I don't think SH is racist, BUT she knows what she's representing, what's at stake, what the issues have been since malicious M stirred-up sh*t. Why labour a point? Why touch a stranger's hair? Why not listen to someone you're talking to?
I have absolutely no doubt this woman could have been equally rude to any pleb of the hoi polloi, you or me included. Aristos are not known for their inclusiveness or kindness talking to the lower orders. Speaks of snobbishness "I know better than you, even about you" that's what SH was saying, push, push, push and dominate, as the one asking the questions usually is. As a host/hostess it not done, not etiquette, not nice to make your guests feel small, awkward or uncomfortable. She failed in her role.
it's incredibly rude to push your point like a cross-examination when clearly the other person is uncomfortable or thinks they've answered a question.
It's all symbolism and appearances at these things. It's not (just) about how things were, it is about appropriateness and appearances. BRF what right to to let her go. This is a important time for KC and the BRF leading up to the Coronation, H&M are constantly trying to undermine his family, that's all they've got. Whatever this Lady's past service (nice job to have if you ask me) anyone giving H&M ammunition to hit the BRF with needed to be shown the door.
Now someone has gained sympathy and a whole heap of publicity for herself and is seen as some kind of hero for attending an event, why, for having been talked to the way normal people have been talked to for centuries.
I have absolutely no idea what, what Ngozi wears matters. She answered Hussey's question politely enough. Ngozi tries to help victims of domestic abuse most days of the week, I'm sure she's not on may designer brands PR list and she has other priorities. I feel sorry for her, she has my sympathy, but I didn't like the way she handled things either, she could have complained internally to the Palace first without embarrassing her hosts and everyone else at/organising the party by broadcasting the conversation interrogation.