How much did you spend on your engagement ring?

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#63
I dont know if it is a USA -v- UK thing but I had never heard of anyone "upgrading" their engagement rings until I found this forum and I have known several people who "started from nothing and made good" but still they or their wife wears the ring they were proposed to with even if it is only a few hundred dollars and the rest of their jewelery is worth millions.

The "tradition" was for 2 months salary to be spent, though this was created in the 1940s by DeBeers. Looking at a paper article from a few months ago they say the current average is 3 weeks salary being spent. If your fiancé earns very little then the ring should be within his budget or he should wait to get engaged until he is earning more.

I am also a traditionalist in that the guy should chose and buy the ring independently to be presented with the proposal.

In our case we followed the above and in our late 20s the ring was about $7,500
 
#64
Astaroth said:
I dont know if it is a USA -v- UK thing but I had never heard of anyone "upgrading" their engagement rings until I found this forum and I have known several people who "started from nothing and made good" but still they or their wife wears the ring they were proposed to with even if it is only a few hundred dollars and the rest of their jewelery is worth millions.

The "tradition" was for 2 months salary to be spent, though this was created in the 1940s by DeBeers. Looking at a paper article from a few months ago they say the current average is 3 weeks salary being spent. If your fiancé earns very little then the ring should be within his budget or he should wait to get engaged until he is earning more.

I am also a traditionalist in that the guy should chose and buy the ring independently to be presented with the proposal.

In our case we followed the above and in our late 20s the ring was about $7,500
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It is.
 
#67
I couldnt agree more:). I know people who are literally worth millions and still have the same engagement ring. I cant see myself ever getting a upgrade. Im not flashy and I know how long and hard ny fiancé took to pick out my diamond and design my ring. 1369853102023.jpg
The band isnt staying will wear on other hand with a pave band also and stack them.
 
#69
Astaroth said:
I dont know if it is a USA -v- UK thing but I had never heard of anyone "upgrading" their engagement rings until I found this forum and I have known several people who "started from nothing and made good" but still they or their wife wears the ring they were proposed to with even if it is only a few hundred dollars and the rest of their jewelery is worth millions.

The "tradition" was for 2 months salary to be spent, though this was created in the 1940s by DeBeers. Looking at a paper article from a few months ago they say the current average is 3 weeks salary being spent. If your fiancé earns very little then the ring should be within his budget or he should wait to get engaged until he is earning more.

I am also a traditionalist in that the guy should chose and buy the ring independently to be presented with the proposal.

In our case we followed the above and in our late 20s the ring was about $7,500
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I totally agree...... I haven't a clue what my DH spent on my ring and have no interest in knowing. All that matters to me is what it symbolises and I would never upgrade it for that reason.
 
#70
Astaroth said:
I dont know if it is a USA -v- UK thing but I had never heard of anyone "upgrading" their engagement rings until I found this forum and I have known several people who "started from nothing and made good" but still they or their wife wears the ring they were proposed to with even if it is only a few hundred dollars and the rest of their jewelery is worth millions.

The "tradition" was for 2 months salary to be spent, though this was created in the 1940s by DeBeers. Looking at a paper article from a few months ago they say the current average is 3 weeks salary being spent. If your fiancé earns very little then the ring should be within his budget or he should wait to get engaged until he is earning more.

I am also a traditionalist in that the guy should chose and buy the ring independently to be presented with the proposal.

In our case we followed the above and in our late 20s the ring was about $7,500
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It probably isn't your intention at all, but it sounds a bit judgemental to me... Isn't it great that everyone can make their own decisions towards upgrading or not.

I live in the Netherlands where an engagement ring isn't common, but a lot of couples choose very original wedding rings and some men propose with the wedding ring.

Upgrading is well known here and it's called 'growing diamond': some girl receive a ring on their 18th or 20th birthday and after a few years it can be upgraded... or not.
 
#71
Monica said:
It probably isn't your intention at all, but it sounds a bit judgemental to me
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Most of us do judge others based on our upbringing/ culture etc. That doesnt mean others cannot go against your opinion just you may not agree with it. This in itself is a long debate and would take things way off topic so will park it there.

To me, and I accept others will have different views, wedding bands, engagement rings etc are all tokens or symbols and are given at a point in time. Yes you can get another ring at another time but this isnt your engagement ring any more because the engagement ring is the ring you are given when you get engaged.

I also wonder the reason for wanting to upgrade it? Does having a bigger diamond mean that your partner must love you more than when he gave you the smaller one? Do "you" think others judge how strong a relationship is by the value of the womans left ring finger jewellery? Are you ashamed of the fact you didnt come from money and were engaged/ married young?

Anyway, going off topic
 
#72
Astaroth said:
Most of us do judge others based on our upbringing/ culture etc. That doesnt mean others cannot go against your opinion just you may not agree with it. This in itself is a long debate and would take things way off topic so will park it there.

To me, and I accept others will have different views, wedding bands, engagement rings etc are all tokens or symbols and are given at a point in time. Yes you can get another ring at another time but this isnt your engagement ring any more because the engagement ring is the ring you are given when you get engaged.

I also wonder the reason for wanting to upgrade it? Does having a bigger diamond mean that your partner must love you more than when he gave you the smaller one? Do "you" think others judge how strong a relationship is by the value of the womans left ring finger jewellery? Are you ashamed of the fact you didnt come from money and were engaged/ married young?

Anyway, going off topic
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Wow! You sure are making a lot of assumptions. You know what they say about making assumptions...
 
#74
Astaroth said:
Most of us do judge others based on our upbringing/ culture etc. That doesnt mean others cannot go against your opinion just you may not agree with it. This in itself is a long debate and would take things way off topic so will park it there.

To me, and I accept others will have different views, wedding bands, engagement rings etc are all tokens or symbols and are given at a point in time. Yes you can get another ring at another time but this isnt your engagement ring any more because the engagement ring is the ring you are given when you get engaged.

I also wonder the reason for wanting to upgrade it? Does having a bigger diamond mean that your partner must love you more than when he gave you the smaller one? Do "you" think others judge how strong a relationship is by the value of the womans left ring finger jewellery? Are you ashamed of the fact you didnt come from money and were engaged/ married young?

Anyway, going off topic
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WOW, I think this could be taken in a very inflammatory way! I think we should stay on topic here! :back2topic:
 
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