Involuntary Coach ban support group

[carterazo]

Oh noes; we’re Ladies of the Flies up in here now?

I did maintain my 4.0 and got into the honors society (I do not mean to brag at all; I can’t believe it and my DH has to keep telling me to hush up and accept it; this is a very far cry from my first time around, so maybe an old dog really can learn new tricks lol).

But... I have gotten large Derby totes in 3 different colors (teal, rosegold, and black with oxblood interior) over the summer and fall, so I have not been entirely living up to to perfect ban standards...

Edit: grammar

Congrats on a job well done!!!! You definitely earned those treats. We should be showing you some hots!

 

[carterazo]

I long ago discovered that once we're adults, gifts are more about the giver than the receiver

When my mom was still alive, I would buy her an expensive premier purse each year. She would NEVER buy that for herself. I would buy her something that was sparkly and flashy, as she loved sparkle. She would wear those purses into the ground. But had I asked her what she wanted, she would have insisted she didn't want them.

On the other hand, my sister and I can never see eye to eye on gifts. She is a miser and and will always give "regifted" items from her closet. I am not against this per se, except that she has really cheap, bad taste lol.

One year you can guess what happened. She gifted me something I had bought for HER. I was going to let it slip unremarked on, but my mother of course said something out loud. Sigh.

Holidays. Meh.

How sweet of you to have given your mom really nice bags! Mine always talks about how I have so many purses and she doesn't. Well, I have given her quite a few that she has picked out or approved of, but she hardly ever carries them and still comments on mine. On the other had, she will use the (very) cheap ones she has received from others. Very recently she carried around a really ugly and heavy one. Fine by me if she loves it... I am having a harder time biting my tongue when she comments on mine, though. She's mellowing about that fortunately...

 

[carterazo]

I’m the same way. I often feel guilty for buying expensive items, especially when I think about where I came from and how things were money-wise when I was younger.

I think I’ve mentioned before but everyone in my family has come to an agreement over the years, we don’t buy each other Christmas gifts. There are only a few young children so we all still buy for them. And I do buy for my Mom even though I tell her every year I’m not lol My BF and I don’t even exchange gifts. But we definitely shop a bit for ourselves and get excited for each other when packages come to the door haha It’s soooooo less stressful! And instead we donate $$$ to charities that we both benefited from when we were kids

One of the most frustrating things is that his small family will not budge on the not exchanging gifts idea. My BF is incredibly hard to buy for as he doesn’t really have small interests or hobbies, he likes expensive cars LOL So for example they ended up buying him a poop emoji themed comforter set for his last birthday ... He’s in his 40s what in the world is he gonna do with that? They thought it was hilarious but it was just a waste of money as we donated it. He asks them every year to just please make a donation to our local animal shelter in his name and they refuse. But that’s what he wants and what would make him happy! I’m sure we sound like ungrateful jerks lol But every holiday we just end up with weird items that are clogging up landfills. This year he suggested the 4 of us do a supper club, each quarter we go to a nice restaurant and we each take a turn buying. I thought this sounded so fun! They just sent eyeroll emojis as their response lol

I’m just venting at this point haha

Poop emoji blanket takes the cake. I guess they were just trying to be funny. Except it's not. I feel your pain.

 

[Syren]

We don't do gifts anymore either. DH never did do gifts, and I just gave up. Most of our families are gone now. My oldest daughter isn't completely okay with it. Sometimes she'll send me a link for what she wants. It is stressful buying gifts - you don't know what to get and the crowds are terrible.

I didn't grow up poor but both of parents lived through the depression and the attitude to be careful with money rubbed off on me. When my kids were little I went overboard on Christmas gifts for them because I wanted them to have the Christmas I never had. I always felt cheated when I was a kid because the kids I knew always got lots of stuff. We always got 4 gifts, mostly practical things. Only one would be something you could play with, like a puzzle.

I think that’s why I enjoy buying for the kids in the family. I feel like I’m giving someone the Christmas I never had!

I try my hardest to not go to actual stores for the entire month of December. The crowds are crazy and it’s so hard to park. I prefer shopping online and I feel like I get better deals

 

[Syren]

Poop emoji blanket takes the cake. I guess they were just trying to be funny. Except it's not. I feel your pain.

I have a friend whose daughter loves anything emoji themed and loves the poop emoji! I sent her a photo of the comforter set and even she didn’t want it LOL

 

[Syren]

A poop emoji comforter? Lol. That’s too funny/crazy unless he specifically asked for it — or they included a gift receipt for exchange. I am a huge fan of gift receipts since there is no way of knowing for sure what some one wants unless they tell you outright. I feel for you. We have stopped buying gifts for family for awhile now — it used to be stressful to think of something, go to the Mall, buy, wrap etc. I am kinda relieved that my DD hasn’t been into toys for years, lol and that she mainly wants gift cards or cash now. Growing up, she loved to read a lot so I used to buy her a lot of books (through the discounted Scholastic Book Club at school) and some toys. Even for my young nieces the last few years, I have been giving them Target gift cards so they can pick their own toys (it’s also hard if I don’t see them during the holidays due to travel/schedules so by the time they get the gifts, they might no longer like them since kids’ interests are always changing).

Yep I have no idea why they bought it for him. If it would have been a T-shirt he probably would have worn it around the house to be silly lol

My sister is sending me the amazon wish list her kids are making so it’ll be super easy this year and they’ll get exactly what they want!

 

[Chiichan]

Yep I have no idea why they bought it for him. If it would have been a T-shirt he probably would have worn it around the house to be silly lol

My sister is sending me the amazon wish list her kids are making so it’ll be super easy this year and they’ll get exactly what they want!

Sending a wish list makes the most sense. Who wants to search the skies for a present that you THINK they might like? DH’s family don’t return or regift. They simply tuck it away and forget about it. But they also will not make a wish list. I’ve left the present buying for the in laws to DH for the last few years and it’s worked out great lol

 

[eleanors36]

I’m the same way. I often feel guilty for buying expensive items, especially when I think about where I came from and how things were money-wise when I was younger.

I think I’ve mentioned before but everyone in my family has come to an agreement over the years, we don’t buy each other Christmas gifts. There are only a few young children so we all still buy for them. And I do buy for my Mom even though I tell her every year I’m not lol My BF and I don’t even exchange gifts. But we definitely shop a bit for ourselves and get excited for each other when packages come to the door haha It’s soooooo less stressful! And instead we donate $$$ to charities that we both benefited from when we were kids

One of the most frustrating things is that his small family will not budge on the not exchanging gifts idea. My BF is incredibly hard to buy for as he doesn’t really have small interests or hobbies, he likes expensive cars LOL So for example they ended up buying him a poop emoji themed comforter set for his last birthday ... He’s in his 40s what in the world is he gonna do with that? They thought it was hilarious but it was just a waste of money as we donated it. He asks them every year to just please make a donation to our local animal shelter in his name and they refuse. But that’s what he wants and what would make him happy! I’m sure we sound like ungrateful jerks lol But every holiday we just end up with weird items that are clogging up landfills. This year he suggested the 4 of us do a supper club, each quarter we go to a nice restaurant and we each take a turn buying. I thought this sounded so fun! They just sent eyeroll emojis as their response lol

I’m just venting at this point haha

Donations are a wonderful idea. We do the same.

 

[Syren]

Sending a wish list makes the most sense. Who wants to search the skies for a present that you THINK they might like? DH’s family don’t return or regift. They simply tuck it away and forget about it. But they also will not make a wish list. I’ve left the present buying for the in laws to DH for the last few years and it’s worked out great lol

That’s just so wasteful! At least return it for something useful lol

Donations are a wonderful idea. We do the same.

It makes me happy to make donations!

 

[houseof999]

Why Does Coach lie to us? I was told all Marleigh bags were sold out. Including the size 20s. But no.. they put some up last night on the website on sale with additional 15% off. I don't know exactly when they were up but by the time I noticed they were all gone.

 

[Syren]

Why Does Coach lie to us? I was told all Marleigh bags were sold out. Including the size 20s. But no.. they put some up last night on the website on sale with additional 15% off. I don't know exactly when they were up but by the time I noticed they were all gone.

I saw this morning and I immediately thought how disappointed some people are gonna be.

 

[Syren]

Well my will power could only last so long but I’m glad I didn’t give in earlier because the deals on the coach website today are great! Extra 15% off some styles AND 15% Rakuten rebate!

I got the cooper in beechwood, Alexa clutch in midnight, and a couple charms I’ve been eyeing since they were released.

I’ve been waiting and waiting on the Alexa clutch and $85 after all sales and rebates was too good to resist! I’ve been looking to replace my too small black evening bag for a couple of years now and I’ve been wanting the Alexa! Glad I waited for a better deal.

 

[BeachBagGal]

I’m the same way. I often feel guilty for buying expensive items, especially when I think about where I came from and how things were money-wise when I was younger.

I think I’ve mentioned before but everyone in my family has come to an agreement over the years, we don’t buy each other Christmas gifts. There are only a few young children so we all still buy for them. And I do buy for my Mom even though I tell her every year I’m not lol My BF and I don’t even exchange gifts. But we definitely shop a bit for ourselves and get excited for each other when packages come to the door haha It’s soooooo less stressful! And instead we donate $$$ to charities that we both benefited from when we were kids

One of the most frustrating things is that his small family will not budge on the not exchanging gifts idea. My BF is incredibly hard to buy for as he doesn’t really have small interests or hobbies, he likes expensive cars LOL So for example they ended up buying him a poop emoji themed comforter set for his last birthday ... He’s in his 40s what in the world is he gonna do with that? They thought it was hilarious but it was just a waste of money as we donated it. He asks them every year to just please make a donation to our local animal shelter in his name and they refuse. But that’s what he wants and what would make him happy! I’m sure we sound like ungrateful jerks lol But every holiday we just end up with weird items that are clogging up landfills. This year he suggested the 4 of us do a supper club, each quarter we go to a nice restaurant and we each take a turn buying. I thought this sounded so fun! They just sent eyeroll emojis as their response lol

I’m just venting at this point haha

Ah geez how frustrating. What about suggesting they do consumable items since it’s obvious they feel like they need to give you something tangible? Such as food items (something interesting,
Ethnic, homemade,etc), beverages, hand/body products, etc. It’s tough to buy
for my bro and SIL so I’ll often look for interesting edible/consumable items when I travel, for example. They don’t need much in the way of stuff and they both have a pretty diverse and open palate and do appreciate those things. Just a thought.

 

[BeachBagGal]

Well my will power could only last so long but I’m glad I didn’t give in earlier because the deals on the coach website today are great! Extra 15% off some styles AND 15% Rakuten rebate!

I got the cooper in beechwood, Alexa clutch in midnight, and a couple charms I’ve been eyeing since they were released.

I’ve been waiting and waiting on the Alexa clutch and $85 after all sales and rebates was too good to resist! I’ve been looking to replace my too small black evening bag for a couple of years now and I’ve been wanting the Alexa! Glad I waited for a better deal.

Nice deals! Can’t wait to see! Yeah i went out on their site last night before bed and it was down for maintenance so i knew they were adding a bunch.

 

[BeachBagGal]

I long ago discovered that once we're adults, gifts are more about the giver than the receiver

When my mom was still alive, I would buy her an expensive premier purse each year. She would NEVER buy that for herself. I would buy her something that was sparkly and flashy, as she loved sparkle. She would wear those purses into the ground. But had I asked her what she wanted, she would have insisted she didn't want them.

On the other hand, my sister and I can never see eye to eye on gifts. She is a miser and and will always give "regifted" items from her closet. I am not against this per se, except that she has really cheap, bad taste lol.

One year you can guess what happened. She gifted me something I had bought for HER. I was going to let it slip unremarked on, but my mother of course said something out loud. Sigh.

Holidays. Meh.

Regifted something you gave her?!?! Oh yikes