Well, well. Read this whole thread and vacillated between

and

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Just think how many things are allowed but not ‘okay’. There’s no law against Karla cheating on her boyfriend (at least not in the First World). It’s not illegal for Bill to drink himself to death in front of his grandchildren. The law in many places exempts food animals from cruelty laws.
So if the owner doesn’t care, is it a problem if the employees play football with a chicken on their break? Hint: even if it’s not illegal and the owner tells you it’s okay, IT’S NOT OKAY. It doesn’t matter what the policy is. It’s wrong.
Yes, returning a coat two years later IS not as godawful as kicking an animal for fun. Clearly. But we invite silly comparisons by making a silly assertion that the reason something we want to do at a business isn’t wrong is because there isn’t currently a rule against it. If the only reason it’d be wrong is if the business owner objects...poor chicken.
Some made sure we saw how different THEY are from the OTHERS, the REAL rubes, because keeping whatever in the box for three years isn’t anything like returning ripped party dresses and pants a kid pooped in.
But the argument is ‘hey, if the store decided they’d take it back, I’m not unethical for partaking of something (a return) they agreed to do’. Well then neither are those other people. The store took back shoes Jessica wore, threw up on and broke a heel off of at the eighth club she hit, so Jessica’s also not making an ethically impoverished decision either in presenting crusty, broken shoes for a refund/replacement two years later, by the logic previously offered as justification. They took them.
So if some part of me does think Jessica did something unethical, then I know the standard has to be something other than or in addition to ‘well, they took it back so how unethical can it be’.
Ethics and morals are for minor situations too, not just deciding whether to beat your kid or murder your wife or not.
And I’m not saying returning is never okay. Even if you tried it on. If you try something on in store, it doesn’t oblige you to buy it because it’s now used, right..?
There’s legitimate reasons, timeframes and situations to return in the right!
I agree employees better not be belittling/degrading anyone. But expecting no eyerolling from us free agents is...well...

If I’m dragging in my goods five years later and can’t understand why no

from my fellow consumers, I have an eye roll coming. Whatever gets you through the night, though, as the songwriter once said.
This thread was a fascinating read, very interesting. Tip o’the hat to ye. And off I go.
