2020 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?

[ElainePG]

I went shopping today but didn't buy anything else than socks for me, I did buy a few things for mom since it was the sales and she is still really down and out from missing dad, so got her MaxMara cashmere sweaters, some other stuff and and a gorgeous cashmere scarf. Just making a parcel for her and hoping it will make her smile a little bit.

What a lovely and loving thing for you to do. I'm sure those thoughtful gifts will indeed bring a smile to her face… even if only temporarily.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

 

[Gabs007]

What a lovely and loving thing for you to do. I'm sure those thoughtful gifts will indeed bring a smile to her face… even if only temporarily.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Thank you, it is easier for me to cope with the loss than mom, when it was clear that dad had taken a turn to the worse, I headed over and was so shocked in which bad shape he was and how much he suffered, so (I feel quite bad about it, but I hope you know how I mean it) I was almost glad that the suffering ended, because I simply didn't want him to suffer and I can console myself with that. I sometimes still catch myself reaching for the phone and wanting to call him about something.

For mom it is more difficult, dad didn't want her to work, though she did later in life a part time job in a boutique (dad always joked she spent more there than she earned, that's why they had her) and he loved being the one in charge, she loved being the pampered wife, wouldn't be my thing but it worked for those 2, so not judging. So apart from missing the person she shared most of her life with, it's also that a lot of things that were normal for her are now missing. Dad simply loved being the macho protector and mom loved being the adored wife, she never had to do normal stuff like bother with banking, insurance... So just giving her a bit of the "pampered" feeling back, plus I can encourage her to go shopping for herself, anything to bring her out a bit.

 

[piperdog]

Thank you, it is easier for me to cope with the loss than mom, when it was clear that dad had taken a turn to the worse, I headed over and was so shocked in which bad shape he was and how much he suffered, so (I feel quite bad about it, but I hope you know how I mean it) I was almost glad that the suffering ended, because I simply didn't want him to suffer and I can console myself with that. I sometimes still catch myself reaching for the phone and wanting to call him about something.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed over the holidays and I could have written your exact statement. It's very thoughtful of you to send her a care package.

 

[cowgirlsboots]

Hi everbody,

how nice to find this thread as setting goals for 2020 has been on my mind a lot recently.....

I think my top hand bag related goal is not to lose my mind over bags!
Second I´d love to find some more Dior by John Galliano bags for my collection- but at sensible prices, please!

Over the last few days I´ve really been worried about my mental health- out of nowhere came the urge to look at bags that come at prices I´d consider more appropriate for buying a car than a handbag. Actually if my man would tell me today that we´d need a new car and show me cars in the 4000 Euro range I´d ask him did he think money grew on trees.

But when it comes to bags!

For days I´ve been sitting right here at the computer looking longignly at Chanel purses- preloved of course, but still sooo expensive. The Boy has always been a dream and over the last few days I´ve actually been tempted to go ahead and buy one. Thankfully common sense kicked in and I did not. But no, I didn´t get sane instantly, but changed my search to my second dream bag which is the Gucci Dionysus.

The moment I knew things were going wrong was when I thought "that´s only - O.N.L.Y.- 1500 Euro!"

No, I can´t do this. Here´s where the resolution formed: don´t go crazy over handbags, don´t lose your connection to reality!

So far I´ve been bottom-feeding on preloved Dior bags from the Galliano era making amazing bargains. I truly love the Galliano designs. That´s where my real personal not fashion related passion lays!

So to resolution number two: don´t forget who you are, girl! Get what you personally love, what excites you and fills your heart with joy!

The bags I´d love to find in the near future are:
a Gambler Dice bag
a Jeanne D´Arc bag
a Babe tote
a Diva pony fur wallet would be very lovely, too!

It feels good to write this all down!

 

[Gabs007]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed over the holidays and I could have written your exact statement. It's very thoughtful of you to send her a care package.

Gosh that is dreadful at least it was before the holidays that it happened with dad, over the holidays it must be horrendous for you and your family, it is amazing how we feel guilt that we are glad they don't suffer anymore, it's not that we are not missing them, but in a way, I feel that I can cope easier with the missing than somebody suffering terribly with no chance of getting better.

 

[whateve]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed over the holidays and I could have written your exact statement. It's very thoughtful of you to send her a care package.

Gosh that is dreadful at least it was before the holidays that it happened with dad, over the holidays it must be horrendous for you and your family, it is amazing how we feel guilt that we are glad they don't suffer anymore, it's not that we are not missing them, but in a way, I feel that I can cope easier with the missing than somebody suffering terribly with no chance of getting better.

I'm so sorry for both of your losses. It must have been so hard for you. My parents have been gone for years now. I've never stopped missing them but I can remember the good things now without tearing up.

 

[ohmisseevee]

Thank you, it is easier for me to cope with the loss than mom, when it was clear that dad had taken a turn to the worse, I headed over and was so shocked in which bad shape he was and how much he suffered, so (I feel quite bad about it, but I hope you know how I mean it) I was almost glad that the suffering ended, because I simply didn't want him to suffer and I can console myself with that. I sometimes still catch myself reaching for the phone and wanting to call him about something.

For mom it is more difficult, dad didn't want her to work, though she did later in life a part time job in a boutique (dad always joked she spent more there than she earned, that's why they had her) and he loved being the one in charge, she loved being the pampered wife, wouldn't be my thing but it worked for those 2, so not judging. So apart from missing the person she shared most of her life with, it's also that a lot of things that were normal for her are now missing. Dad simply loved being the macho protector and mom loved being the adored wife, she never had to do normal stuff like bother with banking, insurance... So just giving her a bit of the "pampered" feeling back, plus I can encourage her to go shopping for herself, anything to bring her out a bit.

@Gabs007 it's so thoughtful of you to send her a care package - I hope that she also has other people that she can lean on.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed over the holidays and I could have written your exact statement. It's very thoughtful of you to send her a care package.

I am sorry for both of your losses. The fathers of two of my closest friends passed away during the last couple of years and I could only support them by letting them know I am there for them. I can't even imagine what they and you both are going through.

 

[Gabs007]

I am sorry for both of your losses. The fathers of two of my closest friends passed away during the last couple of years and I could only support them by letting them know I am there for them. I can't even imagine what they and you both are going through.

I think I am having sort of a delayed reaction, there was so much to do and mom couldn't cope with it, so for a while I was regularly flying back and forth, informing the family and friends, organising the funeral, then the amount of paperwork involved... It was quite overwhelming but I am glad about it, because I hope by the time it really hits me, time will act a bit like a buffer.

 

[Rhl2987]

Thank you, it is easier for me to cope with the loss than mom, when it was clear that dad had taken a turn to the worse, I headed over and was so shocked in which bad shape he was and how much he suffered, so (I feel quite bad about it, but I hope you know how I mean it) I was almost glad that the suffering ended, because I simply didn't want him to suffer and I can console myself with that. I sometimes still catch myself reaching for the phone and wanting to call him about something.

For mom it is more difficult, dad didn't want her to work, though she did later in life a part time job in a boutique (dad always joked she spent more there than she earned, that's why they had her) and he loved being the one in charge, she loved being the pampered wife, wouldn't be my thing but it worked for those 2, so not judging. So apart from missing the person she shared most of her life with, it's also that a lot of things that were normal for her are now missing. Dad simply loved being the macho protector and mom loved being the adored wife, she never had to do normal stuff like bother with banking, insurance... So just giving her a bit of the "pampered" feeling back, plus I can encourage her to go shopping for herself, anything to bring her out a bit.

I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss and you are such a thoughtful daughter to your grieving mother, even when you yourself are grieving. I hope I can be like you for my parents someday.

 

[Rhl2987]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed over the holidays and I could have written your exact statement. It's very thoughtful of you to send her a care package.

I'm sorry for your loss @piperdog. I can't even imagine.

 

[Gabs007]

I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss and you are such a thoughtful daughter to your grieving mother, even when you yourself are grieving. I hope I can be like you for my parents someday.

I was a dreadful, stroppy teenager, I guess I am making up for that

 

[More bags]

I wore the same bag for a week straight and even on a Sunday at the mall - Alexander McQueen Padlock bag! Ever since the incident in December (I mentioned this in the 2019 thread but I’m still not ready to discuss it), I’ve stayed longer in my bags. And this bag is so versatile! Actually, this shot was today. The gold flats were a last minute change since my original choice (black) didn’t look good. Then I had no time to change my bag, so metals/colors are not in sync. Told myself nobody cares.

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Lovely outfit msd. I hope you are able to recover from your December incident and find a way to move forward. On a lighter note - it’s awesome you can wear a skirt at this time of year. We are experiencing a cold snap, this morning it was -29C/-20F or -41C/-42F with windchill. Brrr, frostbite is a real risk. I am layering with cashmere and my arctic parka .... and spending our evenings at hockey rinks!

My mantra this month has been “no extras”. I’m doing the January no (extra) spend challenge and the January consume what’s in my freezer/larder/pantry challenge. I picked up one of my bags from the boutique, post spa treatments, and put the blinders on (don’t look at the scarves, don’t look at the scarves).

Shopping my closet, what goes great over a puffy winter coat - my Hermes Massai Cut 40.
What are you carrying?
Be well everyone!

 

[cowgirlsboots]

“Why... buy?.... Am I Upset about something?”

So True!!!! Thank you for articulating that. Some people are emotional eaters. I think I am an emotional handbag purchaser. Oy Vey! (But soooo pretty.)

May I join the club, please? Feeling depressed or upset makes me long for bags or shoes, too- emotional shopping (of items that will definetely fit, not like clothes which might be comforting but always come with the risk of more frustration.) Realising there´s a pattern makes me feel much better! Next time I´ll question my motivation!

 

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So ladies I have returned from Vegas and decided two things. 1. I must get Kelly 32-need to decide on color and leather. 2. I need a Lady Dior. I can so close to purchasing the Dior but I couldn’t decide on the size. The medium I loved handheld but didn’t like it crossbody. The small I loved crossbody but didn’t particularly care for it handheld. Also I couldn’t figure out what color Here are the two mod shots

missie, you look fabulous! I like the pop of red and I think the medium with flap sounds more practical. I realize you already have red bag coverage, I like the idea of black patent- didn’t Lady Diana have one in black patent? Good luck deciding, I don’t think you can go wrong with whatever you choose.

 

[More bags]

All very valid questions @whateve Thanks for asking very rational questions. It stopped being my HG only due to price point. It has very low resale value from what I've noticed so I can only buy it if I intend to keep it. I am worried I've hyped the bag up in my mind because it felt so unattainable. And seeing the exact colour combination I want in the condition and price point I want is really tempting. But I was also sans toddler when I started coveting this bag. No idea if it is a realistic mom bag.

Edit: so I did make an offer, but she didn't want to budge. Had she said yes, I would have bought it. But since she stood firm at her price, I will not consider it unless I sell one more bag (the issue is a matter of principle and not affordability-- I need to at least try to stick to my lofty small budget for frivolous goods.)

Congratulations on your well thought out approach. Perhaps once one of your bags sells and you go back to get your previous HG she’ll have reduced her asking price! Good wishes and good luck with your sales!