I am sure that it is not only the Chinese culture who favours their sons over daughters but I can only speak from experience and from family history. I shouldn't say parents, it is mostly my mother, luckily my father is a very fair man. What I don't understand is being women herself and experience what she has gone thru, why she would give her daughters the same treatment. I don't understand the mentality at all. Hello we are in the 2000s!?!
My mother is the middle child of an older brother and much younger sister, my grandparents were pretty well off and left every penny to my uncle and now my cousin has inherited everything because he is the only boy to the throne. My mother married early in life and never received a thing. My aunt saw what was happening so she grabbed as much as she can. My mother is now in her 60s and appears to be very bitter and angry, espeically now that both her parents has past away. She seems to take this situation out on my sister and I. Of course her sons can do no wrong. Unfortunately one of my brothers don't even have the time of day for her and he somehow is her favourite. Nothing my sister and I can do to please her but only to be critcized
What I don't understand and hurts alot is that since she has experienced favourism and probably felt unloved by her parents, why she treats my sister and I the same way. The same brother that don't even seem to care about her thinks money grows on trees and is debt over his head but yet lives rent free with his wife and 2 children. Good old mom is always supporting them financially and gives them anything they want. They also seem to take advantage of the fact that my mother always feeling pity for them and even appears to be ungrateful.
Both my sister and I are financially stable and married to men with good careers. She seems very angry that we have a good life and is constantly putting us down for eating out, buying a new car or going on nice vacations.
The saddest part of it is, she is always trying to play everyone of us against each other whenever to do something together.
I am not jelous but very hurt. I have 2 boys and a little princess and I will not allow myself to follow that path. Luckily I have a sister and support each other. Dad is a quiet man and good old mom always has her last word in.
My mother is the middle child of an older brother and much younger sister, my grandparents were pretty well off and left every penny to my uncle and now my cousin has inherited everything because he is the only boy to the throne. My mother married early in life and never received a thing. My aunt saw what was happening so she grabbed as much as she can. My mother is now in her 60s and appears to be very bitter and angry, espeically now that both her parents has past away. She seems to take this situation out on my sister and I. Of course her sons can do no wrong. Unfortunately one of my brothers don't even have the time of day for her and he somehow is her favourite. Nothing my sister and I can do to please her but only to be critcized
What I don't understand and hurts alot is that since she has experienced favourism and probably felt unloved by her parents, why she treats my sister and I the same way. The same brother that don't even seem to care about her thinks money grows on trees and is debt over his head but yet lives rent free with his wife and 2 children. Good old mom is always supporting them financially and gives them anything they want. They also seem to take advantage of the fact that my mother always feeling pity for them and even appears to be ungrateful.
Both my sister and I are financially stable and married to men with good careers. She seems very angry that we have a good life and is constantly putting us down for eating out, buying a new car or going on nice vacations.
The saddest part of it is, she is always trying to play everyone of us against each other whenever to do something together.
I am not jelous but very hurt. I have 2 boys and a little princess and I will not allow myself to follow that path. Luckily I have a sister and support each other. Dad is a quiet man and good old mom always has her last word in.