Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[momoc]

It’s a client-sa relationship. The more I spend the more my SA likes me.

tbh that can be true in relationship-relationship too XD

It really is like dating. And just like dating, you can get a lot of advice but nothing beats the experience of infatuation, the fast beating of the heart, the suspense, the mystery. After you become fairly seasoned, you may look at those inexperienced with slight disdain at their naivete. Nothing beats the firsthand experience though. It may end in failure and frustration but it is worth a shot. Your wallet may protests but that is another matter. And what is dating without some drama

For sure I think it’s easier to relax once you’ve already got some bags, both because then you already have a collection and because you’d have an idea of how things work. Actually I remember someone on this forum who was having frustrations with their H “relationship” and decided to just get a couple dream bags preloved, which actually seemed to help make their store “relationship” smoother based on their postings afterwards.

Especially if one is the type who likes to plan things out to every last detail and have a completely mapped out timeline of when things should get done (hello my husband whenever we go on vacation!!) - I think it’s hard to not stress even if one logically knows they shouldn’t.

Plus of course, this whole “relationship” tends to require a lot of patience, which seems to be increasingly hard nowadays (there’s probably some commentary on the collectively shortening attention span, consumerism and instant gratification culture that can be made here but I’d be totally out of my depth).

This thread has me both hopeful and stressed haha.

My SA at least replied to my text asking to come in about shoes! However, she did not reply to a specific appointment time, just mentioned her day off during the week. The text felt distant; I am worried I may have to switch SAs if this next appointment/visit does not go well. Sigh.

Are you trying to book an appointment (sorry I didn’t go back to check prior context)? If so, I think it’s totally fine, just follow up and give your preferred time slots out of the days she’s working / ask what specific times would work on those days.

 

[squidneyau]

tbh that can be true in relationship-relationship too XD


For sure I think it’s easier to relax once you’ve already got some bags, both because then you already have a collection and because you’d have an idea of how things work. Actually I remember someone on this forum who was having frustrations with their H “relationship” and decided to just get a couple dream bags preloved, which actually seemed to help make their store “relationship” smoother based on their postings afterwards.

Especially if one is the type who likes to plan things out to every last detail and have a completely mapped out timeline of when things should get done (hello my husband whenever we go on vacation!!) - I think it’s hard to not stress even if one logically knows they shouldn’t.

Plus of course, this whole “relationship” tends to require a lot of patience, which seems to be increasingly hard nowadays (there’s probably some commentary on the collectively shortening attention span, consumerism and instant gratification culture that can be made here but I’d be totally out of my depth).


Are you trying to book an appointment (sorry I didn’t go back to check prior context)? If so, I think it’s totally fine, just follow up and give your preferred time slots out of the days she’s working / ask what specific times would work on those days.

Oh no worries! Previous context is I’ve only had two visits with this SA. The second one I turned down some wallets she had saved for me but then I stumbled upon a Roulis on the website. I am afraid I have misstepped with her by forgoing the wallets she showed me and impulse purchasing a Roulis slim online.

I am hoping to perhaps make amends by purchasing some shoes or maybe a blanket in the next few weeks. I asked what her schedule was like next week or the week after. She didn’t offer a specific day or time for me to come in when she replied, just that she was generally off on a specific day (such as Wednesday) every week. The lack of a response like “Why don’t you come by at noon next week on Tuesday?” etc has me a bit.. concerned? I’m probably over analyzing her response but I now feel more than ever I’ve made a mistake.

 

[acrowcounted]

Oh no worries! Previous context is I’ve only had two visits with this SA. The second one I turned down some wallets she had saved for me but then I stumbled upon a Roulis on the website. I am afraid I have misstepped with her by forgoing the wallets she showed me and impulse purchasing a Roulis slim online.

I am hoping to perhaps make amends by purchasing some shoes or maybe a blanket in the next few weeks. I asked what her schedule was like next week or the week after. She didn’t offer a specific day or time for me to come in when she replied, just that she was generally off on a specific day (such as Wednesday) every week. The lack of a response like “Why don’t you come by at noon next week on Tuesday?” etc has me a bit.. concerned? I’m probably over analyzing her response but I now feel more than ever I’ve made a mistake.

Definitely over analyzing. I’d reply with a simple “ok great, does 2pm on Tuesday work well for you then for me to stop by?”

 

[squidneyau]

Definitely over analyzing. I’d reply with a simple “ok great, does 2pm on Tuesday work well for you then for me to stop by?”

That makes me feel better. I’ll do that.

I just want a non-QB (specifically a pico) for Christmas. My store’s inventory leaves much to be desired.

 

[880]

Agree re the importance of not overanalyzing. a pico should be very doable, but I personally prefer not to set deadlines like holidays. The perfect color might come early or late. You will get there.

 

[squidneyau]

Agree re the importance of not overanalyzing. a pico should be very doable, but I personally prefer not to set deadlines like holidays. The perfect color might come early or late. You will get there.

Thanks for the encouragement! Maybe I will finally learn some patience playing this game lol

 

[880]

Say it loud; say it loud; say it loud!

unfortunately, although I make contributions, I think this thread perniciously contributes to all the wrong expectations
for all the benefits, that is the curse of social media as well

Agree. If one thinks of shopping as a game (with a win/lose/score mentality, or a bag as an entitlement or prize after a spend of x amount and y time, I think people may be disappointed.

 

[FrenchNewbie]

That makes me feel better. I’ll do that.

I just want a non-QB (specifically a pico) for Christmas. My store’s inventory leaves much to be desired.

I would casually mention just THAT at your next appointment. Just tell her that you would like a Picotin for Xmas and you are planning ahead, and you are fine with purchasing other items in the meantime while you wait. Most good SAs, if given notice, will try their best to accommodate you for special occasions.

Just last week my Vuitton SA offered me some limited edition LV Trainers with Swarovski Crystals ($3,800 ), because I told him I like rare items and I wanted something to celebrate an anniversary of a life event.

 

[squidneyau]

I would casually mention just THAT at your next appointment. Just tell her that you would like a Picotin for Xmas and you are planning ahead, and you are fine with purchasing other items in the meantime while you wait. Most good SAs, if given notice, will try their best to accommodate you for special occasions.

Just last week my Vuitton SA offered me some limited edition LV Trainers with Swarovski Crystals ($3,800 ), because I told him I like rare items and I wanted something to celebrate an anniversary of a life event.

Oooh please share pictures! Those sound wonderful.

Yes, I will for sure do that. I am hoping to go by next week so I will update everyone on how that goes!

 

[1CC]

Just some thoughts here. I feel the Hermes journey is definitely not for the faint of heart. It is long, filled with hills and bumps along the way. There will be times you are elated, and times where you are emotionally and financially drained. The more seasoned you are, the harder the ride becomes, but you also are more wiser. You come to accept the nature of the journey and you know when it’s the right time to get off because it’s just not worth it anymore.

The ride was like traveling in some bumpy backroad when I was offered a QB with the condition to buy a $10k+ fine jewelry at the same time. So I got wiser and got off the first exit

I compare it to a relationship with a boy who doesn’t know what he wants lolll. Do they like me? How much more should I put in before I give up on this relationship? Then you get a text or phone call from them and it makes you happy. Then silence and you don’t know what to do. You question every move you make lolll

Now imagine that bumpy ride in a relationship with a partner ... " I'll give you that if you let me do this " .... No effin way!!!! I enjoy H and the fine craftmanship but luxury shopping should not be manipulative

 

[addiCCted]

when I was offered a QB with the condition to buy a $10k+ fine jewelry at the same time.

Ballsy. How did they word that?

 

[1CC]

Ballsy. How did they word that?

straight up and direct

 

[Midge Maisel]

Ballsy. How did they word that?

Yes, @1CC, please tell us the story!

 

[WhiteBus]

straight up and direct

Asia, surely
at least you know where you stand

 

[acrowcounted]

Asia, surely
at least you know where you stand

I’ve actually heard of this happening a few times recently in the USA. “I have bag X for you to pick up and it would also be a good time for you to purchase that Finesse set you tried on last visit.” Or “you can come in and get X bag and I can help you find a nice Diamond watch of your liking at the same time”