My fiancee picked out my ring and I was totally (pleasantly) surprised. I knew he was ring shopping, and he has very good taste, so I didn't even think twice. I just love my ring because he chose it for me. After he proposed, and the ring was on my finger, he said, "I couldn't wait to see it on your finger." I thought that was so cute!
Who should pick out e-rings? Girls or guys?
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that is so sweet... 
I consider myself an oldfashioned kinda girl, but when it comes to something I will be wearing for the rest of my life, I want to pick what that something will be.
I want my boyfriend to pick out the ring and surprise me! He knows what styles I like, and don't like, because we have gone in jewelry stores just browsing. It's funny though one ring I pointed out, he was like NO. I was like why not?? He then told me that it was too small 
he has got a good taste, and in the end I don't care if it's the ugliest ring in the world, he is asking me to marry him!
he has got a good taste, and in the end I don't care if it's the ugliest ring in the world, he is asking me to marry him!
I want to pick out my e-ring style, but have my bf actually pick out the diamond. We are both pharmacy students and will be graduating in one year. I would like to show him the styles I like this summer, then let him pick out the ring and diamond next year after we graduate (and he has some money). That way it will be a surprise, but he will know what I like.
I think guys should pick out e-rings, coz is like a test, and he proves he knows your likes and dislikes!
Besides, is much more exciting to be proposed with the original ring!
Besides, is much more exciting to be proposed with the original ring!
This man is very, very wise and I agree 100%.
I recently got engaged and my man spent hours and hours having a hard time at the jewelery store, but it was so worth it.
I would never have picked the ring he chose, but when he proposed and put the ring on my finger, it was all I ever wanted.
It is very beautiful, but not in an obvious way, it is kind of raw, somewhat different and yet very special. My love said that it suits my character, and that is such a great thing. Sometimes we want something for ourselves that we're just not, and it is such a great feeling to have someone who knows you and who sees what expresses you best.
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i have to say that i am in complete agreement with this also. how wise.
when DF proposed, i HAD NO IDEA... i knew the time was coming because we were definitely at that point in our relationship, and i could tell he was saving money. but in the end, he blew me away... when he got down on the knee and i saw the ring, i was in complete shock - it was EXACTLY what i wanted: emerald cut, simple solitaire platinum band setting. i was amazed how he got it right - we'd never discussed or mentioned diamond rings before (although he is very perceptive and knows my jewelry style), but it turns out when the time came, he found one of my best friends on facebook and emailed her asking for her help - what a smart man! of course, she knew exactly what i wanted as we had talked about it many times before.
i am so touched thinking about DF going to jewelry and diamond stores, researching everything himself, and in the end, picking out the perfect stone for me. there is something so special about that, which i think you lose if you pick out the ring together.
believe me, i am a VERY PICKY person, and i don't know what i would have done if he picked out something i hated... but the fact that he did it by himself, AND GOT IT RIGHT definitely says something to me.
(the only thing he got wrong was the ring size
... he had no idea as i don't own a ring for my ring finger, and they advised him to go with the popular 6... turns out i am a 3.5! so i had the setting changed to my smaller ring size, but otherwise, everything is the same)i know different people like to do it differently, but i'm just saying how for me, i would never have wanted to go ring shopping together...
I chose my ring because that is what worked for us. We went shopping one day together and visited T&Co. I had thought I knew what I wanted but after 20 minutes in a jewelry store I realized I had no idea. FI thinks I'm super picky which I disagree with LOL but he was afraid he would get something I wouldn't like. Personally, I was happy to spend a couple more days looking at jewelry stores to find a ring I really wanted. We ended up getting an estate T&Co ring for almost 50% off on eBay. I found it, I decided I wanted it, and I did all the research.
In our relationship I pick out almost all my gifts- I rarely get surprises and it doesn't bother me, since the idea of picking out a gift makes FI nervous. What matters to me is that in the end, I have a beautiful ring that symbolizes the fact that I will spend the rest of my life with a man I love who loves me. I think couples should do what works for them.
In our relationship I pick out almost all my gifts- I rarely get surprises and it doesn't bother me, since the idea of picking out a gift makes FI nervous. What matters to me is that in the end, I have a beautiful ring that symbolizes the fact that I will spend the rest of my life with a man I love who loves me. I think couples should do what works for them.
My dh and I had looked at rings, so he had a basic idea of what I liked. But he did not purchase anything while I was there, and the engagement was a complete surprise. So I guess we had it both ways. I didn't know exactly what he would choose or when he would ask, but he had a basic idea of the things I liked.
my husband and i both went into the jeweler and picked it out together. but i have to admit, it was mostly me picking it out. my husband has no taste whatsoever—and he openly admits this—so i would be scared to see what he would ultimately have picked out. no offense, but if the woman is the one that has to wear the ring, why not have her pick it out in the first place? i mean, wouldn't it suck if the guy purchased a ring, and deep down the woman hates it but wears it anyway? to me, it doesn't make the proposal or engagement any less special because of that. unless the guy is 100% certain which ring she would want, i say i don't see a problem with the woman picking it out.
besides, i picked it out and he went back a week or so later and bought it. i had no idea where, when or how he was going to propose. he did get on his knee and proposed to me in a horse & carriage ride in vail (my favorite ski resort) and he had the ring hidden in the hood compartment of his ski jacket. he kept telling me to unzip it because "something" was in there bothering him.
at this point, i had no clue what he was up to and i thought it was the most amazing, imaginative proposal. so at that point, the fact that i chose the ring, wasn't an issue at all.
but, to each their own.
besides, i picked it out and he went back a week or so later and bought it. i had no idea where, when or how he was going to propose. he did get on his knee and proposed to me in a horse & carriage ride in vail (my favorite ski resort) and he had the ring hidden in the hood compartment of his ski jacket. he kept telling me to unzip it because "something" was in there bothering him.
at this point, i had no clue what he was up to and i thought it was the most amazing, imaginative proposal. so at that point, the fact that i chose the ring, wasn't an issue at all.
but, to each their own.
Personally, I don't know how a guy can propose without the ring. 
Kinda ruins the surprise? My bf knows what styles I like..and he has good taste in jewelry. It's more special if he pics it out..in my opinion.
But like some of you mentioned...to each their own.
Kinda ruins the surprise? My bf knows what styles I like..and he has good taste in jewelry. It's more special if he pics it out..in my opinion.But like some of you mentioned...to each their own.
My fiance and I went ring shopping together but he originally had been shopping beforehand. We recently moved to a new place where we didn't know anyone so he didn't have the luxury of asking people we knew to help him choose. He said he was shopping for about 3 months before I found out x__X (he could never keep a secret from me... I wasn't even trying to fish any information out when he told me lol..). But I think he knew what I liked but I think he couldn't make the decision about which ring to get cause he was always nervous about picking the right one. He also said that he was always pressured by the jeweler and whenever he felt that way he would just leave. We both hate it when SAs have the "buy it now!! or else we'll snicker at your back" attitude but I found that when we went together we got less of that attitude from the jewelers. But I'm glad we went together. It took us another 3 months to finally decide which one to get. I wouldn't trade the experience at all. Like another poster said we were like a team and it was really fun to see him really think about which one to get. In the end we were conflicted between two rings but he made the final decision. So even though I didn't get the romantic surprise down on one knee story, I still get the butterfly feeling whenever I look at my ring. He really cared about making me happy and when he put the ring on my finger I still cried and felt very very loved.
I would want to pick out the ring together. I wouldn't wear a ring I really don't like, so what would be the point? I would end up just returning it/trading it which is a big hassle and probably a money-loser. I wouldn't try to pick out his wedding band on my own, I have no clue what another person wants no matter how well I know them, mainly b/c I can't even figure out what I want for myself until actually comparing many options. But then, I think an out of the blue surprise proposal is just crazy, if I was really that blindsided it basically means we haven't had any important talks about the future which is something I would need to have happen before I would accept a proposal anyway.
It's way too subjective and depends on each couple. After all, it's not always the men who do the proposing, yanno! I say whatever's right for the two involved. Factors like the personality of each person, the nature of their relationship, how long they've been together, same sex versus opposite sex marriage, etc.
For me, my husband and I chose our wedding bands together (there was no engagement ring - too young and poor!) and for our 10-year anniversary I chose and bought myself a diamond ring (which I have upgraded about 4 times now, hee-hee). My brother and his partner chose their commitment bands together. My best friend's boyfriend, in cahoots with yours truly, picked the ring out himself and it was a total surprise to her, though she very thoroughly briefed me on what she liked, lol.
Personally, I'm way too impatient and not too keen on surprises. When I was pregnant, I had to find out the sex of our daughter as soon as humanly possible! My best friend, on the other hand, loves surprises and when she was pregnant she decided to wait until the birth to find out. So these personality traits are consistent across the board
For me, my husband and I chose our wedding bands together (there was no engagement ring - too young and poor!) and for our 10-year anniversary I chose and bought myself a diamond ring (which I have upgraded about 4 times now, hee-hee). My brother and his partner chose their commitment bands together. My best friend's boyfriend, in cahoots with yours truly, picked the ring out himself and it was a total surprise to her, though she very thoroughly briefed me on what she liked, lol.
Personally, I'm way too impatient and not too keen on surprises. When I was pregnant, I had to find out the sex of our daughter as soon as humanly possible! My best friend, on the other hand, loves surprises and when she was pregnant she decided to wait until the birth to find out. So these personality traits are consistent across the board