How to dodge the "how much did that purse cost" question?

[Pursestan]

Two answers depending on their demeanor when they asked (i.e. likely genuinely interested versus being rude):

(1) "I don't remember, but I bought it at XXXX place." This allows them to find out if they're really interested.

(2) "How much do you weigh?" or some other equally rude comment so that they can see how rude their comment was.

 

[li mackenzie]

the only one who always ask was my mother and i can't lie to her

 

[paradise392]

I hate when people (mostly my friends) ask how much my bag was. I hate telling them how much because they would never spend that amount on a bag. I feel like they think im wasting money or that i dont know how to manage my money just because I bought an expensive bag.

 

[Iwantaspybag]

the only one who always ask was my mother and i can't lie to her

So how does that go for you when you tell her the truth?

 

[Coach Lover Too]

No one ever asks me but if they did I'd just say *too much.*

 

[li mackenzie]

So how does that go for you when you tell her the truth?[/QUOTE
it really doesn't go very well..she'll say how ridiculous i was for buying a bag that price...saying that for that amount i can feed hundreds of mouth from it..i can understand how she feels though..our country was poor and some people find it hard to get by and here i am trotting a lv sistina or a gucci icon bit or whatever. but i tell her after her rant that hubby is ok with it because i deserve it and we always made sure that we are saving more than we are spending..we live far away from home (philippines) and only come during summer..even if she doesn't understand it it's okay that is not my problem anymore..it's not like i'm spending her own money anyway..i still love her nonetheless...

 

[Iwantaspybag]

So how does that go for you when you tell her the truth?[/QUOTE
it really doesn't go very well..she'll say how ridiculous i was for buying a bag that price...saying that for that amount i can feed hundreds of mouth from it..i can understand how she feels though..our country was poor and some people find it hard to get by and here i am trotting a lv sistina or a gucci icon bit or whatever. but i tell her after her rant that hubby is ok with it because i deserve it and we always made sure that we are saving more than we are spending..we live far away from home (philippines) and only come during summer..even if she doesn't understand it it's okay that is not my problem anymore..it's not like i'm spending her own money anyway..i still love her nonetheless...

My mom was a depression baby. Her ethic was" a bargain was good under any circumstances." At MacDonalds, her idea of a splurge was a small hamburger and a glass of water.

I realized in my 30s that she was just incapable of understanding a different point of view on money. It was a waste to talk about it. Our life together was so much better after I stopped telling her the truth about how much anything cost.

In general I am pathologically truthful with everyone. I generally don't do the type of insignificant lies that are social lubricants. Yet it just worked so much better to under report by 2/3s to her. It was a choice I made to make our time together focused on something pleasant and meaningful rather than unpleasant.

Telling the truth presumes the other person is capable of respecting your choices and that there is something of value to be gained by examining your differences.


My mother passed away 2 years ago. I am glad my mother was the way she was and I am the way I am. When she passed away, all that money she saved on bargains she left to me and it funds my retirement. My memories of her are pleasant after the point that I accepted her limitations.

Just consider this another viewpoint on lying that comes from a pathologically honest person.

 

[li mackenzie]

My mom was a depression baby. Her ethic was" a bargain was good under any circumstances." At MacDonalds, her idea of a splurge was a small hamburger and a glass of water.

I realized in my 30s that she was just incapable of understanding a different point of view on money. It was a waste to talk about it. Our life together was so much better after I stopped telling her the truth about how much anything cost.

In general I am pathologically truthful with everyone. I generally don't do the type of insignificant lies that are social lubricants. Yet it just worked so much better to under report by 2/3s to her. It was a choice I made to make our time together focused on something pleasant and meaningful rather than unpleasant.

Telling the truth presumes the other person is capable of respecting your choices and that there is something of value to be gained by examining your differences.


My mother passed away 2 years ago. I am glad my mother was the way she was and I am the way I am. When she passed away, all that money she saved on bargains she left to me and it funds my retirement. My memories of her are pleasant after the point that I accepted her limitations.

Just consider this another viewpoint on lying that comes from a pathologically honest person.

i'm sure your mom loves you so..oh you got me teary eyed right now..i suddeny i missed my mom:cry:..she may never understand about my passion for purses and photography that needs pricey lenses too..but she's my mom concerned about the well being of her child, and i'm a mom too...in the future i may feel the same for my kids..

 

[fuzzybear]

I usually just say 'enough'!

 

[BgaHolic]

(2) "How much do you weigh?" or some other equally rude comment so that they can see how rude their comment was.

:lolots: That's as comparable a question as it gets! Good one!

 

[yy_yangyan]

I like.

 

[pinay28]

I tell them - I forgot, I got it at (name of the mall).

 

[LuvAllBags]

Most people don't ask, but if someone does, I just say I don't like to talk about money. Only exception is a few of my very closest friends, who I would be happy to tell, but honestly they aren't usually tacky enough to ask!

 

[Lizgizmo]

I just say it was a gift. Easiest way to get out of it.

 

[MissDiverse]

I had a coworker ask me after I had brought my first LV purchase to work. I went on to tell her simply because I know she is interested in fashion, and invests a fair bit in her appearance (Gel manis every week, new shoes/clothes/makeup all the time).
Her response was "What? That's ridiculous!" I kind of expected this, not many people understand, but the second part of her statement was what shocked me; "I got my big travel bag from a friend who bought from this website, and you can buy real Louis Vuitton on it for like, $200!"
I didn't even say anything to that... I was just disgusted (Not to sound rude, but I saved a lot of money for my bag, it should not be compared to a fake!). I must be a sucker, since there's all sorts of websites selling REAL LV for 200.
Well, anyone that buys a real lv should know the name of their bag, (which she didn't), and she walked in with a fake mono carryall 55 bandoulier... which just looked atrocious..

I simply do not answer that question (anymore) and reply with "A lot, you can check the website for current prices" to anyone that really wants to know.