Maintaining an H relationship

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Sunj said:
Hi guys, are we allowed to buy small gifts for our SA? I have read that food is okay, but what about for birthdays? I'm in the US. Thank you!
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Only small things that can be shared among the staff, no individual gifts are allowed. A gift box of nice food treats used to be the safest choice, now I am not sure it is appropriate considering the pandemic. Perhaps you could send some special food item your SA has mentioned enjoying, but in individually wrapped portions so that it can be enjoyed safely by the staff.
 
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Hi all, I am new, have recently spent 1:1 ratio with my SA. She asked for my preferred colour and size of b/k. After telling her my preference, she told me that i got to wait for 1-2 months and she will look out for me. Would like to know what is the chances of getting it? Why needs to wait for 1 - 2 mths? Appreciate your advice.
 
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Zlllj said:
Hi all, I am new, have recently spent 1:1 ratio with my SA. She asked for my preferred colour and size of b/k. After telling her my preference, she told me that i got to wait for 1-2 months and she will look out for me. Would like to know what is the chances of getting it? Why needs to wait for 1 - 2 mths? Appreciate your advice.
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From your post history, it sounds like you shop in Singapore and that your SA has said there is a Rose Azalee epsom B30 that she was going to try to get for you. If this is correct, it sounds like she is just waiting for the bag to arrive. Hermes stock control is very laissez faire and things arrive (or don’t) with little rhyme or reason. No one here knows your SA so there is always a small chance she is just stringing you along, but it’s more likely that she is just telling you to be patient for the shipment to arrive because they honestly have very little insight to when that might occur.
 
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HKsai said:
How specific is your wishlist? Spending and preferences are usually factor for a longer wait.
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I guess my wishlist is pretty specific. On my wishlist, I have a K25 Neutral (not bothered about the leather) in GHW and a C18 in neutral with GHW as well. These handbags are a lot of money so I really want something that I will love my entire lifetime that I can pass down to my children (I rarely wear silver/white gold). I guess these are popular choices so that's why it's taking longer for me to get offered? Maybe I am being too picky?
 
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Sunj said:
I guess my wishlist is pretty specific. On my wishlist, I have a K25 Neutral (not bothered about the leather) in GHW and a C18 in neutral with GHW as well. These handbags are a lot of money so I really want something that I will love my entire lifetime that I can pass down to my children (I rarely wear silver/white gold). I guess these are popular choices so that's why it's taking longer for me to get offered? Maybe I am being too picky?
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These are very popular choices. And if you are in a competitive area I’d be prepared to do some good amount of spending before being offered. Not that you can’t get lucky...if you haven’t seen your SA in a while I’d go do a little shopping with him and remind him gently while there.
 
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momoc said:
These are very popular choices. And if you are in a competitive area I’d be prepared to do some good amount of spending before being offered. Not that you can’t get lucky...if you haven’t seen your SA in a while I’d go do a little shopping with him and remind him gently while there.
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Thank you so much for your advice! I just didn't want to seem desperate, although I desperately want those bags! <3
 
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nicole0612 said:
Only small things that can be shared among the staff, no individual gifts are allowed. A gift box of nice food treats used to be the safest choice, now I am not sure it is appropriate considering the pandemic. Perhaps you could send some special food item your SA has mentioned enjoying, but in individually wrapped portions so that it can be enjoyed safely by the staff.
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Thank you so much for your advice!!
 
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Sunj said:
I guess my wishlist is pretty specific. On my wishlist, I have a K25 Neutral (not bothered about the leather) in GHW and a C18 in neutral with GHW as well. These handbags are a lot of money so I really want something that I will love my entire lifetime that I can pass down to my children (I rarely wear silver/white gold). I guess these are popular choices so that's why it's taking longer for me to get offered? Maybe I am being too picky?
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You are never too picky! You have to buy what you want. Never settle. These are expensive bags. Other people had given you wonderful advice. You are asking for popular sizes and colors so expect a wait (but again it all depends on the relationship and spending). You should never settle or feel like you need to please your SA for a bag. I would say maintain a good relationship and your bag might appear sooner than later. Good luck!!

momoc said:
These are very popular choices. And if you are in a competitive area I’d be prepared to do some good amount of spending before being offered. Not that you can’t get lucky...if you haven’t seen your SA in a while I’d go do a little shopping with him and remind him gently while there.
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HKsai said:
You are never too picky! You have to buy what you want. Never settle. These are expensive bags. Other people had given you wonderful advice. You are asking for popular sizes and colors so expect a wait (but again it all depends on the relationship and spending). You should never settle or feel like you need to please your SA for a bag. I would say maintain a good relationship and your bag might appear sooner than later. Good luck!!
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Thank you so much for your reply! This makes me feel so much better about me being picky. I really love my SA and get along with him very well! I wish we could be friends outside of the work relationship, but reading on here, that’s a big no-no. Thank you so much again for your message! ❤️
 
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People really ought to stop romanticizing this whole SA relationship too much - sure some may click and become true friends (I myself chat a lot with my SA and we share our personal life stuff often), but honestly I am not blind enough to forget that this is a relationship starting with one thing and that thing is MONEY. It's ~literally~ their job to work with you. Not to mention the rules against things that may result in conflict of interest...I will never think that I get my bag offers simply because my SA likes me as a person. (OK maybe if I'm beautiful and famous but I'm not, LOL).
 
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momoc said:
People really ought to stop romanticizing this whole SA relationship too much - sure some may click and become true friends (I myself chat a lot with my SA and we share our personal life stuff often), but honestly I am not blind enough to forget that this is a relationship starting with one thing and that thing is MONEY. It's ~literally~ their job to work with you. Not to mention the rules against things that may result in conflict of interest...I will never think that I get my bag offers simply because my SA likes me as a person. (OK maybe if I'm beautiful and famous but I'm not, LOL).
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My husband tells me the same thing LOl I know it’s a game based on money, but I feel sometimes, there can be a deeper connection. When I go into these luxury brands, I don’t usually stop looking for an SA until I fine one that I really connect with. It makes it easier for me to go and spend money there knowing there is a nice and decent person waiting (I've had some terrible SAs). I guess it’s because a couple of SAs I know that are not in the luxury anymore, I’ve gotten to know them through being my SA, but after they’ve moved on, we still get coffee and hang out. We both genuinely liked each other’s company and besides on here, I find it very hard to meet women who love luxury as much as I do. Where I live, if you have luxury, you’re looked at as a snob and you’re shallow. But you are right, the goal is to make sales.
 
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Sunj said:
My husband tells me the same thing LOl I know it’s a game based on money, but I feel sometimes, there can be a deeper connection. When I go into these luxury brands, I don’t usually stop looking for an SA until I fine one that I really connect with. It makes it easier for me to go and spend money there knowing there is a nice and decent person waiting (I've had some terrible SAs). I guess it’s because a couple of SAs I know that are not in the luxury anymore, I’ve gotten to know them through being my SA, but after they’ve moved on, we still get coffee and hang out. We both genuinely liked each other’s company and besides on here, I find it very hard to meet women who love luxury as much as I do. Where I live, if you have luxury, you’re looked at as a snob and you’re shallow. But you are right, the goal is to make sales.
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You can actually genuinely like each other, but that alone won’t get you the bag offer is what I’m trying to stress.

Like we’ve read stories here about people with horrible attitude towards the SA yet get treated like royalty and get offered the perfect bag because they drop 6 figures. Your SA can like you but if someone spends multiples of your amount, who will be the one your store wants to please first?
 
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I'm worried now that I wasn't specific enough. I told my SA any color B30/35 that's not a neutral. Don't much mind the leather or hardware so long as the bag itself isn't a neutral color and the hardware pairs nicely with the color. I hope I wasn't too unspecific now hahaha
 
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