Yes, i have and i wanted to stay, but that notion lasted only for a very very short time. This is regards to my 5 year relationship in my early 20s. This is going to be long... sorry in advance.
The 5 year relationship was just soooo crazy but i'm going to try to sum it up in a nutshell. Yea, everyone goes through their ups and downs so to make it clear, it wasn't a 5 year straight relationship... sometimes we just needed our space, but we always came back to each other... I thought it was fate, I was soooo in love. OK, the first sign was when one of the times we got back together i was at his house and a girl threw a brick through his window.. I was like WTF? I thought i was going to get killed seriously.... (no fury like a woman's scorn type of deal)... but I handled it pretty well. After awhile, I went outside and I told her everything that was told to me. She was hysterical, he was crying and i was just numb. I told him, that i'm not letting him choose and i wish them the best of luck and drove off. He kept calling me for two weeks straight crying until i took him back.... so like a dumb-a$$, I did.
Everything is good for the next few months, then one day out of the blue, i just started getting anxiety attacks... just started trippin off of my boyfriend for NO REASON. I rationalized to myself, i'm just trippin out... he didn't do anything wrong at all, in fact he was on point with everything
(maybe that was the clue). Then the following week, i had the weirdest dream about him with another woman... I thought to myself again, he's not giving me obvious clues, maybe I'm feeling insecure. The week after that, I swear to you a psychic walked up to me and told me that someone is trying to break up my man and I. And the finale--- that evening, she calls my house phone all night and telling me she's pregnant with his baby. So i'm just there, feeling stupid as hell... i couldn't have a reaction to that. He acted confused. And that evening, the girl even tried to commit suicide and jumped off a 4 story building...and didn't even die
So he supposedly finally ended it w/ her.
Aftermath: when he told me he loved me, he would say,
i really love you like everything had to be over emphasized. I couldn't deal w/ it.. i really still wanted to work everything out but i really wasn't happy because i couldn't believe anymore. He ended it, and we parted ways.... Afterwards, sometimes we'd run into each other and then we'd hook up for awhile. I was just in a rotten state of mind. Then one day maybe months later after the break up, i get a call from this girl telling me she found my number in her fiance's gym bag. OMG I've been suckered again! so after that, instead of calling him up and venting or whatever else... i made a pact w/ myself to NEVER SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN because I don't want to feel like this all the time.. it's not worth it. And I guess that's that.
Funny thing is 3 years later i run into him at a party and I still kept to my promise, I didn't say a word and just kept on living. That breakup was the BEST thing that ever happened to me. I wouldn't have the life i live now if I was still w/ that.
Lesson 1: Any cheating in a pre-marital relationship should not be tolerated. (I can't speak about a marital relationship since i am not married)
Lesson 2: Don't think any less of thyself if cheated on. Those things have nothing to do w/ me. It's what you call characted flaws. If a man cheats on me, he'll do it to the next person.
Lesson 3: Always believe your gut feeling.. if you're close to your man and feel something is wrong, then most likely it is
Lesson 4: Stay true to yourself. You can't do something out of character to make a man in love with you. They already know how far they want to take it.
Lesson 5: Peace of mind is always better than trippin and worrying constantly or feeling hurt. I hate feeling crazy!!! and if it gets to a point where my man makes me feel that way, I'm out
Lesson 6: Little bullsh*t now, bigger bullsh*t later meaning if a guy shows all these flaws in the beginning, it definitely won't get better later.