Anyone else feel somewhat embarrassed about LV?

[Missydora]

Not “embarrassed”, per se, more like “cautious” about wearing my LVs around family...of all people, right? DH’s side, specifically. Like @Missydora, I could feel my ears burning the minute they would leave.

The first time my BIL and his wife saw one of my LV bags, I just knew the next day that they had immediately Googled how much I spent on it. Shortly after that, both of them and my MIL, in particular, would mention my handbags in one way or another, almost every time we got together. No thanks to my BIL and his wife broadcasting the amount I spent.

Then one day I said, screw that. I’m not going to care anymore about whether or not I should wear this bag or that bag around certain in-laws for fear that I might “offend” them, or whatever, with my luxury belongings. I would stop giving them power over my right to experience joy from my bags, which I have paid for with my money. That was a few years ago. BIL and his wife still take small jabs at me about my bags but I either ignore them or change the subject.

A poster on here called 'doonstya' (something like that). Honest to god her post really helped me get over the digs I was getting, making me feel bad and stuff. She/he explain things so well and how I shouldn't feel guilt and really made my thoughts more transperent and clear and not let the crap takeover. I will forever be grateful to her/he because it made me think of my wealth and things in a different way. I enjoy my LV so much now. I'm glad your also at peace too from crap that we can't readily ignore because they are family

 

[MooMooVT]

Not “embarrassed”, per se, more like “cautious” about wearing my LVs around family...of all people, right? DH’s side, specifically. Like @Missydora, I could feel my ears burning the minute they would leave.

The first time my BIL and his wife saw one of my LV bags, I just knew the next day that they had immediately Googled how much I spent on it. Shortly after that, both of them and my MIL, in particular, would mention my handbags in one way or another, almost every time we got together. No thanks to my BIL and his wife broadcasting the amount I spent.

Then one day I said, screw that. I’m not going to care anymore about whether or not I should wear this bag or that bag around certain in-laws for fear that I might “offend” them, or whatever, with my luxury belongings. I would stop giving them power over my right to experience joy from my bags, which I have paid for with my money. That was a few years ago. BIL and his wife still take small jabs at me about my bags but I either ignore them or change the subject.

YES! Agree with more cautious vs embarrassed. My in-laws wont really recognize my LV/Hermes stuff by sight but they are familiar enough to know (consider) LV/Hermes are "expensive". My MIL spends lots more on the things she enjoys but she would clutch her pearls if she knew how much my LV's cost. One year my DH bought me a small silver ring from Tiffany's that I picked out. The story from my MIL was "I had to have a ring from Tiffany's". What? And BTW, it cost a 1/10 of her most recent European cruise!

When we're around my in-laws I ask my DH not to make a thing of any luxury goods. (If we're around my family or certain friends he might poke good-humored fun of my latest purchase.) With his side, if no one points out the brands by name - they're oblivious.

 

[cravingdesignerbags101]

Not “embarrassed”, per se, more like “cautious” about wearing my LVs around family...of all people, right? DH’s side, specifically. Like @Missydora, I could feel my ears burning the minute they would leave.

The first time my BIL and his wife saw one of my LV bags, I just knew the next day that they had immediately Googled how much I spent on it. Shortly after that, both of them and my MIL, in particular, would mention my handbags in one way or another, almost every time we got together. No thanks to my BIL and his wife broadcasting the amount I spent.

Then one day I said, screw that. I’m not going to care anymore about whether or not I should wear this bag or that bag around certain in-laws for fear that I might “offend” them, or whatever, with my luxury belongings. I would stop giving them power over my right to experience joy from my bags, which I have paid for with my money. That was a few years ago. BIL and his wife still take small jabs at me about my bags but I either ignore them or change the subject.

I think that you’re completely right, what you spend your money on is your business and nobody has the right to make small jabs at you. If they don’t spend their money on luxury things then that’s their fault. Maybe your BIL wife really wants a LV bag and her husband thinks it’s foolish to spend money on something like that so maybe she’s “projecting” her anger and jealousy at you but this is a wild guess that I have!

 

[tenKrat]

I think that you’re completely right, what you spend your money on is your business and nobody has the right to make small jabs at you. If they don’t spend their money on luxury things then that’s their fault. Maybe your BIL wife really wants a LV bag and her husband thinks it’s foolish to spend money on something like that so maybe she’s “projecting” her anger and jealousy at you but this is a wild guess that I have!

Not a wild guess at all! I have come to the same conclusion.

 

[Sugartats]

People in wheelchairs have a sense of humor too.

Some just love to be offended on behalf of others. ‍♀️

Off topic. This thread is going no where. The bully was banned and never saw the re-post. Can we all get back to purses please?

I believe this was a 'sock' account, here just to stir things up and boy, did it work!

 

[cravingdesignerbags101]

Not a wild guess at all! I have come to the same conclusion.

Maybe and this is just an idea but have you considered maybe talking to your BIL wife and saying to her “look I know it really makes you feel uncomfortable when I have my luxury bags in your presence but is there some hidden meaning behind it? Do you yourself want a bag like mine?” And then she can be honest with you and maybe if she tells you the truth then this can be a bonding experience

 

[tenKrat]

Maybe and this is just an idea but have you considered maybe talking to your BIL wife and saying to her “look I know it really makes you feel uncomfortable when I have my luxury bags in your presence but is there some hidden meaning behind it? Do you yourself want a bag like mine?” And then she can be honest with you and maybe if she tells you the truth then this can be a bonding experience

She and I don’t have much in common, so a bonding experience will never happen.

 

[Johnpauliegal]

I don’t think I would use the word embarrassed. Proud yes.

No seriously, I wear what I want and when I want. Would I carry my LV on the New York subway; probably not. However I have no problem carrying it on the Long Island Railroad. It would also depend what neighborhood I am in. Where I used to live in Brooklyn, I would carry it with no issues; same as where I live now in Long Island; or in Manhattan. However I would not carry it in certain neighborhoods. So with me, it has nothing to do with embarrassment; it has to do with safety.

 

[Sugartats]

No seriously, I wear what I want and when I want. Would I carry my LV on the New York subway; probably not.

Is it that bad? Do you think it would make you a mugging target??

 

[Johnpauliegal]

Is it that bad? Do you think it would make you a mugging target??

No it’s not that bad but better be safe then sorry.

When I ride the New York subway system I turn my diamond rings inside towards my palms. Why temp anyone!

You know a few years ago I took the subway and bought some Coach items and it came with this big shopping bag. I took out the wrapped coach bags and threw out the shopping bag and then I went to Macy’s to ask for one of their big plastic shopping bags lol. Why give anyone a reason to rob you. I work hard for my money. Don’t want to give it to anyone on a silver platter so to speak.

I guess there is good and bad in everyone. Why give the bad a reason to stay bad.

 

[MooMooVT]

No it’s not that bad but better be safe then sorry.

When I ride the New York subway system I turn my diamond rings inside towards my palms. Why temp anyone!

You know a few years ago I took the subway and bought some Coach items and it came with this big shopping bag. I took out the wrapped coach bags and threw out the shopping bag and then I went to Macy’s to ask for one of their big plastic shopping bags lol. Why give anyone a reason to rob you. I work hard for my money. Don’t want to give it to anyone on a silver platter so to speak.

I guess there is good and bad in everyone. Why give the bad a reason to stay bad.

I do the same with my diamond rings when using public transit (only in major metros. I use PT in my current town and don't fret). But in bigger cities you're luxury good are more recognizable and why temp anyone? Where I currently live most folks looking to mug/rob wouldn't know the LV look/value/brand. And I can't say I mind that. It's quiet and safe if lux-blind

 

[Johnpauliegal]

I do the same with my diamond rings when using public transit (only in major metros. I use PT in my current town and don't fret). But in bigger cities you're luxury good are more recognizable and why temp anyone? Where I currently live most folks looking to mug/rob wouldn't know the LV look/value/brand. And I can't say I mind that. It's quiet and safe if lux-blind

Yes better be safe than sorry.
And I hear what you’re saying about larger cities where luxury is more recognizable and in small towns where they are probably not aware of luxury. I guess it all goes down to street smart. I know where I can wear my luxury goods without incident and where I chose not to.

 

[Redenkeew]

Is it that bad? Do you think it would make you a mugging target??

It's not that bad. I live in downtown Manhattan and all my bags have seen the inside of the subway regularly. I know friends with wrists covered with diamond jewelry (easily a quarter of a million in value) and we openly talking about diamonds in a crowded train. No one really cared. Granted that sh*t could always happen, you never really know but I do feel fairly safe within Manhattan, even at night. It might not be safe in other boroughs, but I mean every city has a bad neighborhood.

 

[Johnpauliegal]

It's not that bad. I live in downtown Manhattan and all my bags have seen the inside of the subway regularly. I know friends with wrists covered with diamond jewelry (easily a quarter of a million in value) and we openly talking about diamonds in a crowded train. No one really cared. Granted that sh*t could always happen, you never really know but I do feel fairly safe within Manhattan, even at night. It might not be safe in other boroughs, but I mean every city has a bad neighborhood.

As I mentioned, it’s not bad at all. Depends on the neighborhood. Have no issues sporting my gems in Manhtn. But if I’m going to Yankee stadium via subway. I rather leave them at home.

In a crowded subway. No one sees anything. But when you go when there’s a handful, it’s noticeable. I’m certain you know what I’m talking about.

 

[Redenkeew]

As I mentioned, it’s not bad at all. Depends on the neighborhood. Have no issues sporting my gems in Manhtn. But if I’m going to Yankee stadium via subway. I rather leave them at home.

In a crowded subway. No one sees anything. But when you go when there’s a handful, it’s noticeable. I’m certain you know what I’m talking about.

Of course, everyone has their own level of comfort with the surrounding areas. I might be too brazen with my choice of accessorizing sometimes and I agree that it's always smart to be protective of your belongings like what you did. I was just assuring the other member that NYC is fairly safe for normal, day-to-day activities both for locals and tourists alike.