Lionlaw and Karmen, I totally agree with you both. I have ordered most of my BE bags via BEC and I agree that with a couture item there really is only 1 standard, and that is to get what you ordered. When that doesn't happen then the customer has every right to be upset. It has nothing to do with low or high standards - it's simply getting what you paid for. If you go to a boutique, pick out a bag, pay for it, and later find that the wrong style or color was packed for you, there would be no question about being able to return/exchange it. The same should apply to BEC even if it is a custom order.
I hesitate to say this here (but I will - and I am saying this only because I want to be helpful) but I think one of the problems of BE is that they may be too "personal." Almost everyone on this forum has a strong friendly relationship with Jackie and we know that mixing business with pleasure can sometimes be truly disastrous. It is difficult to complain to a friend about a product she has made/put her name on, and it is difficult for a friend to listen to complaints without being offended (regardless of how "fair" or "impartial" we think we are - we are only human!).
I honestly think that if someone is "wronged" it would be easier to complain to someone who is not your friend and the CEO of the company. I think there would be a lot less drama if CS issues were handled by a third person in an equally personal but less "friendly" manner. For example, being told about the costs of replacing a faulty bag etc (something a friend might be told) is not necessarily something a customer would care to know about or want to deal with.