Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[Justlikewhatilike]

Stop worrying. You have read too much social media.
If you have had a message that your order (did you ever get a quota bag?) has arrived, just rejoice in that news and arrange to go in and collect it.

See what happens and who you meet.
Don't worry about rules, they are part of the woo-woo that social media posters like to develop.
There aren't any.
How can you 'offend' any of the SAs you have dealt with? They pass you from one to the other and don't seem to mind.

I think the ultimate question would be which SA to look for to get the quota bag. If there are too many cooks, they each will pass the buck as none of them will have the full incentive to apply for the quota bag. No doubt we can always go to the store manager, but the whole process already involve so much energy, time and money that it’s already more daunting than anyone needs.

 

[RitaLA]

Hi everyone!! I'd like to ask your advice on my situation:

So my SA has left Hermes a couple of months ago. On 2-3 appointments before she left, she assisted me but halfway through it she excused herself cause she had other things to do and asked SA B to help me with my purchases instead. I thought it was weird at first but I just went along with it. I even pre-ordered a couple of stuffs with SA B because I thought the purchases will go to my SA anyway because SA B was just helping her a bit. After every appointment my SA would still talk to me and thank me. She also still texted me on my wishlists and other things so I thought she was just truly occupied at the time and didn't think much of it.

A few weeks later she offered me my quota bag and told me she's leaving. This is when the last few interactions made sense to me - maybe she didn't want me to get too attached with her because she knows she's leaving?? Anyway, she said she will introduce me to an SA who will take care of me. I thought it would be SA B who have helped me in the past couple appointments, but it was not. It's a new SA - let's call her SA C. So my SA and SA C were there when I picked up my bag and I started to browse with SA C already but didn't find anything I like, so I just took the bag and SA C finalized my purchase at the cashier. I believe now my account is under SA C.

My interaction with SA C stopped there because a few weeks later we went into lockdown for a couple of months here in AU. I haven't texted her at all since the bag pick up and haven't made any other purchases either.

During lockdown I had thought about the status of my pre-order that I made with SA B, but I thought I'll just ring SA C after the lockdown and make appointment. Easier that way anyway. Fast forward to today (3-4 months since last interaction), I got a text from SA B (not SA C) saying that my pre-order has arrived. She also asked me if I need anything else and if I want to make appointment with HER (not SA C) next week.

Now I'm confused. My old SA handed me over to SA C so I thought I would be in contact with SA C from now on and the SAs have some sort of 'codes' to not contact other SA's clients.

Can I make appointment and continue shopping with SA B? Or should I decline and contact SA C instead? Or should I just ask this to SA B and clear things out? I don't mind shopping with either SA and just want to make sure I don't break any rules or offend any SAs.

THank you for reading!! Sorry for the long post

I tend to be straightforward so I can understand what kind of situation I am dealing with. I would meet with SA b and in a nice and polite way explain the situation to her (that your SA left and she assigned you SA c) and that you would like to hear her thoughts on it. Pick her brain. Leave the question open-ended and see what she what she says. In therapy we believe in the 80/20 perspective, which says that we have 80% of the answers within us and the outer world only has 20%. But we go about life thinking that the world has 80% of the answers, which is a fallacy. I would trust your “social” gut instinct and engage in a conversation. Most people engage in questioning. It’s an interrogation process instead of a dialogical process. Chat with her, brainstorm, share thoughts and you will invite more conversations in return. Go with an open mind and just have a conversation. Your answers may naturally flow from there. This is not a job interview. Although it might seem like at times. . Enjoy the process and have fun

 

[Babypooh777]

Stop worrying. You have read too much social media.
If you have had a message that your order (did you ever get a quota bag?) has arrived, just rejoice in that news and arrange to go in and collect it.

See what happens and who you meet.
Don't worry about rules, they are part of the woo-woo that social media posters like to develop.
There aren't any.
How can you 'offend' any of the SAs you have dealt with? They pass you from one to the other and don't seem to mind.

Thank you! Yes I did get the quota bag and yes I also thought maybe I had read too much into it. Just didn't want to offend SA C and seem like I betrayed her when my account has been officially passed on to her

I tend to be straightforward so I can understand what kind of situation I am dealing with. I would meet with SA b and in a nice and polite way explain the situation to her (that your SA left and she assigned you SA c) and that you would like to hear her thoughts on it. Pick her brain. Leave the question open-ended and see what she what she says. In therapy we believe in the 80/20 perspective, which says that we have 80% of the answers within us and the outer world only has 20%. But we go about life thinking that the world has 80% of the answers, which is a fallacy. I would trust your “social” gut instinct and engage in a conversation. Most people engage in questioning. It’s an interrogation process instead of a dialogical process. Chat with her, brainstorm, share thoughts and you will invite more conversations in return. Go with an open mind and just have a conversation. Your answers may naturally flow from there. This is not a job interview. Although it might seem like at times. . Enjoy the process and have fun

Thank you for your response! I will need to remember this advice for other areas of my life too! I do tend to start 'interrogation' process instead of 'dialogical' process. And that 80/20 prespective is amazing!

 

[GabrielleS]

Hi everyone!! I'd like to ask your advice on my situation:

So my SA has left Hermes a couple of months ago. On 2-3 appointments before she left, she assisted me but halfway through it she excused herself cause she had other things to do and asked SA B to help me with my purchases instead. I thought it was weird at first but I just went along with it. I even pre-ordered a couple of stuffs with SA B because I thought the purchases will go to my SA anyway because SA B was just helping her a bit. After every appointment my SA would still talk to me and thank me. She also still texted me on my wishlists and other things so I thought she was just truly occupied at the time and didn't think much of it.

A few weeks later she offered me my quota bag and told me she's leaving. This is when the last few interactions made sense to me - maybe she didn't want me to get too attached with her because she knows she's leaving?? Anyway, she said she will introduce me to an SA who will take care of me. I thought it would be SA B who have helped me in the past couple appointments, but it was not. It's a new SA - let's call her SA C. So my SA and SA C were there when I picked up my bag and I started to browse with SA C already but didn't find anything I like, so I just took the bag and SA C finalized my purchase at the cashier. I believe now my account is under SA C.

My interaction with SA C stopped there because a few weeks later we went into lockdown for a couple of months here in AU. I haven't texted her at all since the bag pick up and haven't made any other purchases either.

During lockdown I had thought about the status of my pre-order that I made with SA B, but I thought I'll just ring SA C after the lockdown and make appointment. Easier that way anyway. Fast forward to today (3-4 months since last interaction), I got a text from SA B (not SA C) saying that my pre-order has arrived. She also asked me if I need anything else and if I want to make appointment with HER (not SA C) next week.

Now I'm confused. My old SA handed me over to SA C so I thought I would be in contact with SA C from now on and the SAs have some sort of 'codes' to not contact other SA's clients.

Can I make appointment and continue shopping with SA B? Or should I decline and contact SA C instead? Or should I just ask this to SA B and clear things out? I don't mind shopping with either SA and just want to make sure I don't break any rules or offend any SAs.

THank you for reading!! Sorry for the long post

If your bag is in, go get it and be happy. If SA B is getting you the things you want continue working with her.

 

[RitaLA]

Thank you! Yes I did get the quota bag and yes I also thought maybe I had read too much into it. Just didn't want to offend SA C and seem like I betrayed her when my account has been officially passed on to her




Thank you for your response! I will need to remember this advice for other areas of my life too! I do tend to start 'interrogation' process instead of 'dialogical' process. And that 80/20 prespective is amazing!

It’s life changing!!!

 

[jellyv]

They are employees, purely, in an economics environment. I mean, always be respectful, but to mentally pretzel for an SA is clearly a you thing (the generic you, not a specific poster).

 

[Bubach]

Hi ladies, I'd appreciate you advice on the following:
Every time I go shopping to my local store I rarely find something I really like, but I always find things I like on Hermes website. So my lovely SA searches for them in other stores, and orders them to be delivered from to my home address (I pay in the store, not online). Since I'm hoping to be offered a quota bag some time in the future, I was wondering if my purchases done this way still count? Or do I need to purchase current store stock?
Thanks!

 

[WhiteBus]

Hi ladies, I'd appreciate you advice on the following:
Every time I go shopping to my local store I rarely find something I really like, but I always find things I like on Hermes website. So my lovely SA searches for them in other stores, and orders them to be delivered from to my home address (I pay in the store, not online). Since I'm hoping to be offered a quota bag some time in the future, I was wondering if my purchases done this way still count? Or do I need to purchase current store stock?
Thanks!

You are still effectively purchasing from the store, with goods that have been m8 transferred in for you and not making online purchases delivered to your store for you to collect.
You need to address your question to your SA, because that is the only accurate was to gauge what is happening in your situation. i.e. your country, your store, the attitude of your SA, whether your SA knows your long term goals.

 

[Bubach]

You are still effectively purchasing from the store, with goods that have been m8 transferred in for you and not making online purchases delivered to your store for you to collect.
You need to address your question to your SA, because that is the only accurate was to gauge what is happening in your situation. i.e. your country, your store, the attitude of your SA, whether your SA knows your long term goals.

Thanks for your input. My SA knows I'd like to get a quota bag as she took all the details on the specs I'd like (size, leather, colors, hw etc). The reason I'm asking is because I'd like to get some fine jewelry and my local store has limited stock so I'm wondering if I should ask her to order the pieces I like or should I just wait until they become available in my store.

I'm in the US and items she previously ordered were shipped from other states.

 

[WhiteBus]

Thanks for your input. My SA knows I'd like to get a quota bag as she took all the details on the specs I'd like (size, leather, colors, hw etc). The reason I'm asking is because I'd like to get some fine jewelry and my local store has limited stock so I'm wondering if I should ask her to order the pieces I like or should I just wait until they become available in my store.

I'm in the US and items she previously ordered were shipped from other states.

It depends why you want the fine jewellery? Bluntly, do you just want it to build up your profile?
In that case, you could just wait for something to catch your eye.
If there are some pieces that you really want, unless you ask for them, you could have a very long wait for an item that you really want to come into your store.

 

[acrowcounted]

Thanks for your input. My SA knows I'd like to get a quota bag as she took all the details on the specs I'd like (size, leather, colors, hw etc). The reason I'm asking is because I'd like to get some fine jewelry and my local store has limited stock so I'm wondering if I should ask her to order the pieces I like or should I just wait until they become available in my store.

I'm in the US and items she previously ordered were shipped from other states.

It still counts. As long as your SA orders the items for you, it counts.

 

[Bubach]

It depends why you want the fine jewellery? Bluntly, do you just want it to build up your profile?
In that case, you could just wait for something to catch your eye.
If there are some pieces that you really want, unless you ask for them, you could have a very long wait for an item that you really want to come into your store.

Honestly, I really like few of their bracelets and rings and believe they would stack well with my other jewelry. But I'm in no rush to get them and don't mind waiting for them. Hope that makes sense.

 

[steezysav123]

I'm just starting to develop a relationship with a SA and so far she's been great. I had a small purchase history at the same store prior to meeting this SA, and have since purchased shoes with her and she has me on the list for a few items that are currently out of stock. I've met her in person twice and we've texted a bit. I am hoping to eventually score a B/K but am not sure when I should start mentioning my interest to her. She's emphasized many times how tough the inventory is right now so I'm not sure if it would annoy her if I mentioned it. Plus, I know I don't have significant purchase history at this point... Is it too soon to mention B/K interest? If so, should it be in person or should I mention it next time we're texting? Appreciate any input! Thanks!

 

[Nahreen]

I'm just starting to develop a relationship with a SA and so far she's been great. I had a small purchase history at the same store prior to meeting this SA, and have since purchased shoes with her and she has me on the list for a few items that are currently out of stock. I've met her in person twice and we've texted a bit. I am hoping to eventually score a B/K but am not sure when I should start mentioning my interest to her. She's emphasized many times how tough the inventory is right now so I'm not sure if it would annoy her if I mentioned it. Plus, I know I don't have significant purchase history at this point... Is it too soon to mention B/K interest? If so, should it be in person or should I mention it next time we're texting? Appreciate any input! Thanks!

I think if you want one you must let her know but also bear in mind it might be a long wait. I have always been clear on what I am interested in. My new SA told me I needed to be in store to be put on the wishlist. At that time point I had only visited our new store once. On my second visit I put my wish in their system. My SA told me that if I want some other bag it was ok to ask through e-mail because ”now we know eachother”. I think the key is to discuss your first wish with your SA when in store and once you are well known you can probably ask through text.

 

[WhiteBus]

I'm just starting to develop a relationship with a SA and so far she's been great. I had a small purchase history at the same store prior to meeting this SA, and have since purchased shoes with her and she has me on the list for a few items that are currently out of stock. I've met her in person twice and we've texted a bit. I am hoping to eventually score a B/K but am not sure when I should start mentioning my interest to her. She's emphasized many times how tough the inventory is right now so I'm not sure if it would annoy her if I mentioned it. Plus, I know I don't have significant purchase history at this point... Is it too soon to mention B/K interest? If so, should it be in person or should I mention it next time we're texting? Appreciate any input! Thanks!

I don't think that texting qualifies as much more than correspondence.
You have to follow your instinct and you clearly do not feel that you know your SA well enough to make such a request known by text. Heaven forfend that you should annoy your SA with your request.
To be honest, your SA is more likely to be annoyed with dealing with your texts than the subject matter.
You need to meet in person. If the constraints of Covid are the limiting factor, be patient until you can.