I'm so sorry this is happening, susa, and thank you for so reasonably, fairly, and appropriately expressing your frustration here. I think the artisans may not be paying much attention right now, whether because they're busy or sloppy is difficult to tell. I would be so unhappy to get leather like that on a bag.
I've been waiting for at least a couple of weeks to get a resolution or definitive answer on a BEC bag that arrived unusable. I ordered a TME with hand threaded handles, because rolled handles hurt my shoulder. And yep, my custom-created BEC that should have been modifiable arrived as a standard TME, with rolled handles. I have more or less given up hope that I will end up with a usable, reasonably priced bag.
I guess I don't fret too much because I don't need the blood pressure spike, I have too much on my plate already right now, and in the end I can always give it away to someone whose shoulder won't hurt with a rolled handle, but by my count this TME will be the 5th or maybe 6th BE bag I've given away because it's not as specified or there's some other difficult-to-resolve issue. I realize that giving a bag away because someone else made a mistake is not a great solution for anyone else on here. But, for me, it saves wear and tear on my nerves.
I do have my mad-as-a-snake moments with the whole mess, and I don't think having to fight for a satisfactory resolution is consistent with any definition of "luxury." I've never once had to fight at Hermes, LV, or Bottega. Any snarl is handled smoothly and quietly, if there's any sort of snarl at all.
I will still continue to buy from BE, despite my occasional aggravation because when they get the bags right, they're fabulous. Also because I want to support small businesses in a Walmart age, because I want to support women-owned businesses, and because I chalk most of this up to the growing pains of a new business getting larger.
That said, I truly wish, from the bottom of my heart, that resolutions weren't so difficult to achieve. You're not alone, susa: You're not the first one, the last one, or the only one who has faced this, and I'm so sorry for your disappointment. I also ordered a matte taupe oversized EM from the limited leather sale. We ordered the exact same bag, and my leather doesn't show anything like this at all. I checked it last night again.