Checking in. It’s been an incredibly difficult past few weeks. My mother had a stroke. I’m an only child and she lives in a different city. She is going to be ok but, has limited motion on her right side.
Unfortunately, my mother is not a “nice” person. I’ve mentioned this before but, probably you all thought it was a “normal” not nice or personality conflict and it isn’t. Case in point:
DS lives in the same city as she. When she was having issues, she called him to take her to the hospital which he did. When she got there, she intimated to the staff that she was afraid of DS because he had pushed her. Long story short, my son - who was missing work and school trying to care for his grandma - was grilled like a felon by the police and my mother’s care was delayed because she sent them down a fake path. Luckily her exam showed there was no push and fall - there was the stroke.
I’ve dealt with her evil since I was little and she has pulled the same type of thing on me to the point I’ve had to be proactive with her doctors and caregivers to let them know how she behaves. But, I’d shielded my children from her horrible nature, so DS is struggling to comprehend how she could want to hurt him. Sadly, I’ve had to tell both kids not to have contact with her and just let me handle things.
And no, she doesn’t have dementia or reduced capacity. She is a proud, braggy, card carrying, clear headed Mensan who has ALWAYS been this way - using hypochondria and drama to torment the family.
So, trying to care for her is difficult and, as you can guess, she doesn’t win any friends at hospitals or care facilities which means I have to hover to make sure she is treated well while I try to stay sane.
This is one of the things DH & I actually bonded over. His mother is just as horrible but in different ways - his mom was physically abusive whereas mine is all about head games. Most people don’t “get it” when you say “mom” is a terrible person and want to shame you into always being forgiving and close to Mama. But, evil comes in all shapes and sizes. All, he and I can do is make sure our mothers are safe and cared for
from a distance. Relationship is impossible.
If you have a good mom - hug her close. If you know someone who struggles with their mom - give them a hug too. It’s horrendous.
Anyway, I’m double lump grumpy so, shopping the last thing on my list.
But, one of my bracelets sold for 110% of what I paid for it. I’m happy it’s gone but, it was kind of a burden to have to pack and ship it right now.
Happier times are ahead though. Memorial Day weekend should be fun! Fingers crossed.
I’ve had a new bag for a while and no energy to do a proper reveal, but hopefully this weekend I’ll post some pics!
... or like I just left Bath & Bodyworks. So something grown-up, but still basically vanilla. The problem is, if I go to the store and get something spritzed on me, it only lasts for up to 5 or 6 hours. And then, what, another trip to the store? So I found a site called Lucky Scents where you can buy little samples very cheaply, and I'm testing out a whole bunch of different ones, one day at a time. So far the winner is Il Profumo Vanille Bourbon, but it only comes in a large (100ml) bottle, and I just want it in a 50ml size. But I still have some more samples to try, so hopefully I'll find something just as good in a smaller size.
