I almost forced my husband to buy a man's bag because I was fed up to carry his keys and wallet in mine. Needless to say, he was very much against the idea, but I chose with him a very manly, no-frills bag and now he is happy and find it very useful. Also, under no circumstances he can be mistaken for a gay guy, and even if he was he's quite big enough to take care of the situation (over 6' tall and broad-shouldered)
Men carrying a purse or handbag
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I slept with this guy once. He was 6'5", broad-shouldered and had a girlfriend. He didn't carry a bag with him, and it's not obvious by the way he spoke or acted that he liked boys, too.
(By the way, if it's not obvious by my username, I am a guy.)
Here's my imPROPER man with a couple of his bags. He's a manly-man even with his bags, earrings and boyzilian, I wouldn't want him any other way.
I'd like to quote Rachel Ray:
YUM-O! especially the boyzilian part.
OH MY LORD I"M TOTALLY BUYING SOMETHING FROM THERE!!!!!
i LOVE their tagline "they'll fight over it when you're dead"
PS. if i could get my husband to carry his OWN bag then *I* won't get stuck with his wallet and car keys in MY bag!!!
plus it would mean MORE bag shopping . YAY!
See! That's how I see it! My husband absolutely LOVES his bag now. If you ever talk to Dave, his wife or any family member- they will tell you that they get lots of requests from both men and women. After I got my husband his bag, I ended up getting myself one too. DH got the large briefcase in Tobacco and I got the medium briefcase in Chestnut. I use it mainly for business and travel but I could definitely see getting a small sized one and using it as a purse. They are definitely the best quality I've seen! Perhaps you should just buy one for your husband as a gift and maybe he will be convinced.
I think if I had waited until my husband said okay to buy one, we would have never gotten around to it. Now that he has it- he's not complaining.
Is it really that American men have a hangup with appearing feminine? I guess I'm not qualified to answer that, because my bf is British... he never wears a "man-purse" but he never has to - he either fits his stuff into his jeans pockets or his jacket pocket. (he also has the luxury of being able to wear jeans to work) I asked him whether he would be willing to wear a purse if he had to, say, wear fitted dress pants. He said he would probably bring a laptop bag.
He doesn't appreciate the aesthetic quality of purses at all (which is funny, because he's an artist), he views purses as being a "crutch" in a way, an infringement on freedom of movement, and he rejects fashion (he finds it extravagant, a waste of money, pointless - when he needs to go shopping, he insists on going to Ross, pulling out clothes here and there in his size and then taking them home w/o trying them on). So, he probably wouldn't buy/wear something called a purse (or man-purse) because it would be linked to "fashion" in his mind. Unless it was $20 at Ross.
I'm sure there are American men who feel the same as him.
It's annoying as hell though.
Here's my imPROPER man with a couple of his bags. He's a manly-man even with his bags, earrings and boyzilian, I wouldn't want him any other way.
Right on!
And he probably has no problem with your love of purses, right?
My boy needs to let go of his crazy hate of my purse/shoe love
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I think you have a very narrow minded view that if a guy carries a "man bag", he'll either be high maintenance, gay or self conscious regarding his looks, or a combination of the three. I also think that it'd be really shallow to end a relationship because your significant other bought a bag, but hey that's just me! Maybe you can enlighten me on your view. I'm shocked that you live in London especially with just about 8/10 guys walking past you everyday will be carrying a bag..?
I slept with this guy once. He was 6'5", broad-shouldered and had a girlfriend. He didn't carry a bag with him, and it's not obvious by the way he spoke or acted that he liked boys, too.
(By the way, if it's not obvious by my username, I am a guy.)
I love your comments! Actually, you could've ended it with that first sentence.
I had my DH look at a couple of these posts to get his opinion. He uses a Land's End canvas briefcase in Black for work . His mini messenger bag in nylon is for weekends. He used to be the "No self respecting man would ever have a man bag" type but since he has gotten older he needs more stuff than I do. So he has evolved to "Yeah I'm carrying one got a problem with that?" He looks extremely cute when my Seven year old asks him to hold her purse in purple with flowers and he does !!!!!