First off .. thanks to all you ladies that commented. I really appreciate your input and comments.
Now for the update:
I talked to DH about this last night and he was like
- he hates it when I am uncomfortable and he has alot of issues with me working here ... the stress factor is high, the crap I put up with is OVERWHELMING and he says I'm just not happy which isn't cool for him.
He told me that I absolutely needed to talk to him - be rude if I have to be - but don't take anymore crap.
So .. this morning I walked in .. set up office and waited for my co-worker
- when he showed up, I calmly said "Hey - I need to talk to you for a minute alone if you don't mind." I figured it'd be better in case we got into a heated conversation. He said, "Sure - hold on a sec."
So I stepped outside to the side of the building. I was all ready for my boxing gloves to come on .. but before I could say anything, he came around the corner and said "Hey - I was thinking last night about the whole episode yesterday and I guess I owe you an apology. I didn't mean anything by going into your purse - I figured it was okay to just grab a cig and didn't mean any harm by it. I can tell you're pissed and I don't want to have this weird feeling between the both of us especially since we have to work so close to one another. Truce? I'll buy you lunch one day next week." -
I was in shock. I seriously had this whole really rude/mean speech ready and he blew me from saying it!
ush: But .... instead just told him that I appreciated that he apologized and that my purse was off limits. I never had an issue with letting him have a smoke - but I do have issues with him shoving his man hands into my purse.
He swears that he only grabbed my cig case which was on top of everything else in my purse. He said he would never go as far as grabbing my wallet and/or other personal items. He said he honestly thought it wasn't a problem.
SO I've been sitting here for the past 30 minutes thinking .. should I just be a bi*** about it all still or should I just let it go ... just this once and see what happens. I've never been one to hold grudges and I really don't want to work with someone that I'm constantly rude to all the time.
I do know that our work relationship certainly has changed. I've always been a bit standoffish with him .. but since yesterday it's down right cold. I can't even look at him without thinking
I also found a place to put my purse - in a little drawer under my desk that you actually have to bend down to get into .... I'm shoving my purse in there from now on.