Secret Jewels- How many? How do you finally reveal?

Secret Stash

  • Secret Stash Is A Must? I have one!

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AntiqueShopper

AntiqueShopper

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#1
After reading Lily's thread, I started to wonder; how many of us have secret jewels? I know I have three-four pieces that my fh is not aware of at this point. I am not planning to add any more. I have no idea how to even bring them out. What do I say, "Look at my great new necklace!"?

So my questions are how many of us have a secret stash and when do you show it to your SO's?

BTW- My definition of a secret stash is purchasing a piece of jewelry without your SO's consent/knowledge and having to hide it from your partner for a period of time.
 
#2
^ Cool thread, it is obvious I have my secret stash of jewels. If he notices I will say they are fake... I don't plan on hiding them for long.
 
#5
I'm torn here. First, I don't think any woman needs to justify to her DH/SO how she spends disposable income. As long as it isn't threatening the budget or long-term financial goals, then it really isn't anyone's business. And I don't need to rush to my DH/SO everytime I buy something, either. I don't need to act like an excited school-girl and seek his approval for something, so I may not immediately tell him I bought something. That doesn't necessarily mean I am HIDING a purchase, though. I'm not ashamed of how I spend my/our money, so if he asks I will tell him.
 
#6
I can't lie to DH. What is the point? He sees and knows everything.
I guess I never understood the hiding it part. Would your SO's be mad? Is it thier money?
I am not being snarky at all, I really don't understand the need to hide it.
 
#7
HauteMama said:
I'm torn here. First, I don't think any woman needs to justify to her DH/SO how she spends disposable income. As long as it isn't threatening the budget or long-term financial goals, then it really isn't anyone's business. And I don't need to rush to my DH/SO everytime I buy something, either. I don't need to act like an excited school-girl and seek his approval for something, so I may not immediately tell him I bought something. That doesn't necessarily mean I am HIDING a purchase, though. I'm not ashamed of how I spend my/our money, so if he asks I will tell him.
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I agree, hence my post. I always see this in all the foums and I once thought I should do it too. I don't understand it. Maybe this thread will help me to understand. I spend my own money. If I spent his, wouldn't he know anyway? LOL.Please explain ladies. :smile1:
 
#8
Personally I feel a bit guilty because I didn't stick to my resolution, I "promised" no more diamonds for my own personal reasons because I feel I do have an addiction and it hard for me to say no. I find myself looking for jewelry everyday, and I thought I could handle it, or replace diamonds with other less expensive semi precious gems, but I failed.
I'm keeping this a secret because of my personal failure.
Replace the jewels with word cigarette and you'll probably get my drift.
 
#9
sjunky13 said:
I can't lie to DH. What is the point? He sees and knows everything.
I guess I never understood the hiding it part. Would your SO's be mad? Is it thier money?
I am not being snarky at all, I really don't understand the need to hide it.
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In my case, it is my money. I would not spend his money on items without discussion. We are engaged; however, he would not be thrilled with me if I just said, "Hey, I bought a necklace! Wanna see?" I am not spending money that we do not have or I have not earned. I just like to treat myself once in a while. (BTW- all three items that are hidden in total cost are less that $700.00).
 
#10
lily25 said:
Personally I feel a bit guilty because I didn't stick to my resolution, I "promised" no more diamonds for my own personal reasons because I feel I do have an addiction and it hard for me to say no. I find myself looking for jewelry everyday, and I thought I could handle it, or replace diamonds with other less expensive semi precious gems, but I failed.
I'm keeping this a secret because of my personal failure.
Replace the jewels with word cigarette and you'll probably get my drift.
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I agree with this. Jewelry is my addiction as well. There is a reason I spend time on The Purse Forum :graucho:. I do not consider it a failure, but a sparkly bump in the road (lol- just like an addict).
 
#11
Ummmmm, have to admit that I have purchased items (yes, as in plural and not just jewelry) 'under the radar'. Though most purchases are done with the knowledge of my hubby, who is very generous, some are not.
 
#13
lily25 said:
Personally I feel a bit guilty because I didn't stick to my resolution, I "promised" no more diamonds for my own personal reasons because I feel I do have an addiction and it hard for me to say no. I find myself looking for jewelry everyday, and I thought I could handle it, or replace diamonds with other less expensive semi precious gems, but I failed.
I'm keeping this a secret because of my personal failure.
Replace the jewels with word cigarette and you'll probably get my drift.
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Ok, I understand this, it is an addiction for you!! LOL. An expensive one. So you have kept it a secret, but not other things. I guess pople do this with all types of things. MY DH was secretly smoking! I was pissed, lol.
AntiqueShopper said:
In my case, it is my money. I would not spend his money on items without discussion. We are engaged; however, he would not be thrilled with me if I just said, "Hey, I bought a necklace! Wanna see?" I am not spending money that we do not have or I have not earned. I just like to treat myself once in a while. (BTW- all three items that are hidden in total cost are less that $700.00).
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Ok. Thanks! He feels you should be saving?


Now I wouldn't mind a sugar daddy jewelry lover! :laugh:
 
#15
sjunky13 said:
Ok, I understand this, it is an addiction for you!! LOL. An expensive one. So you have kept it a secret, but not other things. I guess pople do this with all types of things. MY DH was secretly smoking! I was pissed, lol.


Ok. Thanks! He feels you should be saving?


Now I wouldn't mind a sugar daddy jewelry lover! :laugh:
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He rather me save that money. Personally, jewelry is my only spending. In the last six months I bought two shirts only. I do not really add to my wardrobe that often.
 
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