Family and Friends give you grief over your Handbag addiction?

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I think I get more flack for my sunglasses & shoes addiction. I haven't bought an expensive bag in a really long time. I'm financially independent, so no one can really give me a hard time. Now that I live with dbf... we shall see. I have a feeling this story isn't over - lol
 
I don't get much grief. My family really doesn't notice. Every once in a while my mom will notice a bag I am carrying and just say "You have always loved bags" and thats it. My friends also have designer bags and understand my passion.
 
Just curios if others hear the same lectures I do.

I constantly get so much grief from family and some friends about my handbag addiction. People cant understand it and think it's nuts to hear somebody spent $500+ on a bag. I would say in an average month I go through at least 3 new bags. Now I also will turn right around and sell them in order to fund the next purchase. But I cant help it, I just love bags. I could no joke browse bags online all day. I have a few friends that are into designer bags but none that are really the same way I am. I find myself even hiding purchases. It's not about the money as I would never fund a handbag purchase before paying bills. I also have never paid for a bag with a CC, always cash. I'm at a point now where I have enough money from selling bags to always cover the next bag. But I just find myself not wanting to hear "you dont need that, not another one, looks just like the last one, how much this time....". I guess what I'm getting at is if it's not causing financial stress, I'm not hurting anyone else, why does everyone care so much what you spend on a bag? Why do they care so much if you get several bags at a time?

Anyone else in my shoes?


I get crap like this all the time, and I'm too old to put up with it. I use the same response every time:

"It's so nice of you to be concerned about my finances. If I ever need a loan, you'll be the first person I call."

I also say: "You know, that's really none of your business" a LOT.
 
I am so glad this is a thread. Mu husband is really on me about my bags. However, like someone else said I sell to fund. I am for sure not taking money for bills to do it. I actually met an awesome friend by buying and selling on on craig's list (I sometimes use CL, but usually ebay). We can talk hours a day about handbags, shoes, accessories. We even read purse forum together. I think my hubby is a little jelous he doesnt get that time with me.
 
as i was reading this forum i told my bf "there are people on this forum whose bfs get into fights with them over how much they spend on bags, i'm glad you're not like that." and he goes "if you want to light your money on fire, you are free to do that." haha.

i freaked out when i thought i lost my mj scarf that cost a few hundred and my parents thought i was crazy and should have me committed.
 
as i was reading this forum i told my bf "there are people on this forum whose bfs get into fights with them over how much they spend on bags, i'm glad you're not like that." and he goes "if you want to light your money on fire, you are free to do that." haha.

i freaked out when i thought i lost my mj scarf that cost a few hundred and my parents thought i was crazy and should have me committed.

Thanks for making me laugh. I wish my husband had the same attitude as your bf. He doesn't. But I do love him and I do love handbags. I hope he doesnt make me choose because it's snowing outside and he will freeze to death out there:p
 
Omg, this is the reason I'm on tpf almost 24/7. I moved here (Chicago) when I got married so all my friends are out of state, they can't sympathize, live,with my bag addiction. My husband thinks I'm crazy. We could buy another nice car with what I spend on bags. I'm trying to cut back, it's difficult because there are so many cute bags out there. And my being on tpf all the time only fuels it, I think. I would read about different bags or spot yet another one I think I have to have. So, like a few here already said, I sell the ones I don't use that are new, to buy more bags. Vicious cycle, I know. What's disturbing me a little is that I get so obsessed with a bag that I have to buy it then once I get it and have it, I don't even use it. Like recently (within the last two months), I have purchased 2 LV, 2 Chloe, and 2 Chanels. They are unused and probably will remain unused. I enjoy looking at them but I'm sure I'm not going to be using them. Yeah, I probably need help. lol
 
Speaking of good friends, ANSWER your phone chicky! Yes I get the same from my husband, he doesnt understand. If it were up to him I would have 1 bag and 1 pair of shoes.:hugs:

Hey there you are. Didn't see you called. It is almost midnight and I am still up so I thought I would check TPF. I am sure you are up but if I talk on the phone it will wake the bag scrooge. Did you buy something?
 
My friends - well, they don't understand it, but I don't understand their spending habits. I have enough handbags so they have taken over my closet - my friends have enough clothes so they need two closets. It works, somehow.

My family - one Christmas we got into a squabble about everything for the last 20 years. A true battle royale. We agreed that I wouldn't comment on my cousins' smoking, they wouldn't comment on my bags, and no one would talk about drinking unless exchanging recipes. All we have left to fight about is real estate! Meanwhile, my aunts give my mother grief over my posessions - but they like to find fault with everyone including their own children.

My coworkers are my big problem. One of them used to work in fashion, and is obcessed with all the latest trends. She is also saving up for a new house, and hasn't bought a bag in a year. So when I wear sunglasses or carry a new bag, she announces to the entire office how much the bag cost, and makes somewhat snarky comments. I then reposte by telling how little I paid.
It's a source of frustration - but what's my options? Only carry them on weekends?
 
Hi. I am obsessed with handbags but I typically don't actually buy all the pieces I want. I will just look at them online and buy some here and there.

My mother feels I am too obsessed and this is my collection:

1 Marc Jacobs Bag
1 Burberry (from 2002)
3 Le Pliage
2 Louis Vuitton (From 2002)

I think anything in excess is detrimental but as John Lennon says: Whatever gets you through the night...its alright.
 
Like others have said, I constantly consider the $$ I spend on bags as an alternate to other expenses. Facial at the spa, or spend the same $140 on a bag? One alternative lasts an hour or so, the other? I get to carry for years to come... so who says I'm not spending wisely? :D

My husband, however, still does not understand spending hundreds of dollars on a bag when you could buy a gun instead (his collector's hobby) "and that can kill someone." Leave it to the former Marine to see things in that light.

ETA: My friends, for the most part, don't know bags and therefore don't know what I typiucally spend.
 
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