Don't you get tired?

[songofthesea]

Why you would come to an enthusiasts' forum and try to discourage them from their hobby is, quite frankly, beyond me.

I don't think that op is trying to discourage us from our hobby; it feels to me that she's sharing her love of bags but saying maybe there's a time to slow down and enjoy what you have. I get the feeling of always wanting the next bag and sometimes it IS exhausting and I feel like the only people who understand my "bag feelings" are here on TPF!!

 

[georgie31]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

I'm really glad you posted this, it's like you read my mind. I've been on a crazy obsessing/hunting/buying/returning (or selling if I used it) cycle since about last May. In the past I didn't know how to score these crazy deals so I would buy about 1-2 bags a year and was always good about the 1-in 1-out rule. Lately, though, I haven't been able to resist the deals and I found myself feeling overwhelmed. I didn't even have that many bags in the grand scheme of things (around 20). And I wasn't going into debt or anything, it was more that the hunt and indecision were getting exhausting/time consuming.

I recently bought one of my HG bags (the pomegranate MK selma). I absolutely love it. I got a great deal on it, but I was prepared to pay full price. I also re-bought my KS green patent bag, which I sold several months ago during a buying/selling cycle but really missed. Those two made me realize that I have been buying a LOT of "great-deal" bags that I would never have even considered at full price, and I wasn't using the bags I really did love because I was focusing so much on the next deal. I made the decision to rehome every bag I don't 100% love, and challenged myself to not buy any bags for a year. I've gotten my collection down to 11 bags that I truly love. I thought it was going to be hard, but it's actually pretty freeing. I also think once I've resisted the next few deals the no-buy will be ok too.

Anyway, all that to say, I love this forum because I do really enjoy purses and fashion. I just need to internalize that I can think something's beautiful without buying it, no matter how good a deal it is! I appreciate that people are so supportive and positive here. It's nice to talk to people who really understand!!

 

[whateve]

I also found through that period of 5 or 6 months that I did not buy anything that the more I passed up, the easier it became. Bags came and went and I knew there would be more bags coming that I would want. Maybe I would buy them, maybe not.

It's like a diet or an exercise plan. Once it becomes habit, it is easier.

 

[Dy@n@]

Why you would come to an enthusiasts' forum and try to discourage them from their hobby is, quite frankly, beyond me.

+1. We all have a hobby and mine is BAGS. Sometimes I take them out of my closet just to have a look. It's your own decision when and what to buy. I enjoy the comments and pictures of fellow bag lovers. And not only on the Coach forum but also other brands. If you're tired then stop. But others don't. Sometimes I feel that I have enough and then a few months later I'll purchase a new bag. But in the period that I have enough I can imagine that other people don't.

 

[cutiepinkieSJ]

Just bought my trevi & i'm thinking of keeping it for a while before I decide to buy another bag. Maybe next year. Hmm. My husband don't believe me. *sigh*

 

[dalmunchkin]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

I agree. It's not just the money, it's the time and the always feeling like you have to move on to the next bag. I'm sorry that you got some unsupportive comments but I think you have made an honest, valid point and I know exactly where you are coming from.

 

[missjay7]

I'm with you, Becca. I'm on ban for the new year. And so far it's been nice not craving and constantly obsessing over the next bag. But honestly, I have a bit of an obsessive personality and a lot of that interest has moved on to makeup now. At least it's a cheaper hobby and I get more satisfaction from trying out a ton of new looks before wanting the next palette or shade. And I've managed to get it under control within the past month.

I've found that it helps me to visit the Money Talks section and read some of the stories there. Its the one place on tpf that's isnt enabling.

 

[CoachCruiser]

Yes. I'm tired. I'm exhausted. Wiped out! I plan to get one carefully selected bag for spring (maybe the vachetta borough) and then I want to be done for at least a couple of years. The only way to be done for me is to stay away from the malls.

 

[pink sapphire]

I have been so good last 2 weeks .I have been carrying cash and have stayed away from mall brought 3 bags so far this year no more for awhile. It is nice to see every ones purchases but done for awhile.

 

[Thatsmypurse]

She's just asking a question! Many have agreed...those who don't, seem to be getting very upset for some reason.,,maybe it struck a nerve! If you don't agree...move along. I never bought more bags in my life than I have this past fall/winter season, when I discovered FOS online. I feel I need to stop going on ther because its to easy to just click a button, and the deals r so hard to pass up sometimes! My hubby wanted to buy me a new mini Burrough bag in the grey/white stripe at our mall today! I said no, and it felt good. I loved the bag but feel I have enough for now, and I think it's too much money for that size purse..may look at FOS in late spring or early summer. I do think you have to set limits...for yourself! JMO

 

[pink sapphire]

She's just asking a question! Many have agreed...those who don't, seem to be getting very upset for some reason.,,maybe it struck a nerve! If you don't agree...move along. I never bought more bags in my life than I have this past fall/winter season, when I discovered FOS online. I feel I need to stop going on ther because its to easy to just click a button, and the deals r so hard to pass up sometimes! My hubby wanted to buy me a new mini Burrough bag in the grey/white stripe at our mall today! I said no, and it felt good. I loved the bag but feel I have enough for now, and I think it's too much money for that size purse..may look at FOS in late spring or early summer. I do think you have to set limits...for yourself! JMO

I agree I have learnt I cant have every bag I see.

 

[gabz]

I was obsessed with cosh from 2007-09. What i got tired of was a couple quality issues i had, combined with the constant influx of new merchandise making me always feel i needed the layest and greatest. Never fully lost interest in coach, and in 2013 got an mff ashkey and fp mini sadie (both thx to my lovely and generous parents) and a key holder

I think though sometimes you just need to take a break and catch your breath. My flirtations with rm and lv allowed me to gain some space from coach and regroup. Also it is important to remember there is always something new and wonderful. Very few of us can have it all. No bag is worth going into debt over

 

[Thatsmypurse]

I was obsessed with cosh from 2007-09. What i got tired of was a couple quality issues i had, combined with the constant influx of new merchandise making me always feel i needed the layest and greatest. Never fully lost interest in coach, and in 2013 got an mff ashkey and fp mini sadie (both thx to my lovely and generous parents) and a key holder

I think though sometimes you just need to take a break and catch your breath. My flirtations with rm and lv allowed me to gain some space from coach and regroup. Also it is important to remember there is always something new and wonderful. Very few of us can have it all. No bag is worth going into debt over

Amen! If I can't pay it off the next month! I don't buy it! We always pay our cards off each and every month...or we do without! No purse is worth it to me! Just Me!

 

[LvoesBags]

She's just asking a question! Many have agreed...those who don't, seem to be getting very upset for some reason.,,maybe it struck a nerve! If you don't agree...move along. I never bought more bags in my life than I have this past fall/winter season, when I discovered FOS online. I feel I need to stop going on ther because its to easy to just click a button, and the deals r so hard to pass up sometimes! My hubby wanted to buy me a new mini Burrough bag in the grey/white stripe at our mall today! I said no, and it felt good. I loved the bag but feel I have enough for now, and I think it's too much money for that size purse..may look at FOS in late spring or early summer. I do think you have to set limits...for yourself! JMO

I agree! Setting limits is a must for some. I'm happy with what I have now!! Its time to enjoy it and get my money's worth.

 

[GingerJade]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

I'm not tired of it per se because I haven't been collecting too long but I have realized I need to slow down so that I can truly enjoy the bags I do have....I caught myself getting into the habit of looking towards the next bag right after obtaining a bag, and for myself, I don't think I was able to fully appreciate what I had when I was doing that. So I'm going to slow it down. As for the expense my dh and I allot ourselves a certain amount of fun money, and that will limit things to a degree as well. We don't use credit cards so I wouldn't worry about going into debt but I could totally see how that could happen to people.