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No girl not you!!! I copied your statement because I agree with you
Oh phew! Hahaha! I was thinking...why are you mad at me? I was being nice...waaaahhh lol
Thanks for clarifying 😊
Yes. A forum about bags is a place for people to have fun, relax, and enjoy themselves. We aren't discussing heated issues like politics or religion here. There is no excuse in saying things in a rude way. Does everyone agree in life? No. But that doesn't mean you have to be nasty; especially on a forum about material goods.
Why is it when someone expresses an opinion that is different from others, that it is called blunt, nasty and rude?
No, this forum is not about politics, religion or other hot button issues. But there is no reason why responses to threads cannot be direct, blunt, respectful, well thought out and contain common sense.
And just because an opinion is different doesn't make it rude. In fact, right now, I am disagreeing with your comment - but I'm not being rude to you. I just have a different opinion than yours. And that's okay.
People can read all the different comments on a thread and then form their own opinion on the subject. That's a good thing!
To try to suppress someone's opinion because it's different from yours is censorship. And that's a bad thing!
The difference of opinion is not the problem. It is how it is stated. There have been many snarky comments on this forum the past few days. The world would be a boring place if we all agreed. I'm just saying if you disagree with someone then do so with respect. You never know if someone is already having a bad day and that one comment you say that you think isn't THAT bad to be the thing that pushes them from a bad day to a horrible day. I just think people should be respectful. I believe it's better to build people up than tear them down. Like I said before. I think this forum is a place of enjoyment for most here. For me, I look forward to your mod shots everyday. I would love to raid your closet! !
This too +1.
The real world nor this forum is all hugs & kisses or rainbows & kittens. There is thunder & lightning and differing opinions & arguments. If you ask for an opinon on ANY board, don't get your knickers in a twist over the opinions you don't like. AND don't try to say that people are being rude just because you don't like or agree with that opinion. A remark may sound rude to one person, but not to another.....who is to say who is right?
Put your big girl panties on and deal with it or just suck it up and move on.
But that's just it - what you consider snarky comments, are not considered snarky by others. Everyone has their own opinion on a subject, and if that opinion is not to my liking - I move on. Or I post my own opinion - as I've done here.
I think all of the comments I've seen on this thread and others you are referring to have been respectful. That is my point.
If someone is so fragile that comments good or bad, on an internet message board are going to affect their psyche that easily - then there other issues at play here that are best left to the professionals.
And thank you for the nice comment about the mod shots. I love to look at pictures of the bags and mod shots, so I post my own in case someone else likes looking at them too.
I have been on this forum for many years and these types of threads tend to escalate to drama and get shut down pretty quickly. As I said in my earlier post to this thread, I have been to the store that the OP is talking about, it is in a university town and there are sales people there that are bored university college students working part time. The customer service can at times be horrible at that store.
The OP sounds like she has a personal situation (handicapped child in a wheelchair) that keeps her from shopping often or getting around easily. Why would anyone on this forum judge that circumstance and say that she is demanding too much, when she asked for an at home pick-up of miss-ordered merchandise? If you have not walked in the original posters shoe's as to the difficulty of shopping and returning items, then why not do the rational sane thing and refrain from commenting on post office distance, return feasibility and other parts of this post that you know absolutely nothing about?
There were a few posts in this thread that were blatantly rude. If someone is saying "what do you want to the manager to do? Come to your house personally?" That can in NO way be interpreted as simply "feedback". Insults and nasty comments are a bit more than feedback.
Many of us buy handbags and come to this forum to to escape the rigor and stress of our daily lives for a few minutes. Snarky rude comments only make this place one less safe place to escape for a few minutes of supportive recreation.
And ask any long time member of this forum and they will tell you that I have been known over the years for expressing my opinion freely.
I am NOT for censorship of any kind at all. I am for nasty judgmental people keeping their unsolicited comments to themselves however.
Just my opinion.....
The OP sounds like she has a personal situation (handicapped child in a wheelchair) that keeps her from shopping often or getting around easily. Why would anyone on this forum judge that circumstance and say that she is demanding too much, when she asked for an at home pick-up of miss-ordered merchandise? If you have not walked in the original posters shoe's as to the difficulty of shopping and returning items, then why not do the rational sane thing and refrain from commenting on post office distance, return feasibility and other parts of this post that you know absolutely nothing about?
There were a few posts in this thread that were blatantly rude. If someone is saying "what do you want to the manager to do? Come to your house personally?" That can in NO way be interpreted as simply "feedback". Insults and nasty comments are a bit more than feedback.
Many of us buy handbags and come to this forum to to escape the rigor and stress of our daily lives for a few minutes. Snarky rude comments only make this place one less safe place to escape for a few minutes of supportive recreation.
And ask any long time member of this forum and they will tell you that I have been known over the years for expressing my opinion freely.
I am NOT for censorship of any kind at all. I am for nasty judgmental people keeping their unsolicited comments to themselves however. Just my opinion.....
IMO when a business makes a mistake it up to THEM to correct it. They should send a call tag to her home, she needs not do anything IMHO. It's really so easy to keep people happy. . . do the right thing, earn their business.
As far as drama, delivery is everything. Remember people cannot hear your inflection or read your body language, better to always err on the side of kindness. Being honest doesn't have to = blunt and rude. Getting reminders and/or being banned for being rude on a website isn't worth it IMO.
As far as drama, delivery is everything. Remember people cannot hear your inflection or read your body language, better to always err on the side of kindness. Being honest doesn't have to = blunt and rude. Getting reminders and/or being banned for being rude on a website isn't worth it IMO.
I have been on this forum for many years and these types of threads tend to escalate to drama and get shut down pretty quickly. As I said in my earlier post to this thread, I have been to the store that the OP is talking about, it is in a university town and there are sales people there that are bored university college students working part time. The customer service can at times be horrible at that store.
The OP sounds like she has a personal situation (handicapped child in a wheelchair) that keeps her from shopping often or getting around easily. Why would anyone on this forum judge that circumstance and say that she is demanding too much, when she asked for an at home pick-up of miss-ordered merchandise? If you have not walked in the original posters shoe's as to the difficulty of shopping and returning items, then why not do the rational sane thing and refrain from commenting on post office distance, return feasibility and other parts of this post that you know absolutely nothing about?
There were a few posts in this thread that were blatantly rude. If someone is saying "what do you want to the manager to do? Come to your house personally?" That can in NO way be interpreted as simply "feedback". Insults and nasty comments are a bit more than feedback.
Many of us buy handbags and come to this forum to to escape the rigor and stress of our daily lives for a few minutes. Snarky rude comments only make this place one less safe place to escape for a few minutes of supportive recreation.
And ask any long time member of this forum and they will tell you that I have been known over the years for expressing my opinion freely.
Just my opinion.....
I completely agree. Also I think this has rubbed me the wrong way even more so because I know how difficult a situation like this can be. I'm a music therapist who deals with clients who are mentally and physically disabled. I've seen how hard day to day life can be for my clients and their families. What may seem like a simple outing can be very difficult and stressful. It was actually one of my adult clients who told me about this forum. She loves bags and is on here occasionally. She has told me she likes how no one here knows that she is a bit "different" than the average individual. She has to deal with enough in the real world and was bullied when she was school aged. This forum is one of the places she goes to get away and feel like everyone else.
With that being said. I'm done discussing anything else on this topic. Back to just looking at pretty bags and accessories.
I have been on this forum for many years and these types of threads tend to escalate to drama and get shut down pretty quickly. As I said in my earlier post to this thread, I have been to the store that the OP is talking about, it is in a university town and there are sales people there that are bored university college students working part time. The customer service can at times be horrible at that store.
The OP sounds like she has a personal situation (handicapped child in a wheelchair) that keeps her from shopping often or getting around easily. Why would anyone on this forum judge that circumstance and say that she is demanding too much, when she asked for an at home pick-up of miss-ordered merchandise? If you have not walked in the original posters shoe's as to the difficulty of shopping and returning items, then why not do the rational sane thing and refrain from commenting on post office distance, return feasibility and other parts of this post that you know absolutely nothing about?
There were a few posts in this thread that were blatantly rude. If someone is saying "what do you want to the manager to do? Come to your house personally?" That can in NO way be interpreted as simply "feedback". Insults and nasty comments are a bit more than feedback.
Many of us buy handbags and come to this forum to to escape the rigor and stress of our daily lives for a few minutes. Snarky rude comments only make this place one less safe place to escape for a few minutes of supportive recreation.
And ask any long time member of this forum and they will tell you that I have been known over the years for expressing my opinion freely.
Just my opinion.....
But that's just it. All of the above is your opinion based on your personal viewpoints. I may or may not agree with it but I respect that you can freely express that opinion.
That's what everyone has been doing on this thread. How long someone has been a member is not relevant to having an opinion.
The OP asked for opinions and should have been ready to receive them whether she liked them or not.
OP has just as much right to call out people for being snarky as responders do to make flippant comments suggesting she doesn't want to leave her house.
I agree with you, it's unacceptable expecting you to return the bag before they send the right one when it was their mistake.
OP simply expected that customer service would have her return the unwanted bag after she received the correct one and to apologize for the hassle. Her tone was a reflection of your own, so I don't know why you're getting up in arms.
I agree with you, it's unacceptable expecting you to return the bag before they send the right one when it was their mistake.
OP simply expected that customer service would have her return the unwanted bag after she received the correct one and to apologize for the hassle. Her tone was a reflection of your own, so I don't know why you're getting up in arms.
