We live in a society that places a value on beauty and aesthetics - to the point where we all give ourselves complexes, hold ourselves to a standard that is impossible to compare to, and then face discrimination in the work-force and society because we don't fit the "image" of that perfect person. there have been studies that individuals that were more attractive in appearance had "better" interviews than other people with equal qualifications and all other professional factors being equal. Yes, it does open doors (literally), but I am a strong believer that this will only carry you so far. You must have the talent, intelligence, personality, soul to get you the rest of the way. Looks will fade - other "beautiful" qualities will not.
I'm so over it all and guilty of it at the same time. I wish I didn't care about how I looked and what clothes I wear (and which handbag i carry), but the reality is i know that is how I am judged and as such, feel the
need to present myself in appropriate clothing and hair styles, wouldn't think of going to work without make-up and dressed well.
You're so sweet. Sorry if it came off like I was putting myself down (I hate when people do that). But I just hate having big boobs and I too wonder if certain things would be different if I didn't have em.
Isn't that the truth?!?!
I'm in the same boat (okay, sorry, I just thought "I'm in the same Boob Boat" and cracked myself up....hey - it's late!).
I have this problem too and it has created a complex and yes, those dreaded self-esteem issues all my life. They arrived when I was 9, were fully out there by 13, and I've hated them ever since. I've always been leered at, had women talk trash about how slutty I was (huh? didn't even do "IT" until I was 20), had women say they hate me because of them, men never look me in the eye, and nearly everyone feels its acceptable to make inappropriate comments about them. Everything from "Oh my god they're so big" to "Can I hold them?" and many many more I can't mention in this type of forum. Honestly, I wish I could just cut them off! I've seriously, seriously considered having them reduced to a more normal size and just blend in.
People always think the grass is greener...I've had women ask if they could take a picture of them with their camera phone to show their plastic surgeon how large they wanted to go. UGH. Why do women think this will make them more attractive and feel better about themselves?
Sure, it'll be fun for a while, but try spending twice as much on bras because the ones that provide good support are super expensive, then buy them twice as often because they don't last long, constant alterations on dresses that need to be purchased at least two sizes larger, not knowing what a button-down blouse feels like without a tank underneath, or worse, looking 40 pounds heavier when wearing a t-shirt or sweater.....oh, and then there's the back pain, shoulder strain, "clothes-hanger shoulder" (basically a HUGE indentation due to the weight / strap digging in), neck strain, headaches, can't sleep on my stomach..
Okay, sorry, I just am feeling horrible from this today and wow that was a much needed rant.
. I'm :okay: now!