I went to my jeweler to get my ring cleaned yesterday and he commented on how nervous my husband was when he bought my ring two years ago. He said he sat in the shop for five hours debating over every single style, and what I would like. He then said how sad he is whenever he sees a couple come in together and pick out a ring - he's old school Italian and I guess he just felt that the guy should pick out the ring and have the proposal be a surprise. I asked, "But what if the girl doesn't like the ring?" He said, "One, the guy shouldn't be asking her to marry him if he doesn't know her style, or doesn't bother to ask around with her friends and such what her style might be. Second, I tell each guy, if she doesn't want to marry you because of a ring, then don't marry her." What he said got me thinking. I know a lot of couples now pick out their rings ahead of time, but doesn't that kind of lose the surprise element of the proposal? I mean, the act of proposal itself can be a surprise (like how is he going to do it? when?) but you already know it's coming because you saw him lay down his credit card. I have a couple of guy friends that decided to do a formal marriage proposal (with the whole crowds watching and everything), sans ring. They picked out a ring after the proposal. My e-ring and proposal was a complete surprise, which was great for me, but I am also not a jewelry person so I wouldn't have cared what my ring ultimately looked like (lucky for me, he did great!). For the girls who DO enjoy jewelry, do you want to pick out your ring before the proposal? Or do what my friends did and be surprised and then pick it out afterwards? Or do you want your guys to pick it out on their own, after getting hints on your taste and style?