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#10,816
millivanilli said:
don't drive Ludmilla. Over here we have Blitzeis.

Ladies, keep the execandy coming, please.

The router works again (don't knwo exactly what my husband did but it works).

Get well soon to all poor sick husbands and daughters!

I for myself had to face a very very VERY unpleasant truth (I actually knew would jump directly into my face but kept ignoring) which means a total change for me. From now on you may want to call me official SAHM. Or from 1st of April, I have to complete a few trainings. Then I'll need you to feed me with eyecandy.

Not in the very best mood, so. Seems that all roosters I did not send to slaugherhouse have a sort of hardcore dementia. Hey, wake up roosters in heaven, it's me, NOT eating you, so you probably should do something in the year of the rooster, shouldn't you?

Will keep silence the next days as this is how I work around hard times- I become silent. Just wanted to let you know and give you a hug :hugs:
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Oh, I am so sorry, millivanilli!
I don't why but I am sure the rooster won't let you down.
You are so full of energy and love that kind of job so much that there are employers out there looking forward to hiring someone like you.:smile:
You will see, you won't stay at home, very long!;)
Trust yourself and all the roosters on the planet and something very nice will come your way.
:hugs::hugs:
 
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#10,818
Mariapia said:
Oh, I am so sorry, millivanilli!
I don't why but I am sure the rooster won't let you down.
You are so full of energy and love that kind of job so much that there are employers out there looking forward to hiring someone like you.:smile:
You will see, you won't stay at home, very long!;)
Trust yourself and all the roosters on the planet and something very nice will come your way.
:hugs::hugs:
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thank you dear! Your warm words gave me shivers and I have tears in my eyes.

The problem is not that there are no job opportunities out there. I have to stay at home to take care of my daughter- it's hard to explain. How do I explain that internationaly;) Thing is, that she is way too young for the school she is attending, actually she is the youngest one that school ever had. May I add, that I never wanted her to start school at that young age, but everybody said that she needed to go to school at that age. Then she skipped one year, too (I didn't want too, but ... you knwo it's hard if everybody tells you that this is the right thing to do and you just have a "gutt feeling"). And though her mental capacity is according to the the others have (who are 2 to 3 years elder than her) she is still emotionally too young. And here we have the problem: she is overwhelmed, she can't fight her way through, she is lonely, she lacks certain routines others alredy have, she is simply a child while others are already teenagers. If she'd be not smart enough the solution would be quite easy- just take her to another schoolsystem and give her tasks that are easy to do for her. But she isn't "not smart enough". We had lots of talks to the teachers before christmas and this week after school started, we even talked to the principal and everybody told us not to make the mistake to grade her down (which I was considering to be a good idea) or to send her to another school as - according to the teachers- she has hughe potential and (that is my experience too) she would see herself as as looser if she left school, what she would have to do if we would grade her down. (over here is a break between grade 4 and 5 which means all children leave the school and attend one of three kind of schools, giving different educations and different degrees). I certainly won't blame the school as this is (which is an amazing statement from a German mother, we tend to complain a lot about schools and teachers) a really wonderfull school and the teachers are really prospectivly acting.

So I'll stay at home and be her pillow to rest. Sad thing is, that after finishing my tax declaration and sending it to my tax accountant I got a call from her (the t.a). She gave the advice to start a real company and start hiring people, a thing I was working on till.. well. now.

But... on the bright side, everybody is healthy and I bet out there are thousends of mothers who would love to change place with me. So I won't complain but still ask for eye candy to lighten up my mood ;))

Hugs to you dear Mariapia :hugs:
 
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#10,820
millivanilli said:
don't drive Ludmilla. Over here we have Blitzeis.

Ladies, keep the execandy coming, please.

The router works again (don't knwo exactly what my husband did but it works).

Get well soon to all poor sick husbands and daughters!

I for myself had to face a very very VERY unpleasant truth (I actually knew would jump directly into my face but kept ignoring) which means a total change for me. From now on you may want to call me official SAHM. Or from 1st of April, I have to complete a few trainings. Then I'll need you to feed me with eyecandy.

Not in the very best mood, so. Seems that all roosters I did not send to slaugherhouse have a sort of hardcore dementia. Hey, wake up roosters in heaven, it's me, NOT eating you, so you probably should do something in the year of the rooster, shouldn't you?

Will keep silence the next days as this is how I work around hard times- I become silent. Just wanted to let you know and give you a hug :hugs:
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Being a SAHM is a big change.
I have been one for a number of years.
If it's temporary for you, try to think of it as a sabbatical. A change to rest and recharge and maybe clean out a few closets.
If it's more long term, I have lots of tips to help make the transition easier.
The island ladies are very caring and supportive. No need to stay silent unless you want to.
 
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Murphy47 said:
Being a SAHM is a big change.
I have been one for a number of years.
If it's temporary for you, try to think of it as a sabbatical. A change to rest and recharge and maybe clean out a few closets.
If it's more long term, I have lots of tips to help make the transition easier.
The island ladies are very caring and supportive. No need to stay silent unless you want to.
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Thank you dear Murphy!

Any tip, any advice, any hint is more than highliest appreciated!
:love:
 
#10,822
Mariapia said:
Funny because I don't think ladies fantasize about male nurses or doctors anywhere...:giggle::giggle:
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I have nightmares about what hides behind surgical masks.
(aka twilight zone flashbacks)
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-BKfpvQMTtv4/UGSTSxckSrI/AAAAAAAAYKg/yhwgeSo5cxE/s1600/twilight-zone-.jpg
Ludmilla said:
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Oak Lexy today. We got more snow. But, it won't last. Too warm for that.
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:loveeyes:Lady Oak!
These older mulberry bags are so amazing.
Still my absolute faves.
Enjoy watching snow melt with her.
Melting snow is the best kind, imo.:tup:
Mariapia said:
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And another pic ... Difficult to catch the fur colours....
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Beautiful! Something nice to pat all day long.:heart:

Though do not buy fur, lovely loro piana toys sucked me into store.
Soooooo soft, special rabbit breed fur used.
All the colors/glow in different lights.
Wow.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/ae/61/b2/ae61b2451f89e767de010bfe4570dbde.jpg
And keyring turtle, very unusual.
https://www.loropiana.com/medias/sys_master/loropiana/products/FAF9680/h7e/h8d/9401033555998.jpg
millivanilli said:
Will keep silence the next days as this is how I work around hard times- I become silent. Just wanted to let you know and give you a hug
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Hope you will not be silent for long.
You brighten island tremendously.:hbeat:
Life does what it does, turns quickly, then does things in new direction. Keep hope.
 
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millivanilli said:
Thank you dear reaminsilly :love:
:hugs:
You are right, life does what life wants to do and we follow ... ;)
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Being a SAHM even for a short time is a different kind of challenge.
Think of yourself as CEO of your family. And you have relocated your office to home.
Since it is your office, decorate it in a way that makes you happy and ready to work.
Get up and get dressed at close to your usual time. You'll feel like getting things done if you're not in your pajamas.
If you used to have a commute to work use that time to exercise/walk. Keep moving to keep your mood elevated.
Take coffee breaks periodically just as you did at the office. Catch up on the news. Call a friend or family member if they are available so you don't feel isolated.
If you used to go out to lunch while at work, make sure you set aside a little money each week to do the same thing now. Don't stay cooped up in the house.
From your posts, it sounded as if you were working on setting up your own business. Continue to work on that. Make plans, keep in touch with your connections and finance people. Learn everything you can about the business you want to start.
Will you have the opportunity to pick your daughter up from school? If so, I would recommend it. When they burst through the doors at the end of the day they just spill out all the things that happened and you can find out how things really went instead of hearing "fine". If you can't pick her up you may have to work a little harder to get her to open up.
My oldest was smart but had problems staying on task. I had to sit close by and keep an eye on her to keep her on task. She had so MANY things she was interested in it was a challenge to keep her attention on the task in front of her.
The youngest has a very high IQ and the work was always too easy for her. She was bored and the challenge was to get her to compete the work so she could keep moving up. The challenge with her was to keep her going through the motions until the work was hard enough to keep her interested. Lots of clubs and extra activities with that one.
All moms have a hard job whether they work inside or outside the home. Rearing happy, productive, non spoiled members of society isn't easy. You will find your way, just give it time. And try to enjoy the slower pace. [emoji3]
 
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remainsilly said:
I have nightmares about what hides behind surgical masks.
(aka twilight zone flashbacks)
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-BKfpvQMTtv4/UGSTSxckSrI/AAAAAAAAYKg/yhwgeSo5cxE/s1600/twilight-zone-.jpg

:loveeyes:Lady Oak!
These older mulberry bags are so amazing.
Still my absolute faves.
Enjoy watching snow melt with her.
Melting snow is the best kind, imo.:tup:

Beautiful! Something nice to pat all day long.:heart:

Though do not buy fur, lovely loro piana toys sucked me into store.
Soooooo soft, special rabbit breed fur used.
All the colors/glow in different lights.
Wow.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/ae/61/b2/ae61b2451f89e767de010bfe4570dbde.jpg
And keyring turtle, very unusual.
https://www.loropiana.com/medias/sys_master/loropiana/products/FAF9680/h7e/h8d/9401033555998.jpg

Hope you will not be silent for long.
You brighten island tremendously.:hbeat:
Life does what it does, turns quickly, then does things in new direction. Keep hope.
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Ewww I remember that TZ episode. Most of them scared the crap out of me as a kid.
Glad snow is melting where you are rs.
Gloomy with more freezing rain on the way where I am.
The weather for our ladies across the pond doesn't look so nice either.
I am soooo ready to escape to the island. Maybe have a fancy beverage and watch some bag porn.
Is there a festival in January or should we make up our own?
 
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Ludmilla said:
Thank you for the pics! Postina looks great with her furry charm. :)

Ugh. I do not follow weather forecasts. (Obviously I should.) Arctic weather?! :shocked:
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They local wisdom here is "if you don't like the weather here, hang around an hour, it'll change."
In the last week we have had snow flurries, two days of 70F temperatures and two days (so far) of freezing rain. Monday it's supposed to hit 50F. Not watching the weather reports isn't an option.
 
#10,830
millivanilli said:
Thank you dear reaminsilly :love:
:hugs:
You are right, life does what life wants to do and we follow ... ;)
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Awww. I am so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, I have no good tips for you as I don't have any children of my own. I was sent to school a year early - late in year birthday - and I was for a long time the smallest and thinnest in the classroom. I had problems in Gymnasium until the 9th grade. Then I was on par with the others... I can totally understand that your daughter is struggling... There are no schools for the "high achievers" in your area I guess?

Are there any kinds of work related to your business you could do from home?

Don't stay silent for too long. We are all here blaming the roosters with you. :hugs:
 
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