Don't you get tired?

[NutsAboutCoach]

I'm working on organizing my closet and showcasing my bags. That way I can see and enjoy all of them all the time. It also helps remind me of how many I have. I really adore and appreciate each bag I have, so I'm okay with my obsession. Nothing keeps its tags and everything gets carried. I've bought 14 bags in the past 2 years and I see that cooling off. I go through phases and right now I'm less interested in buying than using what I have. In 2 more years I'll probably be in a buy phase again.

I think loving Coach is unique because of the super high turn over. I know I can get a MK Selma bag in a year, but most Coach styles will be a distant memory. I bought my Candace a year ago and it's so different than anything Coach is making today. I do think it drives the impulse to buy, because there's the concern it'll disappear, or because the deal is too good. There's a reason over half my collection is Coach! If I don't love anything this quarter, they'll get me in the next one, guaranteed.

Excellent point. The majority of my collection are bags that are not available, except on the secondary market.

I don't think I will ever stop buying bags, but now that my collection is quite large I am becoming much more selective in what I purchase.

 

[MyLuxuryDiary]

its not about the HAVING for me...its about the "GETTING"

 

[Stardoll]

I'm going to have to politely say no, I can never get over my addiction. I have so many grand wants (they feel like needs, but they're not) and I really would love to tick items off of my wishlist.

I also love second hand shopping, and scoring a good deal gives you a rush like no other. So until I have the bags I want, I don't think the addiction will end.

My mum is a shoe lover, and I'm a bag lover. Every lady needs her "thing".

 

[arfmsu]

I'm working on organizing my closet and showcasing my bags. That way I can see and enjoy all of them all the time. It also helps remind me of how many I have. I really adore and appreciate each bag I have, so I'm okay with my obsession. Nothing keeps its tags and everything gets carried. I've bought 14 bags in the past 2 years and I see that cooling off. I go through phases and right now I'm less interested in buying than using what I have. In 2 more years I'll probably be in a buy phase again.

I think loving Coach is unique because of the super high turn over. I know I can get a MK Selma bag in a year, but most Coach styles will be a distant memory. I bought my Candace a year ago and it's so different than anything Coach is making today. I do think it drives the impulse to buy, because there's the concern it'll disappear, or because the deal is too good. There's a reason over half my collection is Coach! If I don't love anything this quarter, they'll get me in the next one, guaranteed.

I should specify that I don't go into debt for bags. We had built up our savings before I started buying. I would absolutely be stressed if that was not our circumstance, so I get how some of you feel. Freeing yourself from something that has a hold over you must be a very liberating experience, and I think it's a great move to step back!

Yes - exactly this.

Excellent point. The majority of my collection are bags that are not available, except on the secondary market.

I don't think I will ever stop buying bags, but now that my collection is quite large I am becoming much more selective in what I purchase.

This is totally my "issue" if you could call it that. I just started getting into Coach in Fall 2012 so I missed out on a LOT of bags and styles, so I am on eBay/Bonz/Posh constantly. If I don't check them for a couple days, I start wondering about what deals I've missed; did I miss my HG bag selling for an unbelievably low price? It really is an almost-compulsion, but I feel like if I enjoy it and it makes me happy and I can afford it, I'm not going to worry about it.

 

[arfmsu]

I'm going to have to politely say no, I can never get over my addiction. I have so many grand wants (they feel like needs, but they're not) and I really would love to tick items off of my wishlist.

I also love second hand shopping, and scoring a good deal gives you a rush like no other. So until I have the bags I want, I don't think the addiction will end.

My mum is a shoe lover, and I'm a bag lover. Every lady needs her "thing".

That's a great way to put it!

 

[Arizabif]

..... when i get to that point of just wanting to shut down....or in a "bag funk" as i call it then i'll just focus on my bags and stay of tPF for awhile.

This. I've been off for awhile. I had a bad case of Legacy Madness last year, and I had to step back. No tpf, no browsing on ebay, no checking out the FOS "just to look".


Now that I'm doing the stay-at-home-mom gig, I just don't "need" as many bags as I did before. Not that I really "needed" them, but I sort of justified it because I carried different ones to work very frequently.


Now I'm starting to sell some of what I bought, and thinking *very* hard about what ones I want to keep. I am trying each one out for a week or two, and if anything is annoying me about the bag? It's on the list for selling. I have a beautiful red leather crescent bag, with the most gorgeous feeling leather EVER. But flap bags don't work for me and any bag where the opening is more narrow than the bottom of the bag REALLY annoys me, and this bag has both of those features, so goodbye!


It's probably for the best that the current Coach offerings don't do it for me.

 

[WVUdani]

The cattiness on the first page upsets me, it wasn't necessary and this is a very raw honest and true post and she is only looking for support not all of us can afford our obsessions and it does become torturous when you want something so bad that it's all you think about but then you realize it's time to take a step back and take a breath and think about it more clearly and not with the thrill/ high of the purchase. I often times during the winter get really depressed and I turn to shopping, while exhilarating it is def a short high and then comes guilt if I don't need the itemor will use it much. I applaud you for taking time to enjoy what you have and frankly don't understand why anyone had to be rude.

 

[lurkernomore]

For me, if I wasn't lusting (love that word) after handbags, I think it would be something else...at least with purses, I use what I collect.
I would have to give up TPF if I gave up my handbag lust, and coming here is my guilty little pleasure. Very few of my co-workers understand purse love, my family would never "get it", and my hubby has a music hobby, so we both spend $$ on fun stuff.
I totally support people who go on bans and leave and come back...it is all good!

 

[petite_chic]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

Not me, even though I haven't and have no intention of buying much of the current collection. I'm just moving to other less known designers while waiting for those lovely deletes to hit FOS.

Taking a break suggests a temporary ban which is easy on the wallet but with an option to get back in.

When I feel myself addicted to some external object, I remember a Buddhist monk's talk on how the satisfaction of obtaining the object of desire is really due to a temporary state of "desirelessness" not the object itself. Not being in a state of desiring, which obtaining provides, can be peaceful but unless you reach a different level of awareness altogether its merely temporary. I've been addicted to tea pots, perfumes, make up, jewelry, when not into bags. The objects desired may be different but the energy draw is essentially the same. It's what some call the egoic personality and the relationships it creates.

But with that awareness, I'm not going to beat myself over the head with it either, as they say, what you resist persists. I enjoy researching and buying bags and will not stop until I simply do. When that time comes I'll probably drop out of tPF regardless of what anybody else is doing and move on. Just not today.

 

[whateve]

I'm working on organizing my closet and showcasing my bags. That way I can see and enjoy all of them all the time. It also helps remind me of how many I have. I really adore and appreciate each bag I have, so I'm okay with my obsession. Nothing keeps its tags and everything gets carried. I've bought 14 bags in the past 2 years and I see that cooling off. I go through phases and right now I'm less interested in buying than using what I have. In 2 more years I'll probably be in a buy phase again.

I think loving Coach is unique because of the super high turn over. I know I can get a MK Selma bag in a year, but most Coach styles will be a distant memory. I bought my Candace a year ago and it's so different than anything Coach is making today. I do think it drives the impulse to buy, because there's the concern it'll disappear, or because the deal is too good. There's a reason over half my collection is Coach! If I don't love anything this quarter, they'll get me in the next one, guaranteed.

I should specify that I don't go into debt for bags. We had built up our savings before I started buying. I would absolutely be stressed if that was not our circumstance, so I get how some of you feel. Freeing yourself from something that has a hold over you must be a very liberating experience, and I think it's a great move to step back!

Great post! I'm also trying to organize my collection. I'm taking pictures of everything. Not only do I have too many handbags, I have way too many accessories. But there are very few things in my collection that I don't love so I doubt it will get whittled down anytime soon. It's fine with me having a large collection as long as I can keep them organized and not lose sight of what I have.

The high turnover is what irks me the most. Coach has created this urgency that if you don't buy a bag soon it will be gone. That is what tires me out.

I also never go into debt for bags. We don't have a monthly budget. Our savings and our income are in the same account so it would be easy to dip into the savings without realizing it. We pay off our credit cards every month and don't owe a mortgage.

For me, if I wasn't lusting (love that word) after handbags, I think it would be something else...at least with purses, I use what I collect.
I would have to give up TPF if I gave up my handbag lust, and coming here is my guilty little pleasure. Very few of my co-workers understand purse love, my family would never "get it", and my hubby has a music hobby, so we both spend $$ on fun stuff.
I totally support people who go on bans and leave and come back...it is all good!

This is me exactly. Before handbags, it was something else. I'm always collecting something. It's a hobby. I like the idea that I'm collecting something that actually serves a purpose other than just looking pretty.

 

[CharliLuvsCoach]

I'm with you! I too tend to buy when I'm depressed ,and I've been pretty good lately about recognizing that and thinking for awhile before I buy. For me, while I love the bags, too, I also love the "deal" and I needed to realize that deals add up over time!!! I'm getting better....

 

[carinas]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

I would love to be with you. Let me just place that one last order and then...

 

[iNeedCoffee]

I've only been into purchasing and collecting bags for about a year and a half, so I'm not anywhere near tired of it yet. In that 18 months, I've gone from 2 bags to 14. I only buy what I absolutely love and let other styles I am unsure about go by the wayside. I also only buy bags or accessories when I have extra cash available. Those two conditions put on buying really help me in keeping my collecting and buying in check.

I totally understand getting overwhelmed needing to step back to re-evaluate and breaking the cycle of obsessive behavior. If it is no longer fun for you, then I think you are doing the right thing for yourself.

 

[pink sapphire]

I went through a heavy period of going deeper and deeper into debt for handbags. I wrote a long post on it a few years ago in the "Money Talks" thread if you are interesting in reading it. You are not alone!

Thank you I will read it .I am paying bills down but I know I would have more money to enjoy a nice trip with my kids if I didn't spend so much on bags . I will always buy as I love Coach but not as many as last year.

 

[houstonm2198]

Do you guys ever get tired of your never ending lust and want of bags? This was me; I would agonize over a bag purchase, obsess over it, buy it, and than immediately start the quest for another bag. I am not alone and frankly it is exhausting.

I am breaking the cycle! I am finally "at peace" over my handbag collection and am going to take a break from obsessing over bags. Anyone want to join me? How many phoebe's or borough's does one really need? Let's relax and enjoy what we have!

Who is with me?

I'm on board with you. I have an extensive collection of handbags(about 250), and I wear a different one everyday. I am going to start enjoying what I have and stop obsessing and looking at handbags everyday because all it does it tempt me to buy more.