Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[880]

After trying on RTW pieces (a mix of pieces I’ve told her I was interested in and she also brings some pieces she thinks I might like), I find there isn’t a whole lot of time to check out other metiers that I wanted to check out.

@Gin&H , perhaps just tell your SA after such an appt or before the next one that you’d love more time to explore other metiers, and when can that be scheduled

 

[880]

just about how much money you spend, and it IS an interpersonal relationship.

💯 agree re interpersonal relationships. I do not spend as much as … well most of my TPF H shopping buddies lol. But I try to be low maintenance, pleasant, and not too demanding. And, I treat my friends and my SAs and pretty much everyone else with similar consideration.

An example of a very common text exchange might be this. SA just sent this text today re another summer hat request I made on Friday ( ie will this work on me)


I dont need or expect or wait around for an immediate response (I was just indicating interests for the next time we got together). If she has the hat or any thing else she thinks I might like, she will text asking if I can come in with a proposed time that’s good for her. (Please note that I don’t expect or ask or hint for a bag when I’ve asked for a hat She doesnt need a response from me more than an emoji back. She knows if she can get stuff in my size and price range, and if it looks good, I’ll buy it. She also knows that I don’t ask for anything specific unless I am seriously interested. I also indicated my sole concern via text (bc I have a large size 58 head for my height and girth):


Which is why she responded we can try. So no pressure to produce, no pressure to buy, either way. I’m also not going to get upset if (she was mistaken) and it’s gone by the time I get there. There will always be some other item. Sometimes, she has saved stuff for me for a few weeks until I’ve gotten back from trips.

It also matters in terms of ease and speed of her response that she knows I’m minutes walking from the store and in that area several times a week. So it’s incentive for her to respond.

Re scheduling: If I just want a few things, I might even just text, hey are you available in 15? And she might respond, come over, I’m free until x time. Which gives me an indication of how busy she will be. At no time ever does an SA juggle me with anyone else. If she is with someone when I get there, it’s no big deal. Things like coverage of walk ins happen.

I’m fortunate that my circumstances and schedule are flexible enough to accommodate these variables. And, I think this is part of why she enjoys me as a client. I want to reiterate that it still doesn’t give me a massive leg up on bags, so it’s important to love boutique merchandise.

Hope this helps some who are trying to figure out how to do the interpersonal relationship via text and IRL

ETA: BTW, when I see her, I will ask her is the H hat for the price three times nicer than this one from J&J hatters, and she will also give me her honest opinion. Bc you cannot shop successfully with an SA you do not trust. The flip side is I take her recommendations seriously. (If she says I have the perfect dress for you that fills a hole in your wardrobe, or the purple finesse shirt is better on your skin tone than etoupe, I trust her). I don’t automatically think is she saving etoupe for a better client and neither is she. Here is the j&J hat at a third the price or less:

 

[Gin&H]

@Gin&H , perhaps just tell your SA after such an appt or before the next one that you’d love more time to explore other metiers, and when can that be scheduled

@880 that’s a great tip! thank you!!!

 

[textilegirl]

💯 agree re interpersonal relationships. I do not spend as much as … well most of my TPF H shopping buddies lol. But I try to be low maintenance, pleasant, and not too demanding. And, I treat my friends and my SAs and pretty much everyone else with similar consideration.

An example of a very common text exchange might be this. SA just sent this text today re another summer hat request I made on Friday ( ie will this work on me)
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I dont need or expect or wait around for an immediate response (I was just indicating interests for the next time we got together). If she has the hat or any thing else she thinks I might like, she will text asking if I can come in with a proposed time that’s good for her. (Please note that I don’t expect or ask or hint for a bag when I’ve asked for a hat She doesnt need a response from me more than an emoji back. She knows if she can get stuff in my size and price range, and if it looks good, I’ll buy it. She also knows that I don’t ask for anything specific unless I am seriously interested. I also indicated my sole concern via text (bc I have a large size 58 head for my height and girth):

View attachment 6036688
Which is why she responded we can try. So no pressure to produce, no pressure to buy, either way. I’m also not going to get upset if (she was mistaken) and it’s gone by the time I get there. There will always be some other item. Sometimes, she has saved stuff for me for a few weeks until I’ve gotten back from trips.

It also matters in terms of ease and speed of her response that she knows I’m minutes walking from the store and in that area several times a week. So it’s incentive for her to respond.

Re scheduling: If I just want a few things, I might even just text, hey are you available in 15? And she might respond, come over, I’m free until x time. Which gives me an indication of how busy she will be. At no time ever does an SA juggle me with anyone else. If she is with someone when I get there, it’s no big deal. Things like coverage of walk ins happen.

I’m fortunate that my circumstances and schedule are flexible enough to accommodate these variables. And, I think this is part of why she enjoys me as a client. I want to reiterate that it still doesn’t give me a massive leg up on bags, so it’s important to love boutique merchandise.

Hope this helps some who are trying to figure out how to do the interpersonal relationship via text and IRL

ETA: BTW, when I see her, I will ask her is the H hat for the price three times nicer than this one from J&J hatters, and she will also give me her honest opinion. Bc you cannot shop successfully with an SA you do not trust. The flip side is I take her recommendations seriously. (If she says I have the perfect dress for you that fills a hole in your wardrobe, or the purple finesse shirt is better on your skin tone than etoupe, I trust her). I don’t automatically think is she saving etoupe for a better client and neither is she. Here is the j&J hat at a third the price or less:

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This is exactly how things go for me, with a smaller budget than most and the need to schedule my visits as I’m not close to my boutique. The advance notice gives my SA time to find things I’ve asked about or that might be of interest, but I’m shopping at Hermes for things that are clearly discretionary so if one thing doesn’t work something else will at some point.

 

[Love Of My Life]

💯 agree re interpersonal relationships. I do not spend as much as … well most of my TPF H shopping buddies lol. But I try to be low maintenance, pleasant, and not too demanding. And, I treat my friends and my SAs and pretty much everyone else with similar consideration.

An example of a very common text exchange might be this. SA just sent this text today re another summer hat request I made on Friday ( ie will this work on me)
View attachment 6036687

I dont need or expect or wait around for an immediate response (I was just indicating interests for the next time we got together). If she has the hat or any thing else she thinks I might like, she will text asking if I can come in with a proposed time that’s good for her. (Please note that I don’t expect or ask or hint for a bag when I’ve asked for a hat She doesnt need a response from me more than an emoji back. She knows if she can get stuff in my size and price range, and if it looks good, I’ll buy it. She also knows that I don’t ask for anything specific unless I am seriously interested. I also indicated my sole concern via text (bc I have a large size 58 head for my height and girth):

View attachment 6036688
Which is why she responded we can try. So no pressure to produce, no pressure to buy, either way. I’m also not going to get upset if (she was mistaken) and it’s gone by the time I get there. There will always be some other item. Sometimes, she has saved stuff for me for a few weeks until I’ve gotten back from trips.

It also matters in terms of ease and speed of her response that she knows I’m minutes walking from the store and in that area several times a week. So it’s incentive for her to respond.

Re scheduling: If I just want a few things, I might even just text, hey are you available in 15? And she might respond, come over, I’m free until x time. Which gives me an indication of how busy she will be. At no time ever does an SA juggle me with anyone else. If she is with someone when I get there, it’s no big deal. Things like coverage of walk ins happen.

I’m fortunate that my circumstances and schedule are flexible enough to accommodate these variables. And, I think this is part of why she enjoys me as a client. I want to reiterate that it still doesn’t give me a massive leg up on bags, so it’s important to love boutique merchandise.

Hope this helps some who are trying to figure out how to do the interpersonal relationship via text and IRL

ETA: BTW, when I see her, I will ask her is the H hat for the price three times nicer than this one from J&J hatters, and she will also give me her honest opinion. Bc you cannot shop successfully with an SA you do not trust. The flip side is I take her recommendations seriously. (If she says I have the perfect dress for you that fills a hole in your wardrobe, or the purple finesse shirt is better on your skin tone than etoupe, I trust her). I don’t automatically think is she saving etoupe for a better client and neither is she. Here is the j&J hat at a third the price or less:

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Not many that post here come from your perspective @880 with regard to interpersonal relationships, boundaries etc
& you don't come across as high maintenance rather relaxed & carefree
Many post here with unrealistic expectations & would like their SA's to respond immediately which
is not realistic.
Many also here have FOMO & that creates unrealistic expectations as well, JMO

 

[papertiger]

Let's keep this thread supportive to all members and on-topic please

 

[andforpoise]

Newbie here! I’m wanting to start my H journey, but I was wondering how to do about maintaining a good relationship with a SA when you don’t live super close to your nearest H store?

 

[acrowcounted]

Newbie here! I’m wanting to start my H journey, but I was wondering how to do about maintaining a good relationship with a SA when you don’t live super close to your nearest H store?

Tips: Pick a store you can visit in person at least a couple of times a year. Arrange shopping visits with your SA before your travel dates to make sure they have time for you. Order via text during the times you cannot visit. Keep your communications short and polite and to the point. Purchase everything you say you will, don’t make returns, and don’t be a reseller. Stay loyal to the one SA and store. Don’t be demanding and don’t talk about bags except in person. Good luck!

 

[andforpoise]

Tips: Pick a store you can visit in person at least a couple of times a year. Arrange shopping visits with your SA before your travel dates to make sure they have time for you. Order via text during the times you cannot visit. Keep your communications short and polite and to the point. Purchase everything you say you will, don’t make returns, and don’t be a reseller. Stay loyal to the one SA and store. Don’t be demanding and don’t talk about bags except in person. Good luck!

Thank you so much!

 

[Lookelou]

Tips: Pick a store you can visit in person at least a couple of times a year. Arrange shopping visits with your SA before your travel dates to make sure they have time for you. Order via text during the times you cannot visit. Keep your communications short and polite and to the point. Purchase everything you say you will, don’t make returns, and don’t be a reseller. Stay loyal to the one SA and store. Don’t be demanding and don’t talk about bags except in person. Good luck!

In a nutshell!!!

 

[Mrs.Hermess]

💯 agree re interpersonal relationships. I do not spend as much as … well most of my TPF H shopping buddies lol. But I try to be low maintenance, pleasant, and not too demanding. And, I treat my friends and my SAs and pretty much everyone else with similar consideration.

An example of a very common text exchange might be this. SA just sent this text today re another summer hat request I made on Friday ( ie will this work on me)
View attachment 6036687

I dont need or expect or wait around for an immediate response (I was just indicating interests for the next time we got together). If she has the hat or any thing else she thinks I might like, she will text asking if I can come in with a proposed time that’s good for her. (Please note that I don’t expect or ask or hint for a bag when I’ve asked for a hat She doesnt need a response from me more than an emoji back. She knows if she can get stuff in my size and price range, and if it looks good, I’ll buy it. She also knows that I don’t ask for anything specific unless I am seriously interested. I also indicated my sole concern via text (bc I have a large size 58 head for my height and girth):

View attachment 6036688
Which is why she responded we can try. So no pressure to produce, no pressure to buy, either way. I’m also not going to get upset if (she was mistaken) and it’s gone by the time I get there. There will always be some other item. Sometimes, she has saved stuff for me for a few weeks until I’ve gotten back from trips.

It also matters in terms of ease and speed of her response that she knows I’m minutes walking from the store and in that area several times a week. So it’s incentive for her to respond.

Re scheduling: If I just want a few things, I might even just text, hey are you available in 15? And she might respond, come over, I’m free until x time. Which gives me an indication of how busy she will be. At no time ever does an SA juggle me with anyone else. If she is with someone when I get there, it’s no big deal. Things like coverage of walk ins happen.

I’m fortunate that my circumstances and schedule are flexible enough to accommodate these variables. And, I think this is part of why she enjoys me as a client. I want to reiterate that it still doesn’t give me a massive leg up on bags, so it’s important to love boutique merchandise.

Hope this helps some who are trying to figure out how to do the interpersonal relationship via text and IRL

ETA: BTW, when I see her, I will ask her is the H hat for the price three times nicer than this one from J&J hatters, and she will also give me her honest opinion. Bc you cannot shop successfully with an SA you do not trust. The flip side is I take her recommendations seriously. (If she says I have the perfect dress for you that fills a hole in your wardrobe, or the purple finesse shirt is better on your skin tone than etoupe, I trust her). I don’t automatically think is she saving etoupe for a better client and neither is she. Here is the j&J hat at a third the price or less:

View attachment 6036696

💯. Easy peasy. I love this response. Nothing to add!

 

[iseebearbears]

I'm torn. I really want my B25 Touch Noir PHW most this year (I already declined the B25 in other specs more than once), with the Kelly Danse being a close second choice, but I was just offered a choice of Kelly Danse Ostrich Noir PHW, Kelly Danse Gold on Gold, and Kelly Danse Etoupe PHW, evercolor. The main issue is I don't want (cannot afford) to wait until the next price increase to get my B25.

 

[cravin]

I'm torn. I really want my B25 Touch Noir PHW most this year (I already declined the B25 in other specs more than once), with the Kelly Danse being a close second choice, but I was just offered a choice of Kelly Danse Ostrich Noir PHW, Kelly Danse Gold on Gold, and Kelly Danse Etoupe PHW, evercolor. The main issue is I don't want (cannot afford) to wait until the next price increase to get my B25.

Depends on how close of a second choice it is. Sounds to me like you’d be settling though, with how many you’ve declined. That usually leads to regrets.

 

[880]

I'm torn. I really want my B25 Touch Noir PHW most this year (I already declined the B25 in other specs more than once), with the Kelly Danse being a close second choice, but I was just offered a choice of Kelly Danse Ostrich Noir PHW, Kelly Danse Gold on Gold, and Kelly Danse Etoupe PHW, evercolor. The main issue is I don't want (cannot afford) to wait until the next price increase to get my B25.

Those are beautiful bags, but you will still want a B25 since that was your top choice

 

[iseebearbears]

Those are beautiful bags, but you will still want a B25 since that was your top choice

Of course I will still want the B25, but the exact specs I want may or may not be available soon.