If it's the only piece you will get for a while, I vote for the Cartier BB. If it's part of a collection, Cartier Love is a must have, so both Cartier pieces.
Help me pick between Chanel or Cartier!
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Thought I would keep you gals updated...
So I was planning to re-visit my local Cartier next week to purchase the watch (still undecided on the size)...and my bf told me he was not supportive of my purchase
He told me he thought it was silly to spend 6k on a watch and how it's not worth it. He went on to tell me how I should be saving this money for something that we may "need" down the near future (wedding, home, etc) ... btw we are not engaged yet... and now I'm just so frustrated!!! We don't share finances or anything at this time, but he says he is really just looking out for me. i realllly really don't feel like getting into an argument over a watch 
I don't know what to do now I really want it, and yes, I can afford it, but I do understand where he is coming from at the same time.....and i don't want to have to hide it if i do end up buying it.. maybe this means I just have to wait until my birthday to buy it..which is still a long time away!! *cries* which means it will be a price increase by then! argh.....
So I was planning to re-visit my local Cartier next week to purchase the watch (still undecided on the size)...and my bf told me he was not supportive of my purchase
He told me he thought it was silly to spend 6k on a watch and how it's not worth it. He went on to tell me how I should be saving this money for something that we may "need" down the near future (wedding, home, etc) ... btw we are not engaged yet... and now I'm just so frustrated!!! We don't share finances or anything at this time, but he says he is really just looking out for me. i realllly really don't feel like getting into an argument over a watch I don't know what to do now I really want it, and yes, I can afford it, but I do understand where he is coming from at the same time.....and i don't want to have to hide it if i do end up buying it.. maybe this means I just have to wait until my birthday to buy it..which is still a long time away!! *cries* which means it will be a price increase by then! argh.....Thought I would keep you gals updated...
So I was planning to re-visit my local Cartier next week to purchase the watch (still undecided on the size)...and my bf told me he was not supportive of my purchase
If he is okay with you buying the watch as your birthday present, maybe you should have a discussion with him about the price increase and that you are actually "saving money" by buying it before the price increase as an advance birthday present. That is if you are sure you are going to want to buy it later anyways.
If he is okay with you buying the watch as your birthday present, maybe you should have a discussion with him about the price increase and that you are actually "saving money" by buying it before the price increase as an advance birthday present. That is if you are sure you are going to want to buy it later anyways.
Yeah!! I so know what you mean. I tried telling him this, but I'm starting to think he may not me okay with me buying it period
he would mention "ok for your birthday" but when I tell him about the price increase, he just goes on and on to say what a waste of $$ it is
Hmm you guys are not even engaged and he is talking about saving for a house? Do what you like with your money honey. Men don't control you, or not yet. Lol
Sorry to say that you must look at the whole picture here. Is he buying it? NO. Is it his business? NO. Why is it not his business…because you are not married.
Do yourself a favor and figure out NOW if you like his controlling of your habits when you're not even engaged, let alone married. Things will NOT get better in that department….something to think about. If I were you I would buy WHATEVER THE ---- YOU WANT. If you are happy buying ONLY what HE wants then I'm out of line.
I think I speak for the majority in saying that when you're single that is the time more so than ever to buy whatever you want! Good luck to you!
I have two daughters and God help the guy that tries to control their money!
luxury items are expensive….it's a fact of life. I realize it's a sticker shock to many people, but if you can afford it , you have the right to spend your money how you so choose.
Do yourself a favor and figure out NOW if you like his controlling of your habits when you're not even engaged, let alone married. Things will NOT get better in that department….something to think about. If I were you I would buy WHATEVER THE ---- YOU WANT. If you are happy buying ONLY what HE wants then I'm out of line.
I think I speak for the majority in saying that when you're single that is the time more so than ever to buy whatever you want! Good luck to you!
I have two daughters and God help the guy that tries to control their money!
luxury items are expensive….it's a fact of life. I realize it's a sticker shock to many people, but if you can afford it , you have the right to spend your money how you so choose.
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You haven't combined finances and aren't engaged? Then HE is not allowed to determine how you spend YOUR money. I always told my fiance (before he was my DH) that when we had a ring and a date then maybe we would talk about future plans. Until then, if you let him decide this for you, you have all the BAD parts of a committed relationship and none of the good ones (like, uh, the commitment!).
This so much.
I'd never let a guy dictate what I do with MY money. Unless we are sharing finances or in a position where my spending habits impact on a shared responsibility (e.g. mortgage), what I do with my money is my business. I'm fine with him being concerned, but he should trust that I am responsible enough to know what I'm doing.
Pretty much this exactly! If my BF, FI or DH ever commented on my spending habits with my money the $hit would hit the fan. I want my partner to be supportive and if they think that spending my own money to buy something I really want is silly then I don't find that to be supportive. Yes he might be concerned about dropping so much on a piece of jewelry but ultimately if you are financially stable and can afford it then it is none of his concern. I say you go ahead and buy it...don't hide it. I don't mean to dive into your relationship as only you really know the details, but if you feel the need to hide purchases from him now then what are you going to be hiding from him in the future. It is best to just sit down and explain how you feel about this. He will either accept it or not. And if he doesn't it is up to you to decide how you feel about that. To me this is much more then spending 6k on a bracelet.