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#47
Yeah I have found many times It is the thrill of the hunt and then like on to the next. I have learned to do one bag per season . I don't switch out a lot. But I see all the great reveals on here n then want them all.
 
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Loco4Coco said:
I eat, breathe, sleep, dream, obsess HANDBAGS! It has become a severe problem for me, a complete and total addiction. One that I am trying very hard to stop, I am coming here to look...I am totally banned and have given up my credit cards. I have read a good book this past week for anyone who's interested. The book is called "To Buy or Not to Buy" it's about shopping addiction, it's good. I myself, am a complete and total addict and it's spinning out of control. Coach is my crack!
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I know why I shop unhappy in my life so I go shopping but I have found lately I am happy to see less bills coming in .I volunteer more I find it so rewarding.
 
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Loco4Coco said:
I eat, breathe, sleep, dream, obsess HANDBAGS! It has become a severe problem for me, a complete and total addiction. One that I am trying very hard to stop, I am coming here to look...I am totally banned and have given up my credit cards. I have read a good book this past week for anyone who's interested. The book is called "To Buy or Not to Buy" it's about shopping addiction, it's good. I myself, am a complete and total addict and it's spinning out of control. Coach is my crack!
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Going to get that book .
 
#53
Since starting my job in prison, I have used maybe three of my bags on maybe 10 days total. I have lost a lot of my interest and sometimes think of just selling all but 2-3. I come on here once in a while just to look but the break (4 months or so) has really broken my addiction to buying bags.

I have had a $50 gift certificate in my wallet for Coach for 4.5 months!!!!
 
#54
I'm finding that my obsession with Legacy bags is getting tiring and time consuming. I spend time searching department store websites, waking up at 5:30am 3 times a week to try to catch them on FOS, going to the outlet at least once every 1 to 2 weeks, not to mention the time I spend on tPF. I used to buy a bag from the FP store with PCE yearly for my birthday and go to the Factory Store maybe once every 3-4 months. My new "hobby" started about 9 months ago as the Legacy collection started to phase out. I counted that in the last 9 months I've acquired about 20 new bags (4 Legacy Duffles, 3 Candaces, 3 Rorys, 4 Bleecker Business Totes among them) in addition to the other 15 I already had, all Coach. Over the years I've given my cousin countless Coach bags as I grew tired of them.

I travel just about every week for work leaving out Sunday and returning on Thursday so I can't switch bags every day. I'm stuck with the bag I leave home with on Sunday.

My obsession is not so much of a financial strain (since I'm always looking for a good deal) as it is a time drain. DH and I have worked hard to get our educations and we're pretty settled in our careers and very blessed. We save for retirement and have savings and investment accounts but even then, I could still save more money. I've never heard of anyone saving too much for retirement. I started to think about what I was doing acquiring bags when I went into my closet and saw that I have 5 bags with the tags still on them. Also, last month the UPS guy mentioned to my husband that he makes a delivery to our house every day! :D.......that UPS guy is lucky I like him :D.......

One year for Lent, some of my co-workers were discussing giving up sweets and other things. I thought to myself that I can't give up food but maybe I should buy only things that I need and not "wants". I remember that time felt so freeing. The first couple of weeks I was focusing on being able to "shop in 6 more weeks" but somewhere along the middle of that time, I realized that I was developing new positive habits and interests. I think I'm going to do that again with Lent coming up next month.......just to get myself back in focus.
 
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#55
I also found through that period of 5 or 6 months that I did not buy anything that the more I passed up, the easier it became. Bags came and went and I knew there would be more bags coming that I would want. Maybe I would buy them, maybe not.
 
#56
I'm more of a follower, knower or all things of brands i love but I don't buy as much as maybe if want to.. Since I can't justify buying so many that I can't use them all equally enough to justify the price I spend on them. I'm very happy with my 10+ bags now lol though.
 
#57
I can relate to all of the above posts in some way shape or form. But is it isn't Coach, it is Lilly Pulitzer or camera lenses. I work about 80 hours a week and I think I tend to compensate for my tough job by justifying it with purchases. And I can afford to do that, but yes, i do ask myself when enough is enough.

I don't have a good answer. For every person it is different. We were robbed three times last spring and I need another camera. Perhaps my "habit" will change in a couple of months and I will focus on photography again. In the meantime, I actually like the distraction of finding great bags. My job comes with stress and this is an enjoyable diversion and I LOVE carrying great bags. I can gain weight, and my jeans may be put to the back of the closet but my bags can continue to be used.

I DO think it is all about balance. Clearly I have none right now, but as long as I am not hurting anyone else or sacrificing my family's needs, then this is fun and brings me great pleasure.

I have to say I do appreciate everyone's posts and thinking more about needs vs. wants. I always as trying to be thoughtful about my purchases and this makes me think a bit more, and that is not at all a bad thing.
 
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I don't really "lust" after bags, but I do love to have fun with accessories. I've split my handbag relatives into LV, Kate Spade and Coach (sorry Marc) and my SLGs between LV and Coach. I do love the "hunt" for a good deal but mostly I look for items that are upbeat and useful (well, for the non LV items).


Occasionally I will find myself obsessing over getting the same bag in more than 2 colors, but then I step back and ask if I absolutely need that other item, and generally the answer is "no." My one exception is anything like ultra-violet, marine or black violet, as that is just my favorite color ever. :-)
 
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petite_chic said:
Not me, even though I haven't and have no intention of buying much of the current collection. I'm just moving to other less known designers while waiting for those lovely deletes to hit FOS.

Taking a break suggests a temporary ban which is easy on the wallet but with an option to get back in.

When I feel myself addicted to some external object, I remember a Buddhist monk's talk on how the satisfaction of obtaining the object of desire is really due to a temporary state of "desirelessness" not the object itself. Not being in a state of desiring, which obtaining provides, can be peaceful but unless you reach a different level of awareness altogether its merely temporary. I've been addicted to tea pots, perfumes, make up, jewelry, when not into bags. The objects desired may be different but the energy draw is essentially the same. It's what some call the egoic personality and the relationships it creates.

But with that awareness, I'm not going to beat myself over the head with it either, as they say, what you resist persists. I enjoy researching and buying bags and will not stop until I simply do. When that time comes I'll probably drop out of tPF regardless of what anybody else is doing and move on. Just not today. :smile1:
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That is really interesting about the Buddhist monk theories. That's a really great way to think about it.
 
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