Ladies, have you ever had a bag that was to die for, then after you got it home you found that you did not have much use for it, it just stays in your closet? That's the story of my white tote with dots (not sure of the name) beautiful bag, but HEAVY. The hardware is what makes it heavy and when you add your things it's really heavy. I carried it twice and I couldn't return it. What is a girl to do when she loves a bag and it's just not working out? Has this happen to you?