Is it real? That dreaded question...

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#46
I've never been asked that question, but I don't wear diamond simulant so I guess it wouldn't be an issue. I did have someone ask me how many carats my ring was, though. I thought that was a bit tacky, so I just said "you know, I never asked him!" I suppose it was a bit of a white lie (because I know full well what diamond i'm wearing), but I didn't feel comfortable telling her the specs.
 
#47
I love talking jewelry, so asking about specs is ok w/ me. Personally though I have never asked someone. I don't think anyone has ever asked if my jewelry is real or not...at least not to my face.
 
#48
i get asked this a lot for my diamond tennis necklace....its so annoying!! I wear it often because i love it, and dont feel like i should have a special occasion for it! lol! But i prefer people asking me personally if it's real instead of talking behind my back, now THAT makes me mad. The whispers from people are the worst....like i cant hear you! Yeah, I may be 25 but that doesnt mean I can't own real, beautiful pieces!! arghhhh!
 
#49
Rhose said:
Double shame on anyone who asks this about an engagement ring. Way to not-so-subtlely burst her bubble. :rolleyes:

Can I extend this gripe to people asking how much your piece cost? I don't care if it's someone really close, but anyone else and it bugs me. My boyfriend's sister is really bad for this. I purchased my first diamond RHR last week and she baldly asked how much it cost. I've only known her a few months so it made me feel uncomfortable... especially when I replied with "Oh, enough!" she asked me again. "So, how much did it cost?" :wtf: Take a hint please! It's rude. Every cent was my own too, none of his, so she really had no excuse to sticky beak.

Then later in front of everyone she was going on to my boyfriend about how he's reeeeally going to be sent broke for my engagement ring. Only the females picked up on the b*tchy tone. Sigh.
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ITA with this.
 
#50
gabz...LOL

I have had the question asked before, funnily enough it was on a smaller diamond not my boulder.....I thought it was amusing at the time as I knew the person. If it was a total stranger...I would be calling the security company to upgrade my security system!

IdealD
 
#53
I agree; it's a very tacky question, but there are plenty of rude people in this world.

What I'd like to provide is a "truthful" answer to the ever-dreaded "Is it real" question. First, though the question is typically unspecified, one usually infers that the meaning is "Is it a real diamond?" (carbon), even when the word "diamond" is omitted.

In these unspecified instances, the person being asked can also consider zirconium dioxide (CZs), or silicon carbide (moissanite) as real as carbon. Yes; both of those chemical compounds are indeed quite real. So you can answer "yes" truthfully & convincingly, without guilt, embarrassment, or any regrets for a lie (since none was given).
 
#54
There is no respect for boundaries anymore.
I had someone ask me if my ring was real in front of several people. Rather then feeling like I had to explain myself I simply said it is my engagement ring. She wouldn't stop asking me until she was satisfied with my answer. The funny thing is that people are going to believe whatever they want to anyway.
 
#55
at school i get asked this alot about bag's shoes and jewellery. but out of school i hardly ever get asked maybe because i don't look aproachable.

once when i was in LKBennet the shop assistant said she loved the LK Bennet dress i was wearing i said thank you and then asked about my shoes, which had a red sole, "and are those Christian Louboutin" they weren't and i just started laughing and said "oh no no no no no, there from Faith!!!" it was embarising for me because my reaction was a bit OTT but i never even though they looked like Louboutins. she looked abit shocked and smiled and said "there beautiful, i could never walk in them" and walked off. i didn't think it was rude of her because she did it in a polite way. my reaction on the other hand, i think i embarised her a bit:p

at school though it's the "i doubt that's real, i'm better than you so it better not be" attitude that is awful. it's the "is that real...how much is it...were did you get it??" and then repeating the questions i got asked every time i saw one girl when i had my Chanel bag. i'm bad with responses i just kind of say "yes, yes, yes... i don't know... london!!" "yes.yes" (i repeat alot when i'm nervouse)

i think it's very rude and only people with no class ask those kind of questions. i think the woman in LKBennet was risking it abit, she wanted to know, i guess because they did have a red sole but didn't look like louboutins, and did it in a sensitive way. i just wasn't ready to be asked that.
 
#56
I just thought of another great answer: Nod, smile, & walk away. It's a way of saying that their inappropriate question isn't deserving of conversation, & you'll have no part of any discussion regarding authenticity.
 
#57
I don't wear a lot of expensive jewelry like diamonds or anything like that, just bags. Usually the people that ask are friends or people that I know. I don't mind answering (because the answer is usually "Yes."), because I'm a student, so I know it's hard to believe that someone like me can afford this, even though I'm not rich (not at all - I just work hard and save up for my goods).

I do think it is a bit rude to ask how much something is/where did I get it, when you can easily look up that information online (like louisvuitton.com!). At least, people who know me have stopped asking if things are real, because they know by now that it is..:rolleyes:

Another question that bugs me a bit is along the lines of "Did your BF buy that for you?" I guess those people's thought process must be along the lines of she's a student, so she prob can't afford that and had her BF/sugar daddy buy it for her. It annoys me, because 9 times out of 10, I have bought myself these things, because I don't want to have my BF pay for things like that (unless he offers, that's a different story :graucho:).

holly923 said:
at school though it's the "i doubt that's real, i'm better than you so it better not be" attitude that is awful. it's the "is that real...how much is it...were did you get it??" and then repeating the questions i got asked every time i saw one girl when i had my Chanel bag. i'm bad with responses i just kind of say "yes, yes, yes... i don't know... london!!" "yes.yes" (i repeat alot when i'm nervouse)
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Yup, know what you mean. I got grilled by one or two girls in my org when I brought my LV Speedy to a meeting on campus one day..
 
#58
I haven't been asked the "is it real" question but a friend of a friend did ask me how much my engagement ring was. Having been brought up being taught that questions about money and how much something obviously expensive costs, I told her that I thought that was an incredibly gauche question and why would she want to know. She was visibly embarrassed and apologized for asking.
 
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