That article is a complete generalization-because there ARE women out there like that, but the majority of us aren't. And I hate the guilt I get from my friends and other people in my life, like I have to lie about how much I spend because they think it's foolish even though I can afford it. I don't buy to look successful-I'd rather buy 2 pairs of expensive, good quality shoes that will last me for years than 8 cheap pairs that will hurt my feet and last a season.
It really is all about balance and keeping yourself and your money in check. As long as you have your head on straight, why not treat yourself once in a while? It was unfair that the writer grouped the responsible with the irresponsible.
MeganFM, I totally know what you mean about having some friends and family shake their finger at you when you treat yourself...which is why, I'm mum about the subject when it comes to a few people. They say "great shoes", I just say "Thanks" and smile.
I think it's insulting to generalize. Those of us who indulge wisely shouldn't be lumped in with those who don't. I get extra annoyed when women are usually the ones being chastised while the men out there who waste their cash on gadgets, cars, whatever go largely uncounted except in a general sense.
I KNOW! the response i tend to use a lot is: there are tons of people who like to buy BMWs and Audi's, like to supe up their cars with bells and whistles or love to have expensive home entertainment systems. do they "need" it? no. Do they love it and enjoy it? YES. we all have our luxuries.
Writer probably wears ugly shoes.
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However, some of the comments really got my gears a grindin':
I wear a full-face of makeup for dancing, casual dates, dinners, etc. I enjoy makeup, but I also don't make a habit of berating or complaining about my looks either. I certainly look better with makeup, but I can go out without it as well. However, I genuinely ENJOY putting on the slap - and if it were just about impressing men and getting appreciated for my sexuality, I'd be wearing the Kim K. look every damn day.
Makeup is fun and there are those of us that just like to dress up and look nice. That little polish makes us feel good in general, not because it's all about impressing men. Sadly it's women that are the harshest critics, especially in certain offices....hmm, I remember reading another article about that where even a dash of sex appeal to an outfit will cause other women in some offices to be nasty.
I didn't think there was anything offensive about it because the writer was just trying to warn women to not over spend. I do think the writer really needed to flesh out that article because it was pretty generic. However, I found many of the comments below to be sexist and offensive.
Yes, I agree the article was a warning but I guess it depends on how it translated to some. Though I definitely agree the comments that followed afterward were generalizing, sexist and offensive.
I think a lot of young women these days rely on rich men to buy them stuff... Obviously not myself, but I've seen quite a few... So most women in this category don't necessarily need to have a big bank account to have luxury items. I'd say at least 50% (maybe even 70-80%) of women who own designer goods are part of this population...
I know quite a few girls who do rely on boyfriends to buy them their luxury stuff. During university, I worked at Club Monaco part time and worked with this girl who was dating the manager of the bubble tea place in the mall. she shows up with a medium Chanel bag. Beautiful of course but wow.....the only thing i thought was "he sure had to make tons of bubble tea to get you that".
My boyfriend knows what I like but I've never asked him for anything or expect it. I'm used to buying the stuff for myself, so when he does surprise me, I am genuinely surprised and thankful.
There are a lot of people who aren't able to recognise the impracticalities associated with her (Carrie Bradshaw's) behaviour. She's never shown scouring the listings on eBay or looking in consignment shops, and really, at full price (or sale prices!) her vast designer shoe collection and wardrobe are financially unattainable for someone of her means. Not to mention the restaurants, high end coffee shops, and clubs/bars she's shown to frequent. Forget about not having a down payment for her apartment, a real person with her job and her expenses would have been out on the street by the end of Season One!
Definitely agree
Hey it's TV. With heavy subjects like relationships, we needing something pretty to look at! Carrie's lifestyle is made for TV and completely unrealistic. I remember some other article on a blog that more or less "calculated" Carrie's expenses. It was a pretty big number and yes, she would have been out on the street.
We're grown ups, if we buy something, it's because we damn well want it, not because men are looking at us or competitive women are sneering at us. Sheesh!
DAMN RIGHT!
