Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[jenayb]

Yes, that’s the crazy part about it that I knew and didn’t want to make things difficult for my SA. So, I understood why she doesn’t allow me to take photos or video. No biggie for me, yet I understand some people would love to do that at the special moment of being offered their dream bag.

Funny how subjective this is like many H-isms… My SA allows pics, videos, whatever I feel like.

 

[A1aGypsy]

I imagine it can put the lie to: “we have no stock” if a customer is able to connect their attendance at a store with the timing of someone who DID get something and posted it on SM.

 

[maxroxxherhandbags]

Personally, I don’t mind no photos, no posting on social media. I mean just out of respect and not making things difficult for my SA.

however, I do see why some people would what to record a very special moment in their lives. It’s mot everyday someone is being offered a birkin or Kelly. The bag is not free as well.

I personally DON"T understand why someone would wish to 'show off' their purchase to all and sundry.
However I DO totally understand sharing that special bag purchase with ones close friends or loved ones.
You allude to the high price of the bag (or indeed Hermes items generally)which makes me all the more nauseated (strong word I know but in my case apt) by people showing off their expensive hard to get bag to total strangers to incite what?
envy? admiration?
To me its tacky and smacks of low self esteem having to shout to the world how much disposable income you have and what you chose to spend it on.
(should this be an unpopular opinion? probably!)

 

[Justlikewhatilike]

I personally DON"T understand why someone would wish to 'show off' their purchase to all and sundry.
However I DO totally understand sharing that special bag purchase with ones close friends or loved ones.
You allude to the high price of the bag (or indeed Hermes items generally)which makes me all the more nauseated (strong word I know but in my case apt) by people showing off their expensive hard to get bag to total strangers to incite what?
envy? admiration?
To me its tacky and smacks of low self esteem having to shout to the world how much disposable income you have and what you chose to spend it on.
(should this be an unpopular opinion? probably!)

I guess it’s different for different people.

I can share with you that there are many posts on Chinese social media that states that they don’t want to post where their friends and family may see it and become judgmental. Instead, they share with strangers anonymously.

 

[HerKelly]

Hi! I have question or two for those who have maintained their SA relationships and received offers from them. Does your SA really offer all of the sudden the bag (from your wishlist) contacting you via email/txt/phone call? Or do you by accident pop up to boutique to say hi to your SA and voilà, there is something nice for you.
Or do you send emails/txts as a reminder or updates to your wishlist?
Do you mind sharing where you live (continent or country) and how does this work for you, thank you.

 

[Justlikewhatilike]

Hi! I have question or two for those who have maintained their SA relationships and received offers from them. Does your SA really offer all of the sudden the bag (from your wishlist) contacting you via email/txt/phone call? Or do you by accident pop up to boutique to say hi to your SA and voilà, there is something nice for you.
Or do you send emails/txts as a reminder or updates to your wishlist?
Do you mind sharing where you live (continent or country) and how does this work for you, thank you.

I’m in Asia and after I met my pre spend, asked SA to verify /calculate, she asked what colours I would like or at times let me know which colours are easier to get. Takes order like in a restaurant. Then wait for months and months.

Sorry if it doesn’t sound too sexy.

 

[DoggieBags]

Hi! I have question or two for those who have maintained their SA relationships and received offers from them. Does your SA really offer all of the sudden the bag (from your wishlist) contacting you via email/txt/phone call? Or do you by accident pop up to boutique to say hi to your SA and voilà, there is something nice for you.
Or do you send emails/txts as a reminder or updates to your wishlist?
Do you mind sharing where you live (continent or country) and how does this work for you, thank you.

I’m in the US. Once when I asked for something extremely specific (I specifind the type of bag, size, a specific color, leather and hardware), my SA called me when it arrived. Some offers have come as a surprise and happened when I arrived for appointments I made to view other things. And for other offers my SA has called me and said xx just arrived, are you interested. Some offers were on my wish list general parameters, I.e. I asked for a specific size and color family but did not specify leather or hardware while other offers were not on my wishlist at all but my SA knows what I like so the offers that were not on my wishlist were nevertheless items that really appealed to me. My wishlist has evolved over time and I think at this point my wishlist is mostly unicorn bags that I’m not holding my breath for lol. If one or more of those unicorn bags ever show up, they’ll be a very fun surprise but if none of them ever get offered to me, it’s also fine. It helps to keep an open mind because I’ve been offered some things that I would have put on my wishlist if I had known they existed but since I didn’t know about them, I never asked for them. It’s all very casual. We hardly every discuss QBs. I never follow up on things I’ve requested and I don’t track the time in between offers. It all just happens during the course of my regular shopping.

 

[Sweetpea114]

May I ask how often should we bring up our wishlist? I’ve only brought it up once during my initial first visit and my SA did take down what I’d like. Since then, I’ve gone in a few times and for my next visit, I’ll be close to 1:1 spend in non leather categories as I’ll be purchasing a fine jewelry piece that I look forward to having and wearing.

 

[HerKelly]

I’m in the US. Once when I asked for something extremely specific (I specifind the type of bag, size, a specific color, leather and hardware), my SA called me when it arrived. Some offers have come as a surprise and happened when I arrived for appointments I made to view other things. And for other offers my SA has called me and said xx just arrived, are you interested. Some offers were on my wish list general parameters, I.e. I asked for a specific size and color family but did not specify leather or hardware while other offers were not on my wishlist at all but my SA knows what I like so the offers that were not on my wishlist were nevertheless items that really appealed to me. My wishlist has evolved over time and I think at this point my wishlist is mostly unicorn bags that I’m not holding my breath for lol. If one or more of those unicorn bags ever show up, they’ll be a very fun surprise but if none of them ever get offered to me, it’s also fine. It helps to keep an open mind because I’ve been offered some things that I would have put on my wishlist if I had known they existed but since I didn’t know about them, I never asked for them. It’s all very casual. We hardly every discuss QBs. I never follow up on things I’ve requested and I don’t track the time in between offers. It all just happens during the course of my regular shopping.

Thank you for sharing your experiences! Seems like you have very good SA who listens your wishes.

 

[millivanilli]

I personally DON"T understand why someone would wish to 'show off' their purchase to all and sundry.
However I DO totally understand sharing that special bag purchase with ones close friends or loved ones.
You allude to the high price of the bag (or indeed Hermes items generally)which makes me all the more nauseated (strong word I know but in my case apt) by people showing off their expensive hard to get bag to total strangers to incite what?
envy? admiration?
To me its tacky and smacks of low self esteem having to shout to the world how much disposable income you have and what you chose to spend it on.
(should this be an unpopular opinion? probably!)

naa funy as I shared today for the very first time what I have and what I don't have, so I totally agree. That said, my collection is really small compared to others, but never would I smack my bags into someones face. On SM people tend to do that and it repells me. (do you say that? It repells me? please give me a hint)

 

[melly412]

hi all, i need some advice if i should continue with my SA or not.
I started my relationship in oct, and ive spent 4.4k so far, on shoes, makeups, scarf. Everytime my shopping experience is around 30mins, shell get me the stuff or order it. She doesnt seem to conversate. My store is tiny and i always feel like its in and out. She has never asked me for my wishlist, and last time i ask for picotin she said itll be awhile and they dont have stock.

 

[millivanilli]

actually I personally think, if you are not happy.... At the end of the day it's your money you'll spend.

 

[OrangeRocks]

Hi!
This might be a bit out of social media topic. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
I’m fairly new to the H journey. I started out last October when we went to Paris for my bday. Granted, I was lucky enough to get offered Constance 24 gold GHW at FSH.

Since we’ve been back to NYC and starting to building up our profile/rapport here, at first we were at Madison Ave. we shopped there 3 times and 3 different SAs. We were trying to find the right SA that we can connect with but unfortunately it didn’t go as plan.

Then we decided to give it a shot at MP downtown (we live close by Madison). We hit it off with our SA there and she is now our go-to SA. She’s been wonderfully sweet and helpful.

For January alone, we saw her 4 times and got everything that we asked for.
(Minus my wishlist lol I’m still waiting for it)

Then Yesterday, she literally asked my DH about his name on the passport. She said her SM wants to match it with all our purchases that we made overseas. She said she can’t see it but her manager can pull up all transactions. Is this normal?

I thought US stores can’t see any transactions from EU or other countries??

And also, might sound stupid but when or how should I ask her about my wishlist? I know I can wait but I just wonder if it will take us a year or sooner.

thank you so much for your time!!!
x
R

That is new. Never heard of stories of SA’s asking for names just to match overseas record. Why would they want to do that? Is Hermes beginning to connect purchase history? Also why did the SM ask your husband for his name? Did she assume that your husband made purchases overseas under his name?

 

[DeryaHm]

That’s right! Well, some relationships are healthy, some not so healthy and some down right abusive…..lol

And some are mysterious. I’ve worked w SAs in a couple of different countries and even outside France several of them have first started talking to me in French although I start off speaking in English or, if I speak it, the local language. At first I thought this was something weird about me, since I’ve lived all over and speak three languages in daily life I may have an ambiguous sound or look. After reading posts in this forum I now wonder if this was some odd snooty screening mechanism by the SAs???? Lucky for me my French is serviceable if no longer fluent and even more lucky I’m not really interested in B/K/C so I don’t have to worry too much about playing the H game

 

[WhiteBus]

hi all, i need some advice if i should continue with my SA or not.
I started my relationship in oct, and ive spent 4.4k so far, on shoes, makeups, scarf. Everytime my shopping experience is around 30mins, shell get me the stuff or order it. She doesnt seem to conversate. My store is tiny and i always feel like its in and out. She has never asked me for my wishlist, and last time i ask for picotin she said itll be awhile and they dont have stock.

What is the problem? Picotins are not mass produced items held in large stocks.
If you want a quota bag you should tell your SA and don't expect her to be a mind reader.
Because Hermes is not a high volume manufacturer, a lot of mystique developed about getting what you want. Most of it is not helpful.
Try and shop in a normal way and stop treating Hermes differently.