Hermes Cafe Bon Temps~Good Times Cafe

[EmileH]

Yes RBF is a thing and I have it. ha ha The passage of time and gravity contribute to it for me.. There were a bunch of you tube videos about it over the last couple of years. Everyone assumes you are unhappy or annoyed or judgmental. Face reading software says it is faint contempt. Kanye West is the prototype for male RBF. Do not practice it. Don't ever let your face go there for the first time if you can avoid it. It is not a good thing.

And by the way, you don't have it. Your resting face is friendly but dignified. [emoji4]

Darn shouldn't put a smiley face. Is the an emoji for RBF?

I think I found it [emoji19]

 

[klynneann]

I'm kind of reading it as "don't f@&# with me face. Don't even think about f#*&@ing with me." And at the moment I'm finding that very appealing. [emoji23][emoji23]

Yes! That's how I use it.

 

[periogirl28]

May I just contribute to the RBF discussion and say it can be very useful. Just last week I came round the garden square to see one guy on the lookout and his accomplice trying very amateurly (is this a word?) to steal a motorbike by whacking at the lock with a screwdriver. I stared at the guys for 2 seconds and they then rushed on their scooter and left. In case you think it's foolhardy, this was a bright day at 2.30 pm, with a outdoor cafe just there and big tourists groups, one of which just then came by 30 seconds later. I live near places of historic interest, with high police presence because it's near a royal home. Nevertheless, I got a good scolding from 9 year old DS, and DH, later that night. I'll like to think the RBF saved someone their bike!

 

[EmileH]

May I just contribute to the RBF discussion and say it can be very useful. Just last week I came round the garden square to see one guy on the lookout and his accomplice trying very amateurly (is this a word?) to steal a motorbike by whacking at the lock with a screwdriver. I stared at the guys for 2 seconds and they then rushed on their scooter and left. In case you think it's foolhardy, this was a bright day at 2.30 pm, with a outdoor cafe just there and big tourists groups, one of which just then came by 30 seconds later. I live near places of historic interest, with high police presence because it's near a royal home. Nevertheless, I got a good scolding from 9 year old DS, and DH, later that night. I'll like to think the RBF saved someone their bike!

Excellent use of RBF. Good for you. I think I need to cultivate this skill.

 

[periogirl28]

Excellent use of RBF. Good for you. I think I need to cultivate this skill.

Use only when necessary.

 

[MadMadCat]

I missed the update to your post. Yes it looked like a key to me too. I'll have to go back to see the dress. I really like some of the ready to wear. They are stepping up their game. I will probably have to forego a skirt for now but I'm hoping for at least one or two pieces.


I'm excited about this suit from the Chanel show. Wouldn't it look great with my colvert Kelly?
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This is suit is gorgeous. Is it a slit in the front of the skirt? It may make it a tad less usable T

Am I the last person on earth to know about this: apparently this is lily rose depp who Wikipedia tells me is the 17 year old daughter of Johnny depp. I asked DH if he thought she practiced this facial expression and he explained to me that this is resting b#+%h face. It's a thing? Really? I wonder if I should practice it. Or maybe get more Botox? It seems like the look might ward off any nonsense to which others might seek to subject one. I might try it. View attachment 3484500

I was not aware of the existence of a definition for that expression, but I've seen it in practice on many women's faces!! I also think it is more of a European thing than a US thing. It reminded me of the movie "French Kiss" when Meg Ryan asks Kevin Kline about the pout that some French women wear

 

[MadMadCat]

A few times a year I get into a beading frenzy and will work 12 hours straight if necessary to get the necklace right. I get beads either at shows or Bedazzled. I don't see as many artist glass beads available as I did so the necklaces are simpler and of course, cheaper. But I miss the color harmonies prompted by a humongous center bead set in a multi-strand necklace. I can see why seniors take up quilting. Working out patterns and color coordination/harmonies is really relaxing.

You have taken necklaces to the next level by moving beyond beads. I like Uno de 50 bracelets and rings -- I have a chunky bracelet by them. The key designs sound great. Innovative. And any movement might make the keys chime a little bit, a plus. I will have to search Uno de 50 for that key design, I'd like to see it -- and, anything of yours. My necklaces are probably not as visually arresting as yours.

you're too kind and too modest, Eagle! My necklaces are usually quite simple. I use natural stones almost exclusively, in multistrand or in very chunky necklaces.
It is a periodic activity for me. I go years without beading, and then all of a sudden I have the need to come up with something. It is directly related to my level of stress, beading helps me deal with difficult situation. It is my good place.

Ths is the Uno de 50 key necklace (credit to their website):

I like their designs but I was told their piece would not tarnish...they do!

 

[EmileH]

This is suit is gorgeous. Is it a slit in the front of the skirt? It may make it a tad less usable T



I was not aware of the existence of a definition for that expression, but I've seen it in practice on many women's faces!! I also think it is more of a European thing than a US thing. It reminded me of the movie "French Kiss" when Meg Ryan asks Kevin Kline about the pout that some French women wear

Oh yes. I know exactly the scene of which you speak. Love that movie. I had to stay at the George V just once in my life because of that movie. I was disappointed that it wasn't anything like the movie.

The slit is a zipper that can be zipped closed

 

[Cordeliere]

And by the way, you don't have it. Your resting face is friendly but dignified.

You are so sweet. Thank you.

I'm kind of reading it as "don't f@&# with me face. Don't even think about f#*&@ing with me." And at the moment I'm finding that very appealing. [emoji23][emoji23]

Here is a tip. RBF is more a mouth thing. DFWM is more an eyes thing. Glaring is not as damaging to your face as frowning IMHO. Eye intensity scares people. Their reaction is "anything but just don't look at me that way."

 

[MadMadCat]

Oh yes. I know exactly the scene of which you speak. Love that movie. I had to stay at the George V just once in my life because of that movie. I was disappointed that it wasn't anything like the movie.

The slit is a zipper that can be zipped closed

Good about the zipper! I actually like the short sleeves in spring/summer jackets.They were quite common 20 years ago, and then disappeared. I loved to have suits that I could wear in the summer without cooking.

Somehow, I am always a bit disappointed with hotels I see in movies. I think they film in the royal suite, not in the room I book from the web

 

[MadMadCat]

Here is a tip. RBF is more a mouth thing. DFWM is more an eyes thing. Glaring is not as damaging to your face as frowning IMHO. Eye intensity scares people. Their reaction is "anything but just don't look at me that way."

I agree 100%. My mom has the RBF face, naturally. That has not been helping her in life. She never gets away with asking a favor to someone she does not know (something like "excuse me, do you happen to have change to break $1?") People perceive her as cold and they don't go an extra inch to help her. It also makes everything she says much harsher.

I, on the other hand, I have a DFWM developed with years of working in a 99% male environment, where women were (are?) underestimated. I also use it when I do public presentation and speeches. It is the quickest way to make someone in the room stop chatting.

 

[EmileH]

You are so sweet. Thank you.



Here is a tip. RBF is more a mouth thing. DFWM is more an eyes thing. Glaring is not as damaging to your face as frowning IMHO. Eye intensity scares people. Their reaction is "anything but just don't look at me that way."

Ok thanks for the tip. I'll work on that.

Good about the zipper! I actually like the short sleeves in spring/summer jackets.They were quite common 20 years ago, and then disappeared. I loved to have suits that I could wear in the summer without cooking.

Somehow, I am always a bit disappointed with hotels I see in movies. I think they film in the royal suite, not in the room I book from the web

So true.

 

[MadMadCat]

All photos credit of the H website:

This is the pendant and I really like the dress, too.


This is the gorgeous skirt that PPBP is considering, with the bracelet associated to the pendant


and this is the dress I like

 

[EmileH]

All photos credit of the H website:

This is the pendant and I really like the dress, too.
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This is the gorgeous skirt that PPBP is considering, with the bracelet associated to the pendant
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and this is the dress I like
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Thank you for finding these! You are awesome. I really love the skirt. The SA at the rtw event at my local store was wearing one in brown from a past season and it was similar in shape to this black one. I think I like this even better than the pleated one. It's also probably less expensive. The pleated one with the silk was the most expensive skirt they had because of the workmanship involved. I also love the jewelry. Something to look forward to.

 

[Mindi B]

RBF is a mildly amusing observation. It is also yet another example of how our society polices every single thing about women. We must have a certain body type with very specific features (big this, small that, flat the other thing), appropriate makeup (a celeb choosing not to wear cosmetics is headline news?), a well-chosen hair style (no "mom hair," gasp). Our clothing must thread the needle every day: not too sexy but not too dowdy and fashionable but age-appropriate but tasteful. . . . Now even our natural facial expression, that thing that, by definition, nobody thinks about, is supposed to be curated to be . . . what? Attractive? Approachable? Youthful? Because Heaven forbid that any woman, ever, doesn't meet the aesthetic expectations of the rest of the world. Yes, I understand that if someone seems to be glowering, this can be off-putting. But only for women is facial expression such an "issue" that it has been given its own, disrespectful title. To summarize my opinion: phooey on RBF.