You said you recently acquired a stepdaughter. She lives in your house, so of course you get a say in what goes on, but I don't think you should be the main disciplinarian just yet. You and your husband should discuss this, and once you have come to a decision on what to do, her father should be the one to tell her what's going on and then to carry it out. He could say something like "Your stepmother and I discussed it, and we feel this is the best way to handle it" but he needs to be the one to take action.
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I know you want to just jump right in there and correct the situation, and if she was your daughter, I'd say go for it. But the reality is, she's not your daughter. I'm not excusing her behavior, but maybe she's acting out because she feels you're trying to replace her mother.
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If you're the one to take action, then to her, it's confirmed that you're trying to replace her mother and she'll lose respect for you. We all know you're not trying to replace her mother, but she's a 15 year old who's getting used to Dad being married to someone new.
Ha! She sneaks out her window @ 3:00am to have three way sex with 20 yr. old boys! (This is when she was 12!) I don't think she knows the meaning of respect.
She probably has the attitude of "Why should I listen to you? You're not my mother!" You and your husband discussing what to do and then your husband carrying it out tells her that he's her father and you're the woman he married and she needs to respect the both of you.
I'm not saying you can never be the one to discipline her, but right now is not a good time. Maybe when she gets used to the idea of you two being married, but not just yet.
Do NOT agree!!! We just built our dream home in a great community, and I will NOT let that kid ruin our reputation like she did in the last place. She was known as the 'town pump' and it was extremely humiliating for me to hear the comments kids would shout out when we went anywhere. And I do not appreciate having MY car egged on Halloween because everyone hated HER. Yes, I sound bitter, but what would you do? She's a compulsive liar and does drugs. I have every right to control what goes on in my home...her dad works looooooong hours, so I'm stuck with her. She's out of control and I need to take extreme measures.
Good luck.