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Wow. So not the place I thought I would be posting this. TPF was my escape from reality
but so many of you seem to have gone through what I am. I never thought at this age (gulp...41) I would be deal with an ill father. Less than 5 years ago he was a prominent physician specializing in male infertility. He helped create so many beautiful babies for people who could not on their own. Now he is living in a nursing home, wheelchair bound. It KILLS me. I love him so much and it is so hard to watch his decline. It is so hard to watch the toll it is taking on my mom. etoupe...i can only imagine how hard it must have been for you and your dad. That is the one thing I am grateful for. We convinced my mother to move back close to my brother and i so we could all help. I am so sorry for your losses, etoupe, laney, cakey....and thanks for letting my share a bit of my story....
Wow. So not the place I thought I would be posting this. TPF was my escape from reality
I am so sorry for your losses, etoupe, laney, cakey....and thanks for letting my share a bit of my story....
This is exactly the place to put such a personal post, princess. When my father-in-law was trapped inside of his body, by Alzheimers, it was too tragic, because he didn't know what world he was in. Not sure what is wrong with your DF, but with my FIL, we made him picture books with large descriptions, saying, "This is ME with my Wife, Kathleen and my children, Tom, Dick and Harry." He clung to that book until he passed away. He never knew my MIL passed away before him. He was a cop; a detective, with the sharpest mind, always interrogating, loved stories of family trips, etc. It was so very sad to see him decline in such a way. Unfortunately for us, we live over 500 miles away. He finally passed away due to some physical thing.
I so understand what you are going through. My mom lived with us until she passed away.
So sad for you. But, on the other hand that's what chat vibes are for, and let's get right to it:
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Good morning, Purse, Restricter.
What's the word on Winky today? Anything new? Hopefully, it's just an infection and nothing that a few antibiotics can't take care of.
What's the word on Winky today? Anything new? Hopefully, it's just an infection and nothing that a few antibiotics can't take care of.
Ok don't throw hamburger buns at me but I just have to say to anyone that loves In-N-Out, try Five Guys, (oh my, in and out, five guys, really there is a lot of cookie material there for creative minds
Five guys is AWESOME!!!! We do not have In-N-Out here, but I wish we did. I hear it's awesome.
Hugs to you!!
And restricter and Laney, the story of my Dad's passing last year is a synthesis of your shared sadnesses. I had been competing at a horse show on a rainy, nasty Sunday, and I left the show early because I was cold and tired and wet. When I got home my stepmother called to say that she was at the nursing home with my Dad and he wasn't doing so well -- very agitated and distressed, and he had been in a state of decline for weeks. So I changed into dry clothes and told her I'd be there within the hour. As I was getting into my truck -- not twenty minutes later -- my phone rang again, and I saw it was Brenda. I answered with, "I'm on my way, I'll be there soon" to which she replied, "It's too late, he's gone." She went on to describe how he was slipping in and out of consciousness, and was extremely agitated, like he knew what was happening and he was fighting it like a drowning man, struggling to keep his head above water.
I just sat in my truck for a while, kind of dumbstruck, listening to the rain pelt the roof while I tried to make sense of it all.
On the one hand, I am extremely sad that I was not able to get there in time to be there for him and with him at the end, but on the other, I am somewhat grateful that I was not witness to his extreme anxiety about leaving this earth.
There's no way that this is ever an easy thing, and when it's complicated with feelings of "what if" it's even worse. But everyone is right, Laney, it is what it is and you can't change history, and your father didn't love you less for not being there at the end.
I'm just glad you could be with your mom when the news came.
Hugs Cakey!!! That's a similar story to my grandfather's passing. Although, I was at work and had to drive myself to his nursing home. I had to pull over so many times because I just couldn't stop crying.
Can't wait to see your new bag.
Morning peeps
Good Morning!!
Wow. So not the place I thought I would be posting this. TPF was my escape from reality
I am so sorry for your losses, etoupe, laney, cakey....and thanks for letting my share a bit of my story....
Hugs!! My grandfather lived for ten years with Alzheimer's. I still remember the day he didn't know who I was. I helped care for him and I know how hard it is to do. I currently care for Grandmother. I wouldn't trade the time I had with my grandfather for anything, he is the only "father" I ever knew. My dad died when I was 6 months old. While caring for my grandmother is difficult, I don't mind doing it. She cared for me when I was little and she means the world to me. I love that I'm so close to her. I can't even think about losing her without crying.
Alzheimer's is such a sad disease.
Hugs to all.
I just try to remember that we are blessed to have our families, some people have no one. I never had a dad and I never missed it as I didn't know what it was like. I didn't start missing having a dad until I was older. I would do anything to have one day with him. Just one day.
BBL...thank you so much for your kind words!! Doctors cannot give it an exact diagnoses. Doesn't quite fit Alzheimers. May be frontal lobe dementia. It is physical and mental degeneration. We have been doing similar things. I made labels for his night table with my mother, my brother and my phone numbers so he can call us whenever he wants. I put up pictures on his window ledge of all us too. We are fortunate enough to be close. I bring my boys there at least once a week to see him. I want them to remember as much as they can of him. We wanted to keep him at home but physically and mentally it was not safe for him anymore. He was in the hospital and the hospital would not release him to our house because of his condition. We make sure he has visitors everyday.
So sorry to hear about your fil. It is so hard to watch....
OK..onto happier things...I am posting pics of my outfit today...xoxo
So sorry to hear about your fil. It is so hard to watch....
OK..onto happier things...I am posting pics of my outfit today...xoxo
Awww, first Chat Kill of the new year. Night, all...
B'mom--I was stranded on the couch last night without my gadgets and Collin sleeping on my lap. Not wanting to wake him up, I remained "unplugged". He had physical therapy yesterday and was a tired boy, falling asleep at 7 and except for a few brief wakings, slept through until I woke him at 6:30!
B'mom--I was stranded on the couch last night without my gadgets and Collin sleeping on my lap. Not wanting to wake him up, I remained "unplugged". He had physical therapy yesterday and was a tired boy, falling asleep at 7 and except for a few brief wakings, slept through until I woke him at 6:30!
That's fab ck!
The sun is out here as well but it's cold. It's about 35 degrees and windy. Do you like the latte's from Keurig? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those machine.
Cleaning up a house to put it up for sale is so much work. I helped my grandmother when she sold her home. I could not believe all the stuff she had. She did live there for over 30 years. I should clean my house, just to declutter. I think I may feel lighter kwim?
Cleaning up a house to put it up for sale is so much work. I helped my grandmother when she sold her home. I could not believe all the stuff she had. She did live there for over 30 years. I should clean my house, just to declutter. I think I may feel lighter kwim?
Hi Mree. The Keurig doesn't make lattes, but the Tassimo does. From past experience I can tell you they are quite good. But we decided to go with the Keurig because it's easier to find coffee for it. The Tassimo discs can only be found at Bed Bath and Beyond or sometimes at Target. Of course they have a subscription service... We love our Keurig. We are not into fancy coffees.
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