Dear Ludmilla
thank you so much. Actually I never thought and I'll never think that having children is relevant for giving advice. Sometimes it is really helpfull to listen to somebody who has an objective sight on the things.And so is your advice I read through the lines! Frankly said (as mentioned before you know it's unheard off to admitt weakness or struggles) I feel dissapointed and frustrated. My daughter is the total opposite to me, I am the outgoing, vivid, having -and showing

- a strong will- person while my daughter is soft and sweet and shy and fine and tries to please everybody. Reading that you can understand her struggling means that it is normal to struggle, which was a hughe moment for me as till now I always thought " why doesn't she ..? Why can't she ... Why won't she... Why is...." and so on.
So thank you for your advice to see the world through my daughters eyes.
Ah, Edit: next would be Schloss Neubeuern. Hefty prices and a boarding school. The school she is attending is considered to be the high achievers Gymnasium for that area, but as you know, we don't have that over here. Sometimes I wish we would. Sometimes I am happy that we don't have it and have a sort of equal education, which turns out to be (all sorts of)capital(s) oriented though. (following esteemed old combat fighter Bourdieu..)