! LOL He probably doesn't even want to know. :)
 
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