How to dodge the "how much did that purse cost" question?

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#46
bagolicious said:
I feel that if a person really is interested in buying the same or a similar bag, then they can go online and look up the price instead of being tacky enough to outright ask someone the price.
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:shrugs: Usually people who have to ask (for example, I can eyeball almost any bag and ID the designer, at minimum, if not the name, make, year, and model :p - so I never have to ask someone what the brand is, even) aren't going to have the background info to even know where to start looking. I don't see anything too wrong without expressing the brand and "model" name if it can be done in a non-braggy way. :smile1:

It's a bit uncomfortable with you're carrying a lovely Lanvin or Hindemarch or Givenchy and a stranger standing in line with you tries to find fault with it and then shows you her bag and .... it's just not quite lining up with her self-image as a bag-queen. :shrugs: I still haven't figured out a nice way of handling those moments. But the "gift" excuse has never let me down and is still a nice way of saying - oh, here's what the bag is in case you want to look it up for yourself, but let's not discuss finances in public, k? That way you're not putting someone in a difficult and humiliating spot in a public setting - because people tend to remember those moments and it's a good way to make closet enemies, IMO.
 
#47
Mediana said:
Unsafe? You think they gonna rob you for it? :confused1:
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It's been known to happen. There have been multiple threads about groups of teenaged girls who ask a woman about the authenticity of her bag, then follow her into the parking lot and mug her for it.


Mediana said:
I don't get why people would expect the worst in others.
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Hey, thanks for judging me. I don't get enough of that in real life. :nogood:

I have been judged for my bags & other habits. I recently lost a longtime friend because she couldn't handle how much I'd spent on one bag.
 
#50
doreenjoy said:
I have been judged for my bags & other habits. I recently lost a longtime friend because she couldn't handle how much I'd spent on one bag.
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Dynamite reason to give up a friendship! :sick: It shows you weren't true friends in the first place! The other kind is liking you by association.

The bottom line is if anyone needs to know the price of a bag, ask the person what bag they are wearing and Google it. One does not need to ever ask price. (Period. End of sentence.)
 
#51
BgaHolic said:
Dynamite reason to give up a friendship! :sick: It shows you weren't true friends in the first place! The other kind is liking you by association.
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She'd been a friend for a long time and we were very close. But she decided my bag thing was shallow and considering she was in a precarious financial situation, I understand how she felt. Didn't make it any easier tho.
 
#53
I feel that if it makes you happy and you are working hard, you have every right to enjoy your bag. I work very hard & never ask my husband for much. My bags make me so happy every time I use them & I use every one of them. I honestly only own 4 bags - only one that was expensive - my Chloe paraty - (but still got a discount). The other 2 I bought on Bonanza & sample sale. I won (really!) the 4th bag - a 1998 coach bag (Made in Italy!!) from a school fundraiser.

Some people buy diamonds, some motorcycles, some go on trips (worth the price of a luxury bag), some buy bags. I could never care what people spend their money on. It is none of my business. Anyone who asks is rude. Luckily I have never had anyone ask me that.
 
#55
TheAnni said:
I usually say "Enough" and smile..If somebody asks me rudely, I say "Google is your friend" instead.
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I was once asked by a person who is known to be VERY oboxious what my necklace cost.. Because he is so obnoxious, I just said, "That's not an appropriate question but feel free to look for it online"

but usually "I don't remember" is my answer.

I have to say that I really don't get asked all that much.. so hasn't been much of an issue
 
#57
doreenjoy said:
It's been known to happen. There have been multiple threads about groups of teenaged girls who ask a woman about the authenticity of her bag, then follow her into the parking lot and mug her for it.

Hey, thanks for judging me. I don't get enough of that in real life. :nogood:
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I'm sorry if it came off as judgmental but it was nothing personally. I'm just astound that so many feel that you should need to hide a price of a bag. And this regardless of what the bag might cost or where you bought it. In this case it could just as easily have been a bag from Target for $30.

I'm thinking that this is perhaps a cultural thing.
 
#58
I am starting to get insecure here that I have never had anyone ask me how much some I was wearing cost. I am sure there is a message in that somewhere.

My mother who was very very frugal always wanted to know how much things cost. I developed a standard adjustment factor. Just told her 1/3 of the true price. We got along much better after I figured that out.
 
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