Why do I care what others think...does anyone else do the same?!

[nattle]

Keep this gorgeous bag because you love and deserve it.

I'd be annoyed with bf too - sounds like my friend's bf too. I'd give him some bollocking then leave the topic. Next time, be wise and don't let him know the price tag. My DH doesn't know my purchases most of the time (or he prefers not knowing it!) fortunately!

To the people who are jealous or sarcastic about your bag, just be bold and straight forward with them. This is the bag you love and don't give it up for some petty people. I have a friend who's always jealous about my expensive purchases (she earns a lot but not willing to spend on anything) and she has learnt to suck it up eventually.

 

[nattle]

You don't think older people are incapable of jealousy? They are. They think, "I'm older and make more money, why don't I have a luxurious bag?". One time in a shop I carried my LV Alma Vernis in PM and an old lady said to her friend, "Must be fake, she's too young to afford an expensive bag". I just looked at them with a disgusted face and stroked my bag lovingly. Lol.

LOL hilarious - they should check out what teenage girls wear nowadays! My friend has bought a Celine bag and Cartier ring for her 16 years old daughter!

 

[westvillage]

This is a relationship thread, really. Bf essentially tainted a purchase you were excited about--he made you feel awkward and disregarded your feelings, and that's worse than what others think, since it's your chosen personal life.

Your beautiful bag does not look like plastic.

Best to address this issue with the bf and get square on whether he understands and cares about this behavior.

This comment nails the underlying issues, IMO.

 

[Nanciii]

Non sense! This bag is beautiful, vernis is my favourite, I dunno how on earth can people confuse it with plastic, they obviously have bad taste.

Be proud of your bag, don't let people tell you otherwise!


Happiness is not about how much you have, but how little you need.

 

[Manelieht]

You don't think older people are incapable of jealousy? They are. They think, "I'm older and make more money, why don't I have a luxurious bag?". One time in a shop I carried my LV Alma Vernis in PM and an old lady said to her friend, "Must be fake, she's too young to afford an expensive bag". I just looked at them with a disgusted face and stroked my bag lovingly. Lol.

Very true! Older people can be pretty mean sometimes even. My neighbor looks me up and down every time I see here and I even overheard her talking badly about how I dress.

Stick to what you like. Stand your ground.
Personally, I used to be like you, until I decided that I am free to do what I want as long as I don't hurt anyone....

Me too. I used to worry about what I'm wearing and how others perceive it. Now I don't care at all anymore and I feel so much better. I also get less negative comments now because I'm sure of myself and will even shoot back.

 

[TejasMama]

I can definitely understand why you'd be upset with your BF. Spending on certain items should remain private if you choose because it can bring along unsolicited comments and judgments. I know it's easy to say, "Just enjoy it and do what you want," but the reality is that this purchase has been colored with these bad experiences and others' opinions.

I also see why you are hesitant about it being too 'in your face.' I've loved some styles but realized that I just wasn't comfortable carrying them due to logos or other outward labels. As you said, it's a substantial amount of money so make sure you would really love and enjoy this bag and carry it without regret if you're going to keep it. I get the sense that it is a combination of issues--starting off with your bf's sharing the price--that are causing you to doubt the purchase.

If you really love it and will carry it without concern, keep it. If you have doubts, get your money back while you can and consider something else maybe in the same vernis but that would be more comfortable for you.

Either way, I'd leave the bf at home next time and never divulge what you pay for anything to him. If you aren't married, it isn't any of his business.

 

[nikki2304]

Thank you all for your kind words. I felt really silly about it all but it helps that you guys can understand why I have between feeling this way.

Bf has said he never wants to hear of handbags again so I will not be divulging the cost in future, or I will tell him it was really half the cost it actually was to make life easier. We are not married and both earn exactly the same per month and I ask for no financial support from him or anyone so noone else's business.

People have viewed the bag differently just because they are in completely different situations where they would never have been able to afford such a purchase so I think they probably expect fireworks to explode when you open it or for a genie to pop out or something because of the cost! They have no concept of high end designers and so their opinions are worthless.

After trying it on I am happy with my purchase and this experience has taught me to do my best to
Change and care less of others and their opinions. I would feel defeated if I returned it. And as someone mentioned earlier if it wasn't a nice design it would be discontinued!

 

[barskin]

Ok so I finally managed to purchase a bag I've wanted for ages which is the Louis Vuitton Alma in amarante MM size. My bf has went and told everyone how much I paid for this bag despite me telling him not too. Now everyone is passing comments as because it's vernis is doesn't look like its worth it and calling me crazy etc as it looks like plastic so on...

And also I've had no compliments lol! I just get the 'oh right, yeh' stare when people see it. Now I don't think this is jealousy as these are from older people that have no care for fashion. But it has made me feel insecure about my purchase and I am considering returning the item as £1580 is a lot of money to spend for people to be confusing it with plastic!!

I just wanted to see if anyone else has had similar experiences or if I am just being pathetic lol!!

Wait, wait...LV vernis looks like plastic to them? Have they never experienced patent leather before? I think vernis Almas are absolutely stunning. Please don't feel insecure. You own a gorgeous, quality handbag that you've always wanted. Enjoy it!

 

[*schmoo*]

Thank you all for your kind words. I felt really silly about it all but it helps that you guys can understand why I have between feeling this way....

People have viewed the bag differently just because they are in completely different situations where they would never have been able to afford such a purchase so I think they probably expect fireworks to explode when you open it or for a genie to pop out or something because of the cost! They have no concept of high end designers and so their opinions are worthless.

After trying it on I am happy with my purchase and this experience has taught me to do my best to
Change and care less of others and their opinions. I would feel defeated if I returned it. And as someone mentioned earlier if it wasn't a nice design it would be discontinued!

I noticed if I'm around people who don't care a whit about fashion (nothing wrong with that), they are more likely to be critical. So, you might have gotten the same reaction with any designer bag. Enjoy your Alma!

 

[CornishMon]

Honey enjoy that beautiful bag you saved up to buy. Obviously you liked it enough to purchase so do not let anyone steal your joy. Let me ask you a question? When you were in LV purchasing your bag were all these people on your mind? Were you expecting people to compliment you and fall over themselves when they saw it? I doubt the first answer is yes and the second should be no as well. We buy things that make us happy not other people happy. And if your doing the opposite it is a waste of time, energy and money! Keep that in mind every time you wear your bag.


Worrying about what people think and say is useless stress no one needs.


Be Blessed MoNikki

 

[slowlikehoney]

Keep the bag!
Dump the guy.

Lol! Just kidding... Kinda.

 

[lovingmybags]

Ok, if that's not jealousy, then I don't know what it is...Otherwise, they either wouldn't know about these brands, or couldn't care less. Personally, nothing can keep my hands off from the LV vernis! LV vernis like plastic? People who don't know what they're talking should keep their mouths shut. If I were you, I would show my bag off to them on purpose , and wear it to the best of health!

 

[SWlife]

I'm one of those "older" people and I mind my own business. My friends are just like me too. We don't judge, we sure don't make snarky comments.
And your bf... you told him not to tell anyone what you spent. And he did anyway. He's is not acting respectful of your wishes.
If you love your bag, then that should be the end of the story.

 

[luluhalabaloo]

The vernis is gorgeous, first of all. Second of all, NEVER tell your boyfriend what you spent on anything. Ever. Or your family. I only tell my best girlfriend, and she lives 2000 miles away! What you value is your business. My mom won't spend more than $40 on a bag, yes, you heard right. She wears a vinyl one right now, ech. But, when we go for dinner or something, I am wearing my Balenciaga or my Chanel or my LV or my Celine, and she ALWAYS knows these are very, very good bags and she ogles them and truly appreciates them. Handbags are investments for women. We can wear them and we can sell them and they say volumes about who you are as a person and what you value. I may dress sometimes pretty darn blah, but I carry one of my hard to find designer bags, and I always get treated with respect but not snottily, which I love. Girls will ask me questions about it, I seem approachable but also they appreciate that I have taste, but don't flaunt it. A great handbag can be all the accessory you need, and you can save a fortune in clothes, believe me. I go to a lot of functions, and I always wear basic black, and my bag does the delivery for me. Trust me, keep your bag, never ever ever ever go shopping for something like that with BF again, and never tell anyone what you spent.

 

[slowlikehoney]

The vernis is gorgeous, first of all. Second of all, NEVER tell your boyfriend what you spent on anything. Ever. Or your family. I only tell my best girlfriend, and she lives 2000 miles away! What you value is your business. My mom won't spend more than $40 on a bag, yes, you heard right. She wears a vinyl one right now, ech. But, when we go for dinner or something, I am wearing my Balenciaga or my Chanel or my LV or my Celine, and she ALWAYS knows these are very, very good bags and she ogles them and truly appreciates them. Handbags are investments for women. We can wear them and we can sell them and they say volumes about who you are as a person and what you value. I may dress sometimes pretty darn blah, but I carry one of my hard to find designer bags, and I always get treated with respect but not snottily, which I love. Girls will ask me questions about it, I seem approachable but also they appreciate that I have taste, but don't flaunt it. A great handbag can be all the accessory you need, and you can save a fortune in clothes, believe me. I go to a lot of functions, and I always wear basic black, and my bag does the delivery for me. Trust me, keep your bag, never ever ever ever go shopping for something like that with BF again, and never tell anyone what you spent.

This is all such good advice.
And what's funny is that my mom is the same exact way, but she always ends up finding fabulous gorgeous leather bags in her price range. She recently found one at a garage sale!