Ohh. If she knows nothing about the rush "parties" as I did not, she should know that they begin with little one-on-one interviews where a current sorority member asks questions to the rush-ee. The sorority girl will also tell the rushee a bit about her house. The subsequent days have different themes such as house tours, philanthropy day, entertainment day. The last day is pref day when a sorority member will "pref" a new member- basically making a personal invitation to join the house.
Hi!! I was rush chair at my sorority and I just graduated from college so I am VERY familiar with the process as I planned it myself!
What luvhautecouture said is correct - Your daughter will basically visit every house during the beginning rounds and will have one-on-one conversations with the sisters. Most of the time, your daughter will be led to a seat on the couch or whatever and she will stay there - the Sisters themselves will be the ones to walk up to each PNM (potential new member). Don't worry about the logistics so much, the PNMs will have "Recruitment Counselors" or "Greek Life Guides" that will explain each and every detail to them and make sure that your daughter goes to where she needs to go.
Your daughter needs be really friendly, have a big smile on her face and be ready to have conversations. The most important thing is that your daughter needs to keep the conversation going - ABSOLUTELY NO ONE WORD ANSWERS. She needs to be REALLY positive - no one wants to talk to a girl who is just going to ***** about her roommate, complain about professors, etc. Eye contact is REALLY important - your daughter's eyes should not be wandering around the room. She cannot look tired or bored...we take GREAT offense to that. Also it's important that she asks questions about the sorority so that it's obvious she's interested.
Remember to tell your daughter NOT to bring up controversial topics. Here are things she should avoid asking about:
Amount of money the sorority asks for dues
Money in general. No showing off!
Boys, sex, drinking, drugs,
religion, politics, abortions, etc
asking about OTHER sororities
asking about how sororities pick their new sisters
asking what the "stereotype" of the sorority is
^All of these are HUGE no-nos.
The conversation needs to remain friendly and polite, but still reveal things about herself. She should talk about things like what her major is, her love for travel, or her love of animals, etc. Get my point?
Make sure your daughter dresses appropriately. I'm not saying she has to be decked out in designer wearing Manolos..She just needs to adhere to the dress code. Make sure her makeup doesn't look gross and caked on and that she's not showing too much leg, butt crack or cleavage. A cute outfit will DEFINITELY get your daughter noticed so if you want to, you could buy her a few cute dresses/shoes, whatever.
What are they looking for in a potential sister?
They want someone who just "fits" and clicks with all the sisters. Whatever sorority your daughter can SEE herself in..whatever sorority where your daughter feels like she can just be herself.. is probably the right one.
Also please tell your daughter not to get discouraged if she gets cut from a sorority she really liked in the beginning. She should keep her hopes up until the end of the process...Keep in mind that we sorority sisters usually know what's best for each PNM so when we cut a girl, it's just not meant to be. As long as your daughter just acts like herself, and displays politeness and respect, she will end up in a sorority that's just perfect for her
Yes recruitment can be scary because there's a chance you will get cut, but in the end its absolutely worth it. Being in a sorority was one of the best things that ever happened me...I met all my best friends in college through it and I had the best four years of my life. I cannot explain how much FUN being a sorority is!!!
ALSO really really important - I will end my post before I start writing an essay!!
- Make sure your daughter cleans up her facebook. We do A LOT of facebook stalking and we will eliminate girls who look like they might be a liability
- Make sure that during the recruitment process, even when she's not actually at a rush party, that she is conducting herself well. This means no rowdy frat parties, excess drinking, hooking up with frat boys, etc. Sorority girls are watching...and they will report back to rush committee.
Please PM me if you have any questions!