Do you feel guilty about money spent on designer bags?

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#241
Yes, I absolutely do feel guilty.
I've never been the type to spend money on myself. Never.
I always focused on everyone else and now that our kids are grown and we have everything we own paid for, I've started to spend on myself in the last couple of years and it really bothers me at times. We've donated to St. Jude's for the last 25+ years, etc. but I still think the money I spend on bags should be spent on other things. I've always felt guilty spending money on myself so I completely understand where you're coming from.
 
#242
nascar fan said:
I don't think you have offended anyone. Every so often we all have epiphanies. You passing on buying a bag isn't going to make any difference. Just stay grounded, help others when you can, donate if that makes you feel better.

Through the years, I have given $20 or so a month to fund a child overseas. I did that long enough for 3 of them to get big and grow out of the program.

There are easy things you can do that make a big difference, but still enjoy your bags, try not to feel guilty. Maybe when you get tired of one, donate it to a worthy cause.
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that is a great idea....can one donate a bag
 
#244
I am overindulgent in everything I do. My handbag collection at the most was over 300 bags, but I don't really feel bad because I work my ASS off, and if I wasn't wasting money on bags, the money would probably going toward my bills and other important things that SHOULD be priorities... I don't make a ton of money either and have my own house, new car, and plenty of bills, all of which I pay completely by myself. Somehow I know how to balance it all out and still afford my handbags, though I'm not quite sure how..,
 
#246
DesigningStyle said:
Lvpug, it is hard not to feel guilty spending large sums of money on luxury handbags and meanwhile knowing there are others that do not have food to eat. I believe each of us wrestles with our moral obligation to the hungry and moreover, do we have an obligation to them? I believe we do. It is easy to get wrapped up in our day to day lives. Thank you for the reminder...your thread is appreciated.
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Thanks Design....usually I don't think about that sort of stuff but, I saw a news clip about the children starving and I felt very sad. I thought to myself that I should not indulge in handbags for a while and try to contribute some time or money. Infact I felt like an awful person after seeing the clip because of my shallow fashion fixation especially handbags. Prior to that tv news clip I was happy to think about bags and more bags. I may be evolving...lol:smile1:
 
#247
Coach Lover Too said:
Yes, I absolutely do feel guilty.
I've never been the type to spend money on myself. Never.
I always focused on everyone else and now that our kids are grown and we have everything we own paid for, I've started to spend on myself in the last couple of years and it really bothers me at times. We've donated to St. Jude's for the last 25+ years, etc. but I still think the money I spend on bags should be spent on other things. I've always felt guilty spending money on myself so I completely understand where you're coming from.
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It is nice to have nice things but, the best things in life are free..... A smile, a laugh, a conversation, a walk and the list goes on. It is hard not to feel a tad guilty but, balance is important so many do not even put themselves on the list.
 
#248
LVpug said:
Thanks Design....usually I don't think about that sort of stuff but, I saw a news clip about the children starving and I felt very sad. I thought to myself that I should not indulge in handbags for a while and try to contribute some time or money. Infact I felt like an awful person after seeing the clip because of my shallow fashion fixation especially handbags. Prior to that tv news clip I was happy to think about bags and more bags. I may be evolving...lol:smile1:
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You're just a human with lots of empathy for others. You should be proud of yourself. :hugs:
 
#249
nchid2700 said:
I am overindulgent in everything I do. My handbag collection at the most was over 300 bags, but I don't really feel bad because I work my ASS off, and if I wasn't wasting money on bags, the money would probably going toward my bills and other important things that SHOULD be priorities... I don't make a ton of money either and have my own house, new car, and plenty of bills, all of which I pay completely by myself. Somehow I know how to balance it all out and still afford my handbags, though I'm not quite sure how..,
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It is not easy...sounds like you work hard and play hard...it is important to do what makes you happy....wow over 300 bags....handbags are fun and practical...there could be worst things to spend your money on:smile1:
 
#250
LVpug said:
Thanks Design....usually I don't think about that sort of stuff but, I saw a news clip about the children starving and I felt very sad. I thought to myself that I should not indulge in handbags for a while and try to contribute some time or money. Infact I felt like an awful person after seeing the clip because of my shallow fashion fixation especially handbags. Prior to that tv news clip I was happy to think about bags and more bags. I may be evolving...lol:smile1:
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That is a very good thing. I love growing and changing and evolving!
 
#251
Coach Lover Too said:
You're just a human with lots of empathy for others. You should be proud of yourself. :hugs:
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ahh thanks:flowers::flowers::flowers: coach lover...lately I have been thinking about newly released handbags then I saw that tv clip and thought no more bags for now love what you have because handbags are not that important...nice to have and fun but not essential....sometimes I feel like I am trying to keep up with fashion and you can't
 
#254
LVpug said:
Thanks Design....usually I don't think about that sort of stuff but, I saw a news clip about the children starving and I felt very sad. I thought to myself that I should not indulge in handbags for a while and try to contribute some time or money. Infact I felt like an awful person after seeing the clip because of my shallow fashion fixation especially handbags. Prior to that tv news clip I was happy to think about bags and more bags. I may be evolving...lol:smile1:
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It says a lot of good things about you that you are willing to focus on others and think about the bigger issues. In my early 20's I almost drove myself crazy thinking about the number of people in need, and I felt like I didn't deserve any of the things I had simply because I'd won the "birth lottery". But with age comes the realization that we cannot fix everything. That's not to say we shouldn't try; just that we cannot feel guilty about living our lives if we are doing what we can for others. So instead of tithing to a religious organization, I tithe my 10% to charities I believe in, some domestic and some abroad. When tragedies arise, like earthquakes and floods and famines, I donate additionally whatever I can.

All that said, sometimes I still need to insulate myself from the news because I would feel driven to sell my home and all my posessions to make sure children didn't starve. If anyone with compassion dwells on the news too long it will break their heart. So stay involved, choose your charities wisely, and do what you can. Most people can give more by automatic monthly donations to a cause than by lump sums now and then. But don't neglect yoruself and do continue to indulge occasional desires. If people like you get burned out on the issues because they didn't take occasional time and money for themselves, then the world loses powerful agents for change.
 
#255
LVpug said:
ahh thanks:flowers::flowers::flowers: coach lover...lately I have been thinking about newly released handbags then I saw that tv clip and thought no more bags for now love what you have because handbags are not that important...nice to have and fun but not essential....sometimes I feel like I am trying to keep up with fashion and you can't
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See? You're fine! You haven't offended or upset anyone on the forum! You're just being a considerate human being. It's great that that tv clip put things in perspective for you. I find sometimes TPF can be a slippery slope and you can get caught up here in buying so it's a good thing for that clip giving you and all of us a wake up call that there are more important needs!
 
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