Does having a nice bag mean you're a snob?

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#166
I agree with Tinagirl11! (Sorry can't reply directly to the quote, the forum won't let me.)

I always try to remember that as much as I love them. They're just bags. Once they start making you doubt yourself or feel bad about yourself it's time to do some re-evaluation.
 
#168
chymera said:
Sorry, I really need to vent!

A friend just called me PATHETIC for wanting another bag!!! I don't come from a rich family or get things easily so I'm not sure where this is coming from and this isn't the first time! Other friends and family have said this to me too, but I have easily shrugged them off. This doesn't stop at friends and family, it also continues in the work place.

I have been talking about getting a new Prada bag for my birthday this Sunday that I have saved (money) for myself and she thinks it's pathetic as I already have a few Chanel's and LV bags. I understand that if I was in huge debt and couldn't afford these bags, then I would call myself pathetic too.
Is this sort of attitude pure jealously, or am I doing something wrong here? These people make me feel like i'm not rich or worthy enough to own a nice hand bag?

Can anyone relate to this?
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I think unfortunately it is jealousy. I have a best friend who I can't talk about my love of Louis Vuitton with or even have my bags around her because every time she spots something new she says 'huh, greedy!' and it drives me mad! It is your money and you can spend it how you like. You are worthy of owning anything you like and a true friend shouldn't make us feel like we are doing something wrong just because we like nice handbags. I know for a fact that if my friend didn't buy coffees, red bulls and lunch and wine everyday that she could probably have a nice bag herself. But do I say this to her? No. I wouldn't be so rude. So chin up doll! Wear those beauties with pride!
 
#170
I think your friend's reaction was sort of a reverse snobbery, really. While there are people out there who may think they are better than others because they have a nice bag, there are others who think they are better because they DON'T spend money on that stuff. It's like they are more pious, or something.

I can deal with someone saying they can't see themselves spending money on a bag, but to call you names for buying a designer bag? That's really rude.
 
#171
I don't think there's any snobbery in having designer bags for most of us. There are snobs that carry designer bags, but they are snobs regardless of what they wear and carry, and think they are better than others for reasons only known by themselves. The fact that they are deluded in their thinking is neither here nor there.

For most of us though, snobbery is not an issue, it's just a case of enjoying nice things, there's nothing snobbish about that!
 
#172
Sometimes I hear about these kinds of comments and wonder if the person making them is just concerned about the handbag buyer's spending habits. Many people don't think you should spend a few weeks salary on a bag and I agree. I just don't see these comments being made when the bag purchase isn't a big deal relative to income.
 
#173
nic_blue said:
I agree with TinaGirl11
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same here.

It's like my husband who loves bowling and his bestfriend who loves to salsa dance. My husband doesn't salsa and his bf doesn't bowl. Do they ever talk to EACH OTHER about bowling and salsa dancing.. NO.
I'm not about to talk to people about my handbags when I know for a fact they don't even have a clue about any brand I own or like. Let alone the quality, craftmanship, and beauty that I enjoy about them.
 
#174
Sorry ur friends sounds like a fool. If she is a real friend she should not call u pathetic! btw if u can afford then do it.. Get it..... Perhaps she can't so don't worry about her...
 
#176
A snob is a snob is a snob no matter what they're wearing or carrying...no matter their socioeconomic background. Treat people with kindness, integrity and respect and carry or wear whatever you want!
 
#177
chymera said:
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A friend just called me PATHETIC for wanting another bag!!! Other friends and family have said this to me too
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Those people are not your friends. Plain and simple. They're trying to cut you down and you need to stay away from them. Jealousy is what's causing them to react that way. Please don't sell or stop buying designer bags so that they'll feel better about themselves. This their problem, not yours.
 
#178
I feel like I might have posted here already, but seriously, friends don't go around calling friends pathetic.

And to answer your question, there is a difference between liking nice things, and taking pride in your appearance and looking down on others who don't do the same.
So I would say no, I don't think you are a snob.
 
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