Of course we have discussed marriage. I am completely confident that she will say yes. I just didn't want her colleagues to secretly think her ring is too small. That's why I'm asking other women if they feel this way. But I realize that doesn't matter now. I can upgrade her ring if she wants later on down the road. I read somewhere that only 1% of women on the planet will ever have a ring bigger than 1 carat.
Will my Tiffany e-ring be big enough?
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I so agree!
If you start from nothing a tiny rock is alot. Then once you got used to it you sometimes want something bigger
. It also depends on the uses of your country. In Europe 1 ct is BIG. It is the size women dream of. None of my friends do have a 1 ct. Actually there is just one of them you even has an engagement ring. And they all make money! Most of them even more then I do!
And if the stone is 1 ct or above, most people presume it is fake. They look at your purse and clothes to figure out if you could afford a real rock.
People more likely put the money into a bigger house, a pool, a mercedes or BMW car, cruises,...
When I tell them that we up graded my ering they look at me
:weird:
.So now I just don't tell it anymore.
I just have 2 co workers that have rocks that I guess are around 1 ct. I would never ask
So I would recommand to go down in quality but to stay eye clean to approch 1 carat. If ever later the girl wants the same size with better quality she can always use the first one as a pendant. But I would bet that she would go for a bigger size instead of bether quality
I have nothing against Tiffany products, but for the price.....all you're buying is the name. I'd much rather have a larger stone, perhaps not the "Tiffany Quality" that you might get at Tiffany, and set it in something similar to what you are looking at. That's just me. Just being a Tiffany engagement ring won't make you MORE engaged to her than you would be if the ring was from Kay Jewelers or Jared. Please don't take this the wrong way and I'm certainly not trying to discount your plans for the Tiffany ring, but the stone itself is the investment, not the setting and a loose stone from Tiffany looks the same as a loose stone from Kay.
LuckyinLove: Sorry I didn't mean to offend you. I think it is very thoughtful and sweet that you are discussing it on tpf. If you are fairly confident in her response, and you are sure she would want an e-ring from Tiffany's, then go for it and best of luck. As a woman who has been engaged more than once, I can only tell you what I think from my own perspective.
No offense taken, lol. Sorry if my post gave the wrong impression. I know her heart desires a ring from Tiffany's the most. But I'm sure she would take a ring from another dealer too! 
^^ True, my dream ring is Cartier's 1895 ring.... and they have just as terrible if not more terrible mark up on rings as T&Co. For me I knew I would get a quality diamond and I just LOVED the setting for that ring. I was willing to settle for a smaller diamond for the sake of that setting.
Like I said before, DH got me larger diamond with excellent specs and I love my ring & would not give it up now, even if he offered to let me swap rings for a cartier ring... I'm sentimentally attached. How could I give up the ring he proposed with? Maybe after we've been marrried for 50 years, i'll let him do it as an anniversary present. lol
Like I said before, DH got me larger diamond with excellent specs and I love my ring & would not give it up now, even if he offered to let me swap rings for a cartier ring... I'm sentimentally attached. How could I give up the ring he proposed with? Maybe after we've been marrried for 50 years, i'll let him do it as an anniversary present. lol
I guess I'm one of the few who didn't care much what my engagement/wedding ring looked like. lol
When Hubby and I went to pick it out. I was willing (and expecting, given our income at the time) nothing more than a simple white gold band. Maybe a tiny little soltaire placed IN the band. (I hate prong settings with a passion).
But DH wouldn't tolerate that. lol
There was a gorgeous little white gold Victorian inspired setting that completely encases the diamond, with nineteen tiny diamonds around it. He got me that one. The center diamond isn't big either. I haven't the faintest clue about the color/clarity/size, I can't remember for the life of me. Don't care either, its beautiful regardless.
But I guess, for me it wasn't the ring that mattered. I could have cared less about the ring... I was excited about the MAN.
The ring was just a bonus. And the sentiment and meaning of it is more important to me than the quality, size or monetary value of it.
That and I'd feel really silly and self-concious wearing a huge stone. I'm 4'11" with small hands and huge stones are comparable to gaudy F21 costume jewelry on me.
ETA: He did say he'd upgrade it for our Fifth anniversary, but I'd rather he leave my ring alone and have a matching necklace or bracelet. lol (If the person hired to upgrade it damaged the setting. I don't think I'd ever get over it.)
When Hubby and I went to pick it out. I was willing (and expecting, given our income at the time) nothing more than a simple white gold band. Maybe a tiny little soltaire placed IN the band. (I hate prong settings with a passion).
But DH wouldn't tolerate that. lol
There was a gorgeous little white gold Victorian inspired setting that completely encases the diamond, with nineteen tiny diamonds around it. He got me that one. The center diamond isn't big either. I haven't the faintest clue about the color/clarity/size, I can't remember for the life of me. Don't care either, its beautiful regardless.
But I guess, for me it wasn't the ring that mattered. I could have cared less about the ring... I was excited about the MAN.
The ring was just a bonus. And the sentiment and meaning of it is more important to me than the quality, size or monetary value of it. That and I'd feel really silly and self-concious wearing a huge stone. I'm 4'11" with small hands and huge stones are comparable to gaudy F21 costume jewelry on me.
ETA: He did say he'd upgrade it for our Fifth anniversary, but I'd rather he leave my ring alone and have a matching necklace or bracelet. lol (If the person hired to upgrade it damaged the setting. I don't think I'd ever get over it.)
Thank you. She is actually always telling me how sweet I am! But yes, I think a 0.5-0.6 carat is really good because my mom never had a solitaire, and my close friends' parents only have small rings. Plus my friends who are married could only buy tiny diamonds. I guess I am just expressing a silly fear because I hang out with my sweety's friends alot and I have seen their huge rings.
Well, it's not a silly fear. I know you're set on Tiffany but bear with me.
When I got engaged to Mr. Bitty, we had had the ring conversation previously. He also "surprised" me. ( I say "surprised" because one shouldn't ask your pre-fiancee to go through your Palm Pilot looking for an address when you have a "LOOK FOR DIAMONDS" appointment front and center!) I had told him I didn't even need a diamond -- that something interesting like a ruby was fine. He insisted because "this is how men are judged" and was dead set on a diamond. He was unemployed at the time and really spent a lot. However, there is no way he would have gotten the quality he did for the same price at Tiffany's. In fact, we talked about Tiffany's. We lived in the Marina in San Francisco (a very yuppie neighborhood) and everyone was getting the Tiffany settings.
What he decided to do is price a good quality LOOSE stone at the carat weight he could afford. It turned out to be a 1.5 carat princess cut with excellent quality. He then went to a jewelry artist, absconded with my favorite ring (a hand me down from Grandma) to show the artist my taste. The setting was perfect, designed specifically for me.
Everyone, and I mean everyone, comments on my ring. They say it is absolutely beautiful. I would never 'trade up' -- even though we could probably afford something bigger now. This ring is evidence how he feels about me. He took the time to design to my taste. That's better than any Tiffany ring I can see on the person next to me in a restaurant. And it cost him MUCH less.
Buy her a Tiffany necklace or rings for her birthdays. Whenever someone dies or an event of personal meaning happens to me, I buy a piece of Tiffany jewelry to remind me of it. If she associates Tiffany with birthdays or Christmas or whatever, I'm pretty sure you'd be off the hook for engagement.
I agree with you! I can tell from the quality setting that Tiffany stands for. I wouldn't want to save money to go for a non Tiffany e-ring.
I have a 1 carat Tiffany ring and I have received countless compliments on it!!!
Besides, when ppl find out it's from Tiffany, you will soon hear "WOW" from women. Sometimes I don't even need to tell ppl that's it's Tiffany and they would ask me "Is it from Tiffany" themselves!
But my question is this: would you have been "less engaged" if the ring had been purchased at Cartier, Harry Winston or even Kay? It just seems to me that there is too much importance being put on where the e-ring comes from and not enough importance being put on what the ring stands for. I apologize if this seems combative, and it's really not meant to be that way at all. All I'm saying is that it looks like there is way too much emphasis being put on name brands. If I had told my husband 14 years ago when we got engaged that I wouldn't settle for a ring that didn't come from Tiffany, I wouldn't have gotten ANY ring.
I think you should get her what you think she would like best, and if that is Tiffanys then so be it! Although I personally couldn't make my fiance spend more than he could afford comfortably so we went the other way and I am pleased with what we got for the money spent. 
Oh and good luck! I am sure whatever you choose she will love!
Oh and good luck! I am sure whatever you choose she will love!
I'm going to agree with this. Since you're getting a Tiffany princess cut I think its going to be a pretty standard look and you'll be able to get much bigger for your budget elsewhere. Try pricescope.
My DH had a certain budget in mind and actually I ended up asking him to spend more (now I'm sure this is freaking a bunch of people out but my DH is very conservative with money but we both earn alot as attorneys). Frankly, he was happy we went up to a 1.1 ct since almost everyone I know has around that, some bigger, some smaller.
Its not important what others think, but then again you're going to take a huge cut in size to go with Tiffany's. And since she's not stuck on a legacy or brand specific ring, I think the advice to get a non-Tiffany ring is good.
Really? Mine has never gotten stuck on anything? I think the high setting makes it pop more - lol, to each their own, right!
Anyways, I prefer the lucida to the princess cut --- never been a fan of that cut --- but she likes what she likes!
