"Women want a ring that p*sses off other women"

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#16
I think he's partially right. I laughed out loud at that actually even though it's sad.

I can honestly admit that even 20 years later, I anxiously look forward to running into all the girls who treated me like crap in school and went out of their way to make me feel less than them and knowing that they are miserable in their lives and hate that they have nothing nice and have gotten fat. I like having nice rings, nice things and knowing I worked my ass off to get what I had and they got by on their looks and when their looks faded they settled on every aspect of their lives. They're still just as nasty and insecure as they were then that they had to abuse other people. I don't rub it in, but I feel a lot better knowing that what they did to me and others bit them back later in life.
 
#17
^ It's human nature to strive for and want the best, is it not?

I find it difficult to believe that among the women here (especially this being a luxury forum), there isn't a tiny part of you that isn't smiling to yourself when an old friend, enemy, or simple stranger notice your ring and think, "WOW"!

I don't know if my ring pisses people off (& that's not its intent), but I will admit I like receiving compliments on it & having others take notice.

How many of you don't? Am I alone? LOL
 
#18
Very very true, at least that has been my experience. Not every woman is like that but unfortunately most women are and deep down even the least malicious ones of use compete. If you are pretty and are very stylish then most women will not like you and say right away that you are stupid and shallow and especially in a workplace with a lot of women this is the case. I can understand it on a certain level because everyone would feel bad if the guys they liked would always pick out other women even my friends. That is why they say no competition only exists between women from different generations. We all compete a bit even with our best friends and dress for each other some as honestly guys could give a rat's about what brand is your bag, very few will even look at the bag of a woman, they only see the overall picture but to them it does not really matter whether you are carrying a no-name or say a Valentino. They look for other things in women. But yes style in general does matter to them too just not the way we look at it. I think that competition has been with humans during all mankind and it will always be there, it is inherent to our nature.
 
#19
I think this has some truth to it. I also know that some men like to give their women the best they can because it shows how "much" they can provide for their women over the next guy. So don't lay all the blame on us! I didn't want a diamond ring for e-ring. The ring I wanted was less than a $1000 but my DF insisted on getting something "real" so people know.
 
#20
Contessa said:
^ It's human nature to strive for and want the best, is it not?

I find it difficult to believe that among the women here (especially this being a luxury forum), there isn't a tiny part of you that isn't smiling to yourself when an old friend, enemy, or simple stranger notice your ring and think, "WOW"!

I don't know if my ring pisses people off (& that's not its intent), but I will admit I like receiving compliments on it & having others take notice.

How many of you don't? Am I alone? LOL
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I don't think anyone on here comes here to upstage anyone, though I often wonder if women who post their rings and are embarrassed by them comparitively. Because I hate seeing "it's small but I love it" and all that backhanded stuff that they preface it with.

I KNOW having nice stuff pisses these girls off and one went so far as to say it was probably fake. Whatever. Nothin fake about me sweetheart! But otherwise I don't care about strangers necessarily. It's only those who mistreated me. I deserved every item I have and I worked my ass off to get each and every thing I have. I hate my house itself bec it's a money pit, but someday I won't have to worry about it and Ill be living in a nice apartment lol and will never buy one again! I have never had much handed to me, I had to work for everything. I am allowed to be happy with my life and goods in my life. And Im allowed to find pleasure in knowing how miffed my happiness and rewards makes trashy jerk people.

But I also like saying "I selected this myself. We can afford more, but I like having money and nice things too"
 
#21
Men do the same thing! I watch it happen time and time again. For example, Mr. MM bought a new "toy", a gun, to be specific. Over the next few months, 3 out of 5 of his friends went out and bought the same gun, but with each subsequent purchase, more accessories went on it, each time a little more extravagant (and completely useless, no one needs a laser sight on a .12 gauge). They did the same thing with quads a few years later, then it was new trucks. It's ridiculous.

On the other side, I watched 4 out of 5 of the couples get married within a year of each other. With each engagement, a ring went up as the profile picture on the girls' facebooks. With each picture, a caption went under it, "1.25 carats!" "1.5 carats!" "2 carats!!!" "2.5 CARATS!!!!" It should be noted that the 2.5 carat ring was several diamond chips, formed to look like one big one.

It's human nature, we all want the best of everything.
 
#23
we don't have the pissing off situation going on but for some reason it is important to my mother and me (occassionally) to be the first to have something. I think in my case it is really the reaction I have seen from some ladies (friends, relatives) when they have something and you also get that (like a bag or watch). even in our teens my former BFF got really upset over this stuff.

in my mum's circle of friends she used to have everything and a couple of them would just buy everything exactly the same way. it got to the point that my mum stopped buying LV and now just doesn't want to end up buying the same stuff the others already have. oh the drama, sometimes...
 
#24
I give compliments when I like (love) something someone has and I enjoy receiving them in return. But what is the point in having things that you hope will piss off other women (3/4 of whom are strangers) - is a sign of insecurity.
 
#25
ShimmyChick said:
I was watching Dennis Leary's "Douchebags and Donuts" standup comedy special last night, and one of the guest comics, Adam Ferrara, made this joke: (click the link to see the video)

"I know the significance of the wedding ring. Women don't want a ring that's a symbol of the love you have for her, or represents the commitment you wanna make to her. Women want a ring that pisses off other women, because they live their entire life with this subtext of competition, this girl-on-girl violence they can never speak of because they're 'civilized creatures.' But if they could tell you what they really think, they would say to you, like, 'This is my best friend, but if life gives her something before I get it, I'll throw the b*tch under the bus.' They don't say that, so they communicate through symbols like bags, and shoes, and rings."

I tried not to laugh too hard, so as not to tip off to my boyfriend that I think this is at least partially true.

What do you think? Is he right on the money?
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OMG!!!!:lolots:
This is so true!!! I shared this post with my best friend who will be getting in engaged really soon; and she & I have been plotting together for at least a year to get her the most beautiful and breathtaking diamond rings in order to piss off our female co-workers!
 
#26
I do think that we dress more for other women to notice/comment than for men. I also think that women can be very competitive with each other.

I don't personally buy anything to piss anyone off, I buy & wear what I like. but I do like to look nice & receive compliments from my friends. most of the time, compliments from strangers embarrass me. I often cover up my rings if I'm concerned about attracting unwanted attention.

I'm sure that there are women who buy & wear things purely out of competition with other women. however, I know for sure that MEN are competitive with other men about the size of the e-ring that their wife/fiancee is wearing...I've overheard discussions about it.
 
#27
frick&frack said:
I do think that we dress more for other women to notice/comment than for men. I also think that women can be very competitive with each other.

I don't personally buy anything to piss anyone off, I buy & wear what I like. but I do like to look nice & receive compliments from my friends. most of the time, compliments from strangers embarrass me. I often cover up my rings if I'm concerned about attracting unwanted attention.

I'm sure that there are women who buy & wear things purely out of competition with other women. however, I know for sure that MEN are competitive with other men about the size of the e-ring that their wife/fiancee is wearing...I've overheard discussions about it.
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in my opion, that is so true.
I think that represents the power of a man to his lady :p

My DH sometimes says your rock is bigger than hers :p
 
#28
There is some truth to it for me. Not to piss other women off, but when it comes to my ring I just can't handle not having the best..or close to it. It's odd too because this is so far from the truth in the rest of my life. I mean, I'm a thrift store shopping diesel truck driving tattooed mama and I don't care who knows where I shop or that my whole outfit, shoes included cost under $30. I take pride in being thrifty. Jewelery and rings are my one exception, and I like to have top items. I am not in the slight bit jealous of people with nice shoes, designer clothes and fancy purses...but I do notice jewelery and I like to feel like I can hold my own in that arena.
And something AME said, I was an ugly duckling, and while I was sort of friends with everyone, I was not really included in cliques. If people picked on me I didn't care enough to notice...lol. But even so I do love running into people from my past and feeling I turned out better. In those cases I do like having the better jewelery, but even more so I take the most pride in having a smoking hot husband..lol. I have no idea why...must be a highschool thing because I don't feel that way at all with college friends or women whom I've had friendships with in my adult years.
Wow..that was a lot of open honesty :-)
 
#29
I think some women feel the need to get this huge engagement ring so they can feel like they look rich, even if they are. I think they do it so other women will feel inferior to them. Now, whether some ladies would admit that or not, I'm not sure.

I just got my ring, and I think it's the perfect size stone for my finger. I think anything too bug just would look silly on me, even if I could afford it.
 
#30
It definitely has some truth but it can also be a combination of factors. Of course you want to have people notice because you are so proud of your ring and getting/being married. It's not that we want to really push someone off the bus! But to me it's more that you are excited and want to share the excitement. I've never interpreted a tpf post as an I can one up you type of post. Reveals are to show how happy you are and share it! I get excited seeing other peoples new shiney things and being happy for them! For example, I completely thought about kohl getting engaged on valentines day and couldn't be more happy for her. And no way did I see that as her trying to slap it in our faces! Haha (sorry kohl for becoming my example but it's a good thing!)

Also going off what ame and sk said, I feel the same way! It's karma in a sense and I'll admit that I get happy running into old classmates who made my life miserable by harassing me in high school and finding that they may not have aged as gracefully (aka beer bellies from college, double chins etc etc) It feels good to be proud of what I've earned for myself and what I've done to shape my life the way I did. It also reminds me of how much stronger I've gotten and how they would never be able to do what they did before to me again.
 
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