I understand what you mean.
One of the hard things about engagement rings is the feeling like you are going to have it forever, so you better pick right!
Sometimes we become infatuated with a certain idea, because we think that the item or thing we want will "complete" us, and we won't be complete with out it. When we get infatuated, we can only see the positives, and not the negatives, and our perceptions can get unbalanced. In reality, everything has positives and negatives, and nothing is perfect, it just is. Try thinking of some negatives of your dream ring.
For instance:
- Boring
- New, not antique (lacks history and character)
- A trophy object, rather than a sigh of true love
Sure, most of us would all love the big rock to prove that we are a princess in a fairytale, but at the end of the day this is just one dream that we buy into, and there are heaps of other versions of reality. A more modest, antique ruby and diamond cluster might show a little more character and personality, and might in the end be more "you" than an ideal to which you are trying to live up to.
It depends on the person you are. You need to consider what your values really are. If they include a little bit more glitz and glamour than your husband, you need to consider that that is the person who you are. You need to deside how much of yourself you are willing to sacrifice for love. At the end of the day - "I y'am what I y'am"! Don't compromise, if that is your true ideal.
There is a saying - the poor man buys twice - meaning that if you don't get what you want to start with, you will spend twice as much money down the track when you go back to buy what you wanted in the first place.
Another thing - if it is really important, tell your fiance that you want it for your 5th or 10th anniversary, and save up for it as a replacement. How exciting!
One of the hard things about engagement rings is the feeling like you are going to have it forever, so you better pick right!
Sometimes we become infatuated with a certain idea, because we think that the item or thing we want will "complete" us, and we won't be complete with out it. When we get infatuated, we can only see the positives, and not the negatives, and our perceptions can get unbalanced. In reality, everything has positives and negatives, and nothing is perfect, it just is. Try thinking of some negatives of your dream ring.
For instance:
- Boring
- New, not antique (lacks history and character)
- A trophy object, rather than a sigh of true love
Sure, most of us would all love the big rock to prove that we are a princess in a fairytale, but at the end of the day this is just one dream that we buy into, and there are heaps of other versions of reality. A more modest, antique ruby and diamond cluster might show a little more character and personality, and might in the end be more "you" than an ideal to which you are trying to live up to.
It depends on the person you are. You need to consider what your values really are. If they include a little bit more glitz and glamour than your husband, you need to consider that that is the person who you are. You need to deside how much of yourself you are willing to sacrifice for love. At the end of the day - "I y'am what I y'am"! Don't compromise, if that is your true ideal.
There is a saying - the poor man buys twice - meaning that if you don't get what you want to start with, you will spend twice as much money down the track when you go back to buy what you wanted in the first place.
Another thing - if it is really important, tell your fiance that you want it for your 5th or 10th anniversary, and save up for it as a replacement. How exciting!
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