2019 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?

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#10,291
ElainePG said:
Colorful(ish) cashmere sweaters over plain pants (or in my case, sometimes nice jeans) with a scarf is my go-to look from September through April out here on the coast! Comfy-cozy, easy, and it looks as though I've put a lot more effort into it than I actually have.
I've seen your selfies on some of the scarf threads, and I think it's a look that works beautifully on you.
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I-think this look is so classic, and also so comfortable....
 
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Cookiefiend said:
Ugh - I understand.
I find it helps if I take a day like that and spend it cleaning and polishing my purses or shoes, or organizing my closet. Sometimes looking at and handling the things I have, eases that feeling a bit.
(Gray and ugly today, I just polished my Gucci Padlock and the shoes I wore in the slush last night)
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What a great idea :tup:
 
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Cookiefiend said:
I'll definitely wear the Gucci Padlock and the Proenza Schouler PS Courier.
The Gucci with a darling silver sequined skirt, slim fitting white T with a satin collar, and a navy tweedy short jacket, black heels. Last time I wore this I wore the Onde de Chic mousseline.
The PS with skinny black pants, cream silk blouse with embroidered collar, and black leather jacket, black heels. I might wear the Sabina Savage scarf, The Panther and the Flamingo with this because it's light and sheer and i LOVE the panther's eyes!
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Sounds lovely!
 
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Sparkletastic said:
I know we’re all working to be more mindful of (or even ban) our purchases.

So, I’m curious. How do you approach possible buying? Do you have a detailed plan of acquisition with a list of specific models and target dates? Are you looking to fill certain usage gaps like big tote or casual WOC but don’t have a specific model in mind? Are you working without a plan and simply evaluating each bag as it crosses your fancy? Are you still impulsive and struggling to contain buying? Other?

Please share your perspective and any insight on working / not working. And no worries, no matter how haphazard or out of control you feel, most of us have been there and are here for support. Or if you are super rigid and disciplined that’s ok too! No criticism. :biggrin:

For me, I have a specific list of types of bags (not specific models) I need. I’ve developed this list from tracking each time I want to wear a bag I don’t have on my closet. In the last couple years, I’ve gotten good at not going outside my well thought out list. (After years of buying and selling like a manic cuckoo bird. Lol!)

In full transparency, however, I’m “helped” with this as Mr. S buys me at least one bag a year that’s a surprise indulgence. So, I don’t feel the “pain” of being super disciplined. Kinda knowing a surprise will come my way at some point helps me be “good” and not go rogue.
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Wonderful to have that to look foward to every year, a special surprise bag, and extra special knowing Mr Sparkle picked it out for you ....the love and meaning attached to the bag is priceless....

Approach? Hmmmm. I surf my various sites, i see things i like, i buy. So, a very bad approach :biggrin: There are a few bags i would love to add. Because i found i really like the styles. But i need to ban myself from buying for awhile, start listing more bags, and once i’ve cleared more out, really get ruthless about not keeping bags that don’t work for me (hard for me to let go of bags i like, and all the bags still new with tags, knowing i might sell for 30% of what i paid). And then try to track bag usage like many of you do, and really analyze my needs before i buy.

I know i want to find more mini Venetas, these are great bags for me. Black, and a couple of colored ones. They pop up sporadically so if i see one i like thats in good condition i will permit myself to buy them. Would like to add a couple of medium Venetas too.

And i would like to add a few more Ferragamo's, in several styles ....that i would prefer over some bags i currently have.... will try to eliminate at least 25 bags before i bring any new ones in at this point though.....

This is my plan. Will be interested to read the various approaches you all are Taking!
 
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msd_bags said:
Something not good happened to me, well to my house, early December (I’m not ready to talk about it though) and this has kept me from both B&M and online shopping because I am just not in the mood. Plus I have had unexpected expenses following the incident. So I really am safe from shopping, at least for now. :smile:
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So sorry to hear this, and i hope everything will work out for you :flowers:
 
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papertiger said:
I'm so sorry *hugs*

My house was completely flooded twice in a year from burst pipes (and I live on the top of a mountain FGS). If it wasn't for kind neighbours lending us their pump to get the water out fast and spell of sunny days after we'd still be drying out.

We've just re-plastered but things are still not back to normal.

I hope your situation resolves satisfactorily, I know that it can feel very lonely and scary at such a time.
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So sorry to hear this...this also happened to us twice in our previous home....so i know how awful it is to go through..... sending you hugs :hugs:
 
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msd_bags said:
Something not good happened to me, well to my house, early December (I’m not ready to talk about it though) and this has kept me from both B&M and online shopping because I am just not in the mood. Plus I have had unexpected expenses following the incident. So I really am safe from shopping, at least for now. :smile:
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Dear msd I am sorry to hear about your misfortune. Best wishes on recovering a sense of calm after your incident.
 
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papertiger said:
I'm so sorry *hugs*

My house was completely flooded twice in a year from burst pipes (and I live on the top of a mountain FGS). If it wasn't for kind neighbours lending us their pump to get the water out fast and spell of sunny days after we'd still be drying out.

We've just re-plastered but things are still not back to normal.

I hope your situation resolves satisfactorily, I know that it can feel very lonely and scary at such a time.
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Dear papertiger, that is absolutely awful. I can’t believe twice in one year. I hope you were able to recover your most precious items. Good luck with the repairs. Hugs to you, too.
 
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jbags07 said:
Your compliment means more than you know. Ask anyone who has seen my comments on tPF (say 3-4 years ago) and they will say the hallmark of my behavior was settling for something almost good enough and then going back into the sell and re-buy cycle. It was painful. Making that mistake literally over 100 times (I’ve sold over 150 bags) finally semi-cured me. It’s just too much hassle to have a back that doesn’t work well and then having to sell / rehome it.

I was a hair away from keeping the chevron Chanel. It was pristine preloved with all the extras (box, etc.) but I knew that I wouldn’t be happy with it when I wear white or light colors. The aged hardware just makes it too heavy. So I grabbed myself by the neck and returned it.

Mr. Sparkle is a great help here. He wants better for me than I want for myself. So he will ask me the tough questions and help (push LOL!) me to get what will really make me happy. This is a new dynamic. When I was in the throes of working and child rearing I didn’t have 5 minutes to consider my wardrobe. Now, that the kids are adults and all we have is work and fun, we have the time to do fun things like try on clothes for each other. I really like it.
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I am glad my compliment made you feel good :hugs: And i meant what i said, plus previous posts of yours helped me see things too in my shopping behavior/patterns that i need/want to change. Your ability to transform your approach, and sharing the journey with us here, is so helpful and so very appreciated. I hope in 3-4 years time, like you mentioned, i too can transform my habits. I think i am now where you used to be, except even worse lol. I am around the age now my mom was at when she fell ill and we lost her....in her 30s/40s, she loved to shop and was in perpetual buying mode. Those were formative years for me. She was 48 when she got sick and 50 when she died....and never got to experience life after kids were grown...and her ‘hobby’ while we were growing was shopping....i feel like i am stuck in a perpetual buying mode... ..instead of enjoying what i have, on to the next thing.....this also precludes me from being careful and selective....and the merry go round continues....as you said, the hassle of buying/selling cycle! And less stuff, better stuff, stuff you love, results in so much less chaos, clutter, stress....so i hope i can reach the place you’ve landed....its an inspiring goal :biggrin: Somehow i need to break that shopping/hoarding mode that was kind of ingrained in me.....and my relationship never evolved from that point with my mom, so that needs to be worked out too....

Glad u returned the chevron rather then settling! Wait for the right bag....keep moving foward....

I think its wonderful Mr Sparkle is so helpful, and encourages you to wait for what you really want. That kind of support is priceless. My DH is very sweet but has no clue with helping me .....when i ask if he likes something, he always responds...do you like it? :lol: Lol.....
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I love this thread, and am committing to participate in the 2020 version. I don't have a DH to help/hinder/enable/criticize/support/ignore/fund me, so I rely on you all! :flowers: (well, not for the funding part, unless you really want to :biggrin:).
 
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