Dc is a different culture and if you’re not from around here it’s difficult to understand. Even if jackie or Hilary wore luxury it was very understated. I don’t recall the last time I saw anyone on the Hill wearing a stack of cartier or vca bangles. You miss the point also that the person I gave advice to is a young to mid career attorney. This is how it is in dc.
Cartier jewelry/stacks „hurting your image“, why, if so?
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Then apparently you don't know every single attorney in DC. This is what this forum all about she's concerned of wearing her fancy stuff just because she's afraid of being judge by her co workers which might affect her promotion and bonuses. Now that is bullying. Saying something like "If you are looking to continue upward mobility, would advise not wearing the branded jewelry openly" is fallacy . And Michelle wears expensive stuff may not be a bangle but I saw her on a news before wearing a cartier watch. I didn't know you're not allowed to wear stack cartier bangles in DC if you want to be taken seriously? Luxury comes in a lot of forms I know a good attorney in DC that loves her shoes and bags and oh yes some strut around with mark cross grace brief cases with a price tag for around 10k. And not to mentioned my old boss who live in DC that uses a Ferragamo business bag in croc leather that's more expensive than a small car. People spend their money to whatever luxury define to them. In your world probably a different stroke. But not everyone in DC judge you just because you want to wear 10 bangles on each arm. I don't work in law . I am in corporate. I do travel to DC for business meetings and have friends in law. 90% of people I met in DC nobody cares about about my stacks some says oh and ah but then they moved on. Here's a pic of Michelle with her watch with a woman thats probably below her status she looks elegant she could have chosen not to wear her watch to match the mood but she did not. I wouldn't say she's wasting tax payers money. It's her personal style and I don't think I paid part of it. Some women wears pearls other diamonds some just love cartier.
You missed my points entirely and I never claimed to know every attorney in dc. Your pointing out that Michelle wore a single cartier watch just supports what I said before. This is my opinion. if you don’t like it you can choose to ignore it. There’s a wonder option for ignoring people on this forum. I’ll be taking advantage of it now. I suggest you go back on topic.
Please post with respect. All respectful opinions are welcome!
Please do what you must. Each has its own opinion reason why we have this forum. To generalized a " culture " based on personal opinion to me is ludicrous. We now live in a blended society we cannot say anymore oh that's "DC culture or thats the way it is in NYC" . We should not let our own unique styles get in our way. Like I said why care about what other people think? People will always have opinion regardless what we wear. Peace!
As I said, I‘m not from DC or even the US, and English is my 3rd language, but other perspectives may still be of interest for the person you gave your specific advice to. It might help to reflect on each other‘s “rules“ as well, no? („This is how it is“)
Do you want to follow them? Assimilate, accept and blend in to get ahead? Challenge them? A little? See what happens? Discuss them?
Perhaps not, that‘s okay. A discussion about this topic was my entire point as OP of this thread… so thank you for sharing!
It‘s so interesting that every state or country has different perceptions, and even people within the same small circle, and they possibly impose massive consequences among professions, social circles etc. even regarding something minor like personal accessories, which seems… fascinating.
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@Kidney101 on one hand you write ‘say whatever you like’ on the other ‘we can’t say that anymore’ (“Each has its own opinion reason why we have this forum. To generalized a " culture " based on personal opinion to me is ludicrous. We now live in a blended society we cannot say anymore oh that's "DC culture or thats the way it is in NYC" .”- doesn’t make sense to me, you contradict yourself)
dacob‘s video you posted is a good example of what ‘kind’ of people wear what. He’s not a classy guy, he doesn’t understand or doesn’t want to understand ‘quiet luxury’ and that’s ok, nothing against him…So many tacky people have amazing status, Kim Kardashian to name one. It’s the times we live in. If I go to an important meeting I won’t put all my jewellery on, and conversely if I’m going to a concert I just might…that doesn’t make me better or worse than others…I guess you could say I understand some unwritten rules of savoir vivre. I also think classy person would not state their opinions the way we do on this forum, so I guess we should all just take our opinions with a pinch of salt, not too seriously.
@Kidney101 on one hand you write ‘say whatever you like’ on the other ‘we can’t say that anymore’ (“Each has its own opinion reason why we have this forum. To generalized a " culture " based on personal opinion to me is ludicrous. We now live in a blended society we cannot say anymore oh that's "DC culture or thats the way it is in NYC" .”- doesn’t make sense to me, you contradict yourself)
dacob‘s video you posted is a good example of what ‘kind’ of people wear what. He’s not a classy guy, he doesn’t understand or doesn’t want to understand ‘quiet luxury’ and that’s ok, nothing against him…So many tacky people have amazing status, Kim Kardashian to name one. It’s the times we live in. If I go to an important meeting I won’t put all my jewellery on, and conversely if I’m going to a concert I just might…that doesn’t make me better or worse than others…I guess you could say I understand some unwritten rules of savoir vivre. I also think classy person would not state their opinions the way we do on this forum, so I guess we should all just take our opinions with a pinch of salt, not too seriously.
I agree and disagree! The topic on this forum is about this young professional that's concerned about wearing her fancy accessories to work as it might affect her promotion or bonuses. Now the video link I shared tackled a topic to which is sensitive to some people as to each has its own opinion on how to present themselves on public. Dacob has some interesting points in there thats for sure raised eyebrows. Now if you read what was posted above someone advises this young person with "If you want to be taken seriously or if you are looking to continue upward mobility, would advise not wearing the branded jewelry openly" Trying to fit in especially in a new job is like paddling a boat you don't want to cause too many ripples. Now how do we define a classy person? Is it on the way a person dress or the way a person carry themselves? Can a person be look tacky at the same time act classy? How is it our choices of accessories define our "class status" ? Why should it restrict us? Or how's one opinion should define she's classy or not? It all comes down to one's perspective you think? To clarify myself: my words are wear whatever you like -meaning do what makes you happy sans the worry of being judged. 2nd We live in a blended society we can't just say one's opinion represent the majority - in this case the DC culture. Sure there's a time and place for everything but thats one's choice , who are we to critique and pass judgment? I remember seeing a lady shopping at Walmart clad in diamonds, Louboutins shoes and Chanel 2.55 and based on my description is she classy or tacky? For sure she's out of place but that doesn't make her not classy. "Old money" doesnt mean a person has class. Wearing diamonds to the grocery store doesnt make one tacky. Class is an act its how we carry ourselves and treat other people. So, I don't think I contradicted myself but I guess you simply misunderstood what I'm trying to say. This forum is simply a discussion so we all hear each opinions and thoughts in things that involve luxury in hoping to shed light and direction on how the author of this forum approach her style.
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I’m 54, and when I was younger and working in an office, the general idea was not to outdress your boss or your boss’s boss. It probably has changed a bit due to time, location, and profession. If you are unsure enough about wearing branded jewelry in a stack to ask the question in open forum, I would say to err on the side of caution. As I get older, 8 care less about what anyone thinks, but I’m not working in a conservative field in an office job. JMO
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Thank you! A friend of mine was looking for one as well but cartier stop making themI adore your rainbow Love!!! You're so lucky to have it
though its rose gold but over time it seems gradually changing its hue.
To stay competitive when the business preference is quiet personal presentation. If blingy is a negative in a certain environment, what's more important, "I Gotta Be Me" or having income stability?
Individuality in the workplace can be viewed neutrally, positively, or highly negatively, depending on field or locale. DC is the US epicenter of "I'm here for my career." Highly transitional environment, not home sweet home forever in many cases, and people attempt to thrive professionally. Reading the corporate culture is key in this. If that means toning down some aspects of style, you're still you and there are other times for being more expressive.
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I recently sold my three Love bracelets, they got too small and umcomfortable…I thought I might rebuy in a bigger size, but couldn‘t bring myself to do it yet. I‘m a mom now and don‘t want to stick out when finding new mom friends, as I tend to move in circles (both professionally and private) that are much less affluent..also, the current state of the world pains me in such a way I feel Cartier and all its bling are a thing of a distant past….selling lot of my least used luxury items right now because I don‘t enjoy the look anymore..I used to have a huge Louboutin collection, now I am just embarassed by the red sole…
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