Does having a nice bag mean you're a snob?
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One of my acquaintances said the similar thing about me buying 2k bag... She splurged 2k on her 52" TV and it's ok but apparently my bag isn't. Funny.
I don't think having a nice bag means you're a snob. I've met people with "cheaper" handbags that are downright nasty. And I have also met people with nice bags that are incredible. Snobbery is in the individual, no matter what bag they carry.... A bag is not indicative of snobbery.
I'm sorry someone called you pathetic about wanting a new handbag. If she was really a good friend she would never have said that to you. You like handbags so what it's not their money your spending right.? However I do understand what your saying I just bought a new bag and am afraid of what others might think at work too. Hang in there.
Agree! I've been ridiculed for spending 2k+ on a bag yet friends of mine get cosmetic surgery procedures, eat out, drink, smoke, travel, buy expensive electronics, gamble, and drive luxury cars that are really not within their means...yet I'm judged on bag purchases.
Everyone has their vices. I dont judge.
I don't think it's jealousy, I think it's that some people just aren't able to understand why a person would spend such a large amount on bags.
I do think your friend was completely out of line for calling you pathetic. I would have had a few choice words for her if she came to me with that garbage.
I do think your friend was completely out of line for calling you pathetic. I would have had a few choice words for her if she came to me with that garbage.
Not at all. It's like having a nice home, and nice clothes, healthy foods. We all take care of ourselves in different ways. If I exercise 5 days a week does that mean I am shallow for taking care of my body?
Having had this happen to me before, I'd like to share. I think there are 2 things to keep in mind....
1. Jealousy/envy. An old friend once called me" bougie" for liking/buying handbags. She said Coach and Michael Kors etc were just status symbols and i was a snob. It made me feel badly for a long time. Years later, she comes walking in with her Coach and playing on her iphone. She admitted that she was jealous due to her financial circumstances at the time. So many times people say stuff because of envy.
2. You Be considerate and don't talk about your stuff. You are an adult and are free to spend your hard earned money the way that you want to. So spend it, and don't talk about your purchases or what you are going to purchase. Show up with that new handbag! If they notice, so they notice, but save your happy chatter/reveals for the purseform. (That's what I started to do, and many problems have been alleviated.) Remember, we never what others are going through financially. So by not talking about our circumstances, except on purse form, we can avoid much crap from judgemental people.
1. Jealousy/envy. An old friend once called me" bougie" for liking/buying handbags. She said Coach and Michael Kors etc were just status symbols and i was a snob. It made me feel badly for a long time. Years later, she comes walking in with her Coach and playing on her iphone. She admitted that she was jealous due to her financial circumstances at the time. So many times people say stuff because of envy.
2. You Be considerate and don't talk about your stuff. You are an adult and are free to spend your hard earned money the way that you want to. So spend it, and don't talk about your purchases or what you are going to purchase. Show up with that new handbag! If they notice, so they notice, but save your happy chatter/reveals for the purseform. (That's what I started to do, and many problems have been alleviated.) Remember, we never what others are going through financially. So by not talking about our circumstances, except on purse form, we can avoid much crap from judgemental people.